what do you do when you and your future spouse tell his mother you are moving the wedding date closer and her response is "ok well i think we and her and her family need to sit down and talk about it" Oh and she doesnt seem ok with the marriage or you in the first place???
2007-11-16 13:36:45 · 15 answers · asked by Lost Girl 88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not marrying her. Don't worry about what she likes.
2007-11-16 13:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by bill b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more details. Is she involved with the planning or the financing of the wedding? She did not throw a fit about it. It might be a cold response but she just might be task oriented. How does she normally treat you? She does not have to approve of you or your marriage. Worry about what your fiance thinks and what you think and don't worry about anyone else. Nobody else has to live your life and no one else is going to make you happy if you don't do that for your self. Get your families together and hash out the details. If she over steps your boundaries tell her then. If you allow her to do it she always will. Congratulations.
2007-11-16 21:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your family need to talk about with her. You and he made the decision of moving up the date so what is the point of the family meeting about it. I would say no. If she wants to do dinner to get to know everyone then that is a different story. It is up to your spouse to control his mother.
2007-11-20 14:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either sit down and talk about it or make for the nearest church or justice of the peace or judge, your the ones getting married and its ok for her to share her input , but it is still your decision , dont let her bully you around now because if you do it will never stop, it will be the mother-in-law from hell.
2007-11-17 07:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead with the get together and see what she has to say. That doesnt mean you have to agree with her or do what she says but give her the chance... you never know what might happen. Dont worry about it though.. my mother in law didnt like me at first either. Once she realozed that i was going ot take care of her baby she was ok.
2007-11-16 21:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by beanodom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean you are marrying her son that is all that matters. I don't see anything wrong it that statement at all. Actually, I think it is a great idea that way if you need to talk to her about things that are offending or hurting you, then that would be a good time to do so.
2007-11-16 21:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a BIG family event. Arrange a "potluck" diner to go over the moved up plans! Be positive!!!!!
2007-11-16 21:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move your wedding date closer and proceed exactly how you want to. She has no say in the matter.
2007-11-16 21:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding and it is your right to set any date you and your fiance want. Don't let someone else's negativity spoil your plans.
2007-11-16 21:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sticky situation.....the decision is really up to you and your future husband. I don't see why there needs to be a discussion with the whole respective family.
2007-11-16 21:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't invite her to the wedding LOL
You can't make everyone happy and I wouldn't even try. Your not marring her, so don't even pay her any mind.
2007-11-16 21:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋