I don't know who are my true friends anymore.?

Question

so its friday alone here, because of my so called "best friends"
they basically just left me out. sorry if i sound like i'm complaining but i'm just upset, not only did they lie to my face about hanging out. they had to make up a bad excuse for it. I'm sick of their lies, and espeically one of them only caring about herself. She is my best friend and we have so much fun together, but she knows nothing about me because she is constantly talking about herself. She only does something when it works to her favor, if plans don't work out with us, she'll find someone else to hang out with and not even care or ask about how i feel. Idk what do to? Its so confusing, but thats what high school is about.

I just had to vent this out.

Thanks for all the help.
it really made me think about everything.
i'm not going to let this put me down, and i'm going to reevaluate the definition of a true friend.

Answer 1

Tell her what you feel.

If she realizes what she's has been doin' to you; then she might be a better friend but if not, she's no friend and besides; there are 8 billion people on this world, she's not the last resort for you!

Cheer up and keep living.

Answer 2

I hope you feel better now. Yeah BF's are tough to figure out. The problem is that you think they all think like you. You are probably loyal as can be, would never plan a friday night without including your bf, you always listen to what makes her happy. BUT she isn't you, she has her own mind, and obviously shes not 1/2 the girl you are. And guess what, she never will be. The only way to get someone like that to come around, is to find some new friends. This will make her super jealous, and she either will become a really good friend, or she will not care. If she becomes a really good friend then good for both of you. If she dont care, then you dont need a bf like that anyway.
Try to remember that your a good person, with a stupid friend right now, and dont be too hard on yourself. I can tell by your question that you're really nice, so just try to chill out tonight, and forget about her for now.

Answer 3

Been there, done that, honey.

What you have to do now is to evaluate and place a value on your friendship with her. Is it worth it being friends with such a person? On the friendship scale (and keeping in mind her behavior), where would you place her - a friend, an acquaintance?

If she doesn't act how a best friend should be, then move on. But if you still want to give her a chance, tell her how you feel and work things out.

I had a close friend in high school and now that we've graduated and on different paths, we meet up sometimes for coffee. But like you, I've begun to notice that all she does is talk about herself. All I do now is to savor my cup of java nicely and let her waste her spit. :)

Best wishes.

Answer 4

I know how that feels.

Unfortunately, many (not all, but many) people are just that way. The are too selfish to care about others all the time. Their top priority is just to have fun and entertain them self, and they go with whoever that can do that with them at that moment. It's sort of like, they come when you're having fun, and completely forgets about you when you're not.

I have such friends before, and I thought they were my friends too. I was wrong, these people don't make a good friend.

Well, she's out there with her other friends, you should too finds your own friends, preferably one that doesn't ditch you when he/she doesn't needs you.

Answer 5

have you ever heard the saying that says "a friend in need is a friend indeed." the friend that will be there for you whenever you you need them most is most likely the real one..

here this might help...

FAKE FRIENDS:Never ask for food.
REAL FRIENDS:are the reason you have no food.

FAKE FRIENDS:Call your parents Mr/Mrs
REAL FRIENDS:Call your parents DAD/MOM

FAKE FRIENDS:never seen you cry.
REAL FRIENDS:cry with you

FAKE FRIENDS:Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
REAL FRIENDS:keep your shirt so long they forget its yours.

FAKE FRIENDS:know a few things about you.
REAL FRIENDS:Could write a book about you with direct quotes from you.

FAKE FRIENDS:Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
REAL FRIENDS:Will kick the whole crowds that left you.

FAKE FRIENDS:Would knock on your front door.
REAL FRIENDS:Walk right in and say "I'M HOME!"

FAKE FRIENDS:Are for a while.
REAL FRIENDS:Are for life.

Answer 6

It is very clear, they are not your friends, they just use you when they need someone. You don't know anything about them.
Find yourself some other friends and get to know them. Don't ponder over this, because you are waisting you time. It's Friday, rent a funny movie, make some popcorn and have some ice cream. Tomorrow is a new day.

Answer 7

And again, everyone tells you should tell them and express your feelings to her. I express my feelings whenever my friends have an attitude problem. Real friends would actually care about you and your problems.
Even your best friend in High School, might change all of a sudden. It's what adolescence does to people.

Answer 8

True friends know and don't have to be called or asked they just show up after a while give them some room. the time of your life is coming so and real friends will want to be there!

Answer 9

it might get better or worse when u enter college
being lonely is better than having this person as a best friend
get rid of them all....try to find ppl u click with and this is going to take realy long time (it depends) because its not an easy thing
get ur self busy with something so u dont think about them

Answer 10

Hey, hang in there. Some people are just like this! I'm sure you have other friends, right? You need to spen you time with friends that want to spen time with you. This girl probably just wants to talk to you because you have been there for her before and her other friends havn't, am I right in saying this? Find some friends and spend time with people who really want to spend time with you!