i have. i'm 19 and the guy is 22. he got married bec. he got his girl pregnant. he said that he doesnt really love her but had no other options but to marry her. they are living together.
We go to the same school and attend same classes.
I stopped seeing him now, because it's wrong but i still love him. he said he's going to file an annulment, so we could be together. i told him not to and stay together for the baby.
not that i'm concerned about the baby actually i just dont want to be involved with their issues anymore, although i know i've ruined it their marriage already... now he still tries to work it out and bec we still see each other at school, it gets more difficult.
I feel guilty about it. I feel also bad for the girl and the baby.
What do I do to get rid of him and to get over him?
I know what i did was bad and i am sincerely sorry about it.
2007-11-16 13:51:04 · 7 answers · asked by Hoola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are always other options. You do not marry someone for the baby. You also should not stay together for the baby. She deserves to be happy and having a cheating spouse is not going to make her happy. If he wants out he should quit wasting her time and get out so she also could find someone that she loves that loves her back. Even though you slept with a married man you did not ruin his marriage, he did. He is the one that took vows and made a promise to his wife to always love her and to fore sake others. I think that if you do get together with him he will eventually cheat on you also. Most of them do. I hope that you sort this out.
2007-11-16 13:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did get myself into a relationship like that, years ago. Looking back, I know what a JOKE it was and guess what, the joke was on me. This man is telling you what you want to hear........I'm glad you stopped seeing him because he has absolutely no intention of getting an "annulment" and he didn't get married because she was pregnant, he got married because he wanted to. And him telling you that he "really doesn't love her but doesn't have any other options" is the oldest one in the book.
What to do to get rid of him--change your email address, change your phone number, and just keep busy with other things. That's all you can do. Just stay away from him.
2007-11-16 14:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I never fell in love with a married man and I will never be. If you still get involved into this, you will be the cause that will break that family appart. Talk with him and say it's over. You don't want to have any problems and have his wife bitching at you. Just give yourself some time and you will forget him. Stay away from him as much as you can.
2007-11-16 14:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on realizing you have to get rid of him!
Avoid him as much as possible. Sit on the other side of the room in class and pray that you don't have any classes with him next semester. Don't answer the phone if he calls and don't respond to any text messages or emails either.
If he was REALLY serious about making his marriage work he wouldn't have been involved with you in the first place. Trust me- you did no damage to that marriage that wasn't already done.
2007-11-16 14:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him because what goes around comes back around. it's just how the universe works...in other words you reap what you sow. as you grow older you will fall in love again, and again and again. at least until you decide to get married yourself. time heals. plus there are PLENTY of AVAILABLE men out there. this one is trying to have his cake an eat it too. you deserve someone you can call your own. do u like to sharing your man? what could you possibly love about him? he sounds unfaithful, when TRUST is what you NEED in relationships. he's willing to walk out on his family which tells me he has issues with COMITTMENT and morals. He obviously has problems with decision making...and buckles under pressure. who was he listening to when he married this lady that he doesn't love? is he easily influenced by what others THINK he should do? he sounds like a weak link to me...Girl please...run...AND fast.
2007-11-16 14:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL are you kidding?
He won't get an annulment. He had a CHILD with his wife.
Move on from him there's plenty of fish in the sea.
It's easy, you say I don't want to continue and walk away. :)
Try not to get caught up in other people's drama. Don't make it your own.
2007-11-16 13:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2016-05-30 10:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by someone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋