How did you handle the situation?

Question

Have you ever had a jealous mate?Did the relationship become violent?
I met someone online. He and I have not met in person yet. We have been talking on the phone and chating online.I asked him about his past relationships.He told me that his past girlfriends said that he was too jealous.When he told me that I became worried.Should I continue to talk with him?

Answer 1

A person that has never dealt with jealousy .. does not know what they are getting into.

There is a defintion of jealousy .. "a green-eyed monster who rears it's ugly head" .. that is jealousy .. and it is the truth about it being ugly.

Jealousy can make another person's life completely & totally miserable .. and can actually RUIN their life.

"Jealousy" ... is a personal problem of the person who is jealous ... however - they ruin other people's lives .. ruin relationships .. makes every single day of other people's lives miserable .. and is more than 100% miserable themselves.

A jealous person destroys so much. It also depends on the degree of jealousy a person has .. and how they control it .. but I am mainly referring to a person who is extremely jealous.

An extremely jealous person thinks .. and imagines .. all sorts of things. For example .. I know a lady who told this simple story .. she said she was traveling with her husband in a far away city - where she knew no other person. They were in their car together & alone. She said they drove out of the large city .. mixed with heavy other traffic .. and she raised her head .. looked out the window .. and her husband went crazy .. he accused her of looking at some man in another car .. when she said she didn't even look at any other person .. and the ride home was very bad. He was angry .. there was a fight .. etc ... all for nothing at all.

Then .. there are jealous people who ARE violent.

There are jeoulous spouses who never want the other spouse to leave the house .. not have any other friends .. go shopping .. or anything else that involves another person. I have heard of a husband who was jealous if his wife talked on the phone to her Mother ... and the jealous husband wanted his wife to sit right beside him while he watched all the television shows that he liked .. and his wife hated .. but he was jealous & controlling even if she got up to go to the rest room.

Extreme jealousy is dangerous .. destroying .. and awful. And even though the jealous resides within the person that is jealous .. the burden is put on all the people who they are to love .. and it ruins lives.

Tread carefully.

Answer 2

There are different levels of jealousy and you don't know what the girl did to get his goat up. Maybe she went out flirting with every boy in town, and he didn't like that. In your opinion, would you consider anything he did too jealous? Also, if he had a violent jealousy problem, my guess is he wouldn't want to tell you about it, as you might worry too much. Just ask him up front which lines shouldn't be crossed with him.

Answer 3

You know a little bit of jealosy can make you feel loved but some people can take it to far and this could lead to violence and stalking. He put up a red flag. Please take this warning he gave you, and it is a warning!

Answer 4

This is a huge red flag. I would back off from this guy. He gave you the warning now heed it.

Answer 5

if they can admit to being too jealous.....discontinue this person.. it is not fun cause they constantly accuse u of doing wrong. not fun let me tell u. you will be subjected to verbal abuse like all the time. careful girl........

Answer 6

Never meet someone online. You don't know what you might get yourself into.

Answer 7

well atleast he is honest, alot more than you can say about the rest of them

Answer 8

I would be very cautious if I were you.

Answer 9

be careful