My BF had the idea of my mom visiting me on thanksgiving. He made reservations at the Hilton.?

Question

... which I consider expensive. However, BF and I almost always stay at the Hilton or other nice Hotel. His family also always stays at nice hotels. My mom has a very nice house and car, but is not doing so well nowdays financially. I do not tell BF about mom's hardships. Anyway, today I found out that he was just making the reservation for her, not paying for the room. I recommended Extended Stay (which is cheaper). Then he was like "but I've already made reservations. Why?" Is he dumb or a jerk? both? neither? what to do?

Answer 1

Ask your mother which she prefers and do what she wants she is paying and staying there. The decision should be hers!

Answer 2

I don't think he's a jerk, but I do think he's oblivious - mostly cause you haven't told him.

If his family has always stayed at nicer hotels and the two of you have continued that tradition - he may not think twice about the cost. Also, he doesn't know your mom is having financial difficulties, so why would he think its a problem.

Not knowing any reason to reconsider, he wouldn't understand why you're recommending another hotel - especially a cheaper one. He's probably just as confused wondering why you'd want to cheap out on mom's reservation

Its time to come clean with the BF and tell him mom is having problems. I'm sure he'd be more than willing to help out either by changing the reservation or perhaps helping pay for the more expensive hotel, especially since he's caring enough to understand you'd want your mom to visit for the holiday.

Cut him some slack - and tell him what's going on. Everything will smooth out once everyone is on the same page. Good luck and enjoy the holiday!

Answer 3

Cancel the room and you take over, by getting her to stay with you, or paying for her room somewhere where you can afford it. Your boyfriend didn't have enough information to know NOT to get the room, but communication would have helped out. Do you two communicate so badly with most things, or does he take over? This is a good indication of how your life together will be, so thank goodness this came up. Now, try to find a good compromise, treat your mom and enjoy the fact that she is still alive to enjoy.
Again, just because he made the reservation doesn't mean he can't break it. People do that all of the time. Dont' waste time, though, or you will end up paying for the room. Next time, talk more, and then follow the Plan that YOU BOTH decided on, not just him.
Don't give in, or you will be teaching him that he is always right, and that there are no solutions to problems.
Have fun with Mom.

Answer 4

I carry a severe-high quality fall flower affiliation for the table. A small pumpkin with some purple and yellow leaves looks notably. It does not take in a lot room and could be positioned notably a lot everywhere. The pumpkins are the pie form and you may come across a garland of pretend leaves in any craft keep/walmart. you may beautify it with genuine plant existence, too.

Answer 5

Nowadays I didn't know reservations could be made w/o payment. But if that's the case. Your BF should check w/ your mom first before he reserves anything. Because in the end she is the one that will be paying for it.

Answer 6

You need to be totally honest and explain the situation, these are hard times for everyone and not everyone can afford a Hilton, why make Paris and her sister richer?

Answer 7

Your BF makes bold assumptions. Why aren't you more open about your mom's situations? And why aren't you able to arrange for you mom to stay with you? Family is family.

Answer 8

i dont think that he gets it that your mom isnt very financially stable right now, hes just clueless not a jerk

Answer 9

I think your BF and your mom may be cheating on you.

Answer 10

are you willing to pay for it?