Studies consistantly show that 50-60% of both men and women cheat in their relationships (A bad thing I think), yet here on answers if anyoe says they cheated or were thinking about it everyone and their uncle jumps on their case. Statisticaly speaking, there have to be a lot of hypocrits around here, or people who cheat rarely Yahoo.
Comments?
2007-11-16 13:46:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one's perfect, but it makes people feel good and morally superior to lambaste someone ELSE for admitting to cheating. So they do it. Also, to NOT do so makes it appear that you condone the cheating, and therefore makes you a potential target for said lambasting.
For more evidence of this behavior and this sort of group thinking, refer to the Monty Python movie "The Life of Brian" and look at the scene where the crowd stones the guy to death for saying "Jehovah".
2007-11-16 14:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe my answers come from having the experience of a husband who had a very brief one night liason with an old girlfriend. Long story - but when I answer someone who is cheating or thinking of cheating, I have to let them know how much it hurts the faithful partner and ask them if they are willing to live with that? I do not consider 'once a cheater, always a cheater' as a truthful statement. I believe people can be weak or seek their own self-satisfaction without intending to hurt anyone else; they go for 'the moment' or ' the thrill', but having lived through the pain and anguish and almost destruction of my marriage, and knowing the pain and anguish my husband also felt from it all, I do advise others to think twice before doing something that will affect not only them, but many others, for days, months and sometimes years in the future.
I am not here to judge others; and I wish more people could openly admit they cheated without so many YA's calling them names and berating them. Yet, when the person comes across as 'not caring about anyone but theirself' well, think they may deserve a few unkind words.
2007-11-16 19:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I would believe you and support your conclusion is to publish the survey result you are talking about that a 50-60% both men and women cheating their mates. And how credible the firm or individual who made the survey? And how they based their survey, who were the respondents and their location/country?
Not to publish here the resuslt not to enlighten us your idea means you are fooling the people pretending you are well educated.
2007-11-16 18:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this place (yahoo) is a place to vent and find comfort for some that have been cheated on. If you have no one else to talk to, this seems to be the place. Truley, there are some insincere peeps here, but you can spot those a mile off... 50-60%? didn't know it was that high a number....darnit!
2007-11-16 14:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gary1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us have been cheated on and are against it. We know what the pain is like and what rebuilding your life is like. I am all for being with the one that you love and if that is not your spouse that is all fine and good but tell them and let them find someone else also. Don't leave them at home thinking you are faithful until they contract something that came from you.
2007-11-16 13:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with bill b LOL!
I've never cheated on my spouse and I expect the same respect. This "I love my wife but I want another women" is crap!!!!!! Its selfish to cheat. The cheater is usually like "I love my wife and I want to cheat what do I do?" What? What they meant to say is "I want to have fun and keep my comfortable life style" and I know that isn't always the case, but the whole Cheating bit really gets me going.
2007-11-16 13:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes in order to protect ourselves, we may claim to have not cheated when really we have. However, it all depends on what your definition of cheating is. When I'm asking YOU if you cheated, then you'll probably give me the answer that I want to hear...even though you might have held hands with another another woman. It's just easier to deny the fact that you've ever cheated...and then later clarify that holding hands is not cheating in your eyes.
2007-11-16 13:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 09:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who cheat rarely have time for Yahooing.
2007-11-16 13:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by bill b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of the religious word .. "pietism" ? There are several definitions of the word .. however - there is one definition which simply means a person can do an act - and that act is ok for them to do ... however-if another person commits the same act .. that it is NOT ok for THEM to do it.
In other words - people justify themselves.
Plus - lots .. or most .. people are not going to openly admit their trangressions .. or affairs.
Truth is ... every single person .. "has skeletons in their closets".
No one is perfect. We ALL have mistakes throughout our life.
2007-11-16 14:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋