I'm married and love my wife very much. We've been married for 8 years. Never have this feeling before. One day I found this girl who came along with my friends for the pool party at my house, She's 22.and really cute. I like her the first day. a month later. My wife and I went to my friend's pub for the grand opening. we met again, so I hang out for a while and before I leave with my wife. (my wife's already in the car) I'm still inside and that girl asked me" Can I get you a couge" then I said back" isn't that too small?" then she said Can I get you the bed then?" I said "that sounds good to me" but at the end I left the pub with the weird feeling and couldn't sleep at night at all, kept thinkin about her. later on Monday night. I went to her house. We've talk for a while then I kissed her and almose went to bed with her. Then she asked me"what are thinkin right now? what's in your head?" Then I couldn't answer. and left later on.
2007-11-16 13:29:29 · 34 answers · asked by Rungkit V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't you wish plural marriages were totally legal in the USA?
If you study it and work it out, many couples now have more than one wife in the home and I works out fine. A good example of this and there has been a television program on it is a man with two wives living in the Houston TX area. Although he is legally married to only one, he has two wives and they live in a large home and have several children between them. They were looking for a third wife during the program but she didn't work out and left.
Anyway, maybe you can work out such an arrangement with your wife and this other lady. Plural marriages have some real advantages as well as some drawbacks. Sex for the man isn't the priority either but hard work is.
2007-11-16 13:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I think you need to leave that girl alone and leave it at that. It sounds like you want to be with this girl, but you are still in love with your wife and you really don't want to hurt your wife.
You really have to ask yourself if it is worth it. I mean if your are willing to destroy your married for a 22 year old baby girl, then do so, but remember the grass is not always greener on the other side. Take some time to reconnect with yourself and your wife before you destroy something that has taken 8 years to build.
Temptation will make you lose your mind and in the end you may be giving up a jewel for a piece of coal. Good Luck!
2007-11-16 13:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jeff Jeff Jeff your a naughty boy,why put yourself in that awkward situation in the first place. You say you love your wife,please Jeff tell me how is that possible. It's obvious you think your missing something. Think about this what do you think your wife would do if she knew you went to another woman's apartment. Or better yet what would you do if you found out your wife was with another man, kissing him touching him, isn't that what you did.
Jeff keep your a s s home where it belongs,do you think you are the first guy she has come onto so aggressively i know you would like to think so,but as a woman i can assure you your not the first married man and you won't be the last.
Keep your dick in your pants Jeff.
2007-11-16 13:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're just in lust with this other woman, not in love. There's nothing abnormal about falling for another woman when you've been with your wife for awhile. However, you have to learn to separate the love from the lust. Take it as a compliment that this woman obviously thinks that you're cute too, and if you really love your wife, then leave her alone.
2007-11-16 13:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take that mental energy and apply it toward your marriage. This girl is stroking your ego. Remember, once when you and your wife were hot together. Marriage is comfortable, but don't mistake that for boring. It's up to you to be faithful. Ignore the other girl and those opportunities. Your wife deserves 100% of you!
2007-11-16 13:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young women sometimes like to play with older married men because they view you as safe. She is playing with you. If you fall for her game, be prepared to kiss your marriage good by. Then your wife can maybe find some one who knows the true meaning of love.
2007-11-16 13:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hold on here,, your married,, did you not take your vows seriously ??!
if your not in love and dont love your wife anymore, then you owe it to her to tell her this - she is human and has a life too, and if you want out then you need to tell her so that she can also move on with her life and heel....
its perfectly normal for someone else to catch your attention,, your human and wether your married or not this is going to happen for ever,but it doesnt meen you act on it...
the fact that you did act on it leads me to believe there are some things going on in your present relationship that you didnt tell us about and that your not happy with..
if this is the case - have you tried talking with your wife ?
communication is the key !
Have you tried counceling ?
if your marrage doesnt matter to you because you just dont feel the same way anymore and you dont think counceling would help - then at least go to counceling for yourself so that you have someone to talk to that can help you sort through your feelings.
talk with your wife,, and if its over,,tell her, and then move out or help her move out so that you can both go on with your lifes, until then,stay away from this other girl
you cant have your cake an eat it too !
2007-11-16 13:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is called lust not love. Love is what your wife has for you by not cheating on you and caring enough not to hurt you. You better back off or get a divorce. You are boy with a toy that is all it is.
2007-11-16 13:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by comcast23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't greener.
You aren't in love. Your blood just ran down to your lower brain.
Either stay with your wife or leave her. Don't play this game. She doesn't deserve this.
If you love your wife do the right thing.
2007-11-16 13:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on your wife. You just said that you love her. This does not sound like love. If you are going to go to this other woman be man enough to tell her so she can get on with her life. It is not fair to her to cheat on her and risk her health by what you could give her.
2007-11-16 13:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋