Ladies only please?

Question

Ok here it goes...
I was checking on my hubby's question like he asked me to and well I then happen to noticed a question he answered and the name kinda looked like something by hubby would use and so I clicked on it and the question was very fa miler to mine and my husbands life's so I started to think maybe it was one of the other accounts he has on here because I know he has quit a few I am just not sure what they are and then I ran across more questions that were fa miler to our lives and then I knew ok this is defiantly him and then I ran across this question.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjOuk7_mrLmofpe1XFPObfLty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070710161459AAgilZa

What would you think if you found out that your husband was asking a question like this because right now I am really upset should I approach him about this and if so how would you approach your husband?

*_* Katerrr...I am defiantly sure it is him because of the other questions that were asked

Answer 1

Maybe hes looking for advice on how to please you. Sounds like he wants to be creative sexually but needs a lil coaching. Personally, I would prefer my husband to come to me with questions like these because they are so personal. He may be a lil embarrassed and thinks he might sound stupid if he asks you directly. If it were me, I would ask about it in a non confrontational manner. Dont put him on the defensive, because then he will either evade the question, or deny it, and that wont get you anywhere. Let him know that its ok for him to come to you with questions like that and you wont think less of him or judge him.

Answer 2

Well if it were me I'd be a little upset, just because that's a private thing to ask........your mate. Not a general "ladies one and all.....tell me your climax stories!!!!"
I would apporach him when your not so upset. Because maybe he was enquiring with you in mind, and appoaching him with a fired up anger may really embarase him or make him feel bad for something he didn't have bad intent about.
And if it is being stupid online you'll still be about to judge by his response when your cooled down.

Answer 3

Talk to him about it. Tell him that you know the types of questions he is asking other women. It does seem a bit appropriate for him to be asking strange women these questions, yet he may be asking for ways to be better that way for you. A lot of men have one track minds and it could be that in his mind this is how he can be a better husband!

Answer 4

If that is the question you are referring to then it could possibly be him trying to find other ways to satisfy you. It's not the best way to go about it, but it's a possibility. I would just ask him. But me and my husband are pretty open and up front with each other, but communication is the key. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

trust i belive is the number one in relationships.. i dont think you should be upset maybe he is jsut curious, however its weird he just didnt ask you unless you dont have very open communication. I say you should ask him if he has other accounts and what kinds of stuff he asks and see if he tells you. if not dont worry about it.. Its not like he was looking to cheat on you, rather it seems he wanted to make you happier.

Answer 6

Well, ok, here goes, I believe your hubby is as sneaky as mine is, he is always asking questions and trying to get answers to these because he is so horny all the time, he will ask women questions like how long does it take for them to have an orgasm, etc, etc. then he gets all excited after reading them, and masturbates thinking of this, its a form of cheating in his mind in my opinion.

Answer 7

Well there is no real way to know for sure it is him unless you have his account information. I would just ask him out of curiosity. We gals are not the easiest to understand. If he loves you and is faithful to you, then the only real reason why I would see that he would ask something like that is becuase he doesn't know.

Answer 8

i think i would get upset a little too, its normal. but maybe he is just trying to find new ways to help you in that area, or maybe he just wants to try them and see if they work. im not justifying what he did. but if you are really upset or worried, just sit him down and tell him how you feel about that question, tell him that it makes you feel insecure, and if he wanted to know private things like that, he should talk to you first, and see how you feel.

Answer 9

I am a young married woman and I am doing my best (my part & my responsibility) to help my marriage survive. God hates divorce and so do I. So in order to avoid it I am praying and educating myself. It is a job that I have to do every single day. And to tell you the truth it is not easy at all. I have been reading and listening a lot about marriage lately. How ever even if money and sex are big factors in marriage; I have found out and I have seen in my marriage as well the most difficult things in married couples are:
1. Communication problem - I mean you know what I’m talking about. You say something absolutely positive and your met understand it in a totally different way. I mean why? What happened to the words as they go to his/her ear?
a. May be the way you said it was wrong (meaning your voice tone)
b. You said it in wrong time. (Remember even right things when they are said on wrong time can be wrong as well)
c. Level of understanding
2. High Expectation – Expecting the other to be perfect; Instead of focusing on me trying to improving my character, and my way of living to help the marriage work; focusing on the other person fault. This is going to make the marriage even worse. As you focus on the other person you forget to “evaluate” your self and if you don’t have time to evaluate yourself how can you improve; if you don’t have room to improve your character why should you expect him/her to do so. If you want it to work forget trying to fix him/her and focus on yourself. Ask God to help you see yourself; ask him to give you wisdom as to how you should speak, treat, and live with your mate. You won’t believe the result. You will be amazed …you’ll see all kind of things about your self that you don’t even know you had it.
3. Not Pray together – We need to pray for one another and we need to pray together as well. This is the most important of all and I can’t emphasize it enough. Study shows the couple who pray together have a lot less chance of getting divorce. Be equally yolk. Know the word of God. Pray even about every little thing. Pray so that you can be a great communicator. Pray so that God will be glorified in your marriage. Pray about raising kids…I mean I can go on…and on I hope you got the idea.
4. Not forgiving – please forgive your mate. Remember how many times God forgiven you.
5. Pride
Let us keep praying and asking God to give us wisdom as to how we should live our married life as a christian. Please remember your kids as well and don’t be selfish they are the one who get hurt most. It is not worth to leave your mate for some silly reason that you can even live without.
Remember God is faithful what happened to others doesn’t mean it will happen to you and me. Pray…and learn from others. And stop using the ‘D...’ word in your marriage that is not a choice. If it gets more complicated than this sick advice from someone whom you trust (christian) with experience (christian counseler)
God bless you,

Answer 10

my first reaction would be the same as yours, however since this is not my husband, maybe he is asking to find better ways to please you. however if you are having problems in your marriage, i would ask about his other accounts he has and see if he mention that one to you. and ask about the question, however he could be checking on you as you looked at his even though he asked.