My husband and I have been separated for 3 years and married 4 years. I want so much to divorce him and move on. But I can't find him. Should i start dating anyway.
2007-11-16 13:19:27 · 15 answers · asked by springful 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After being separated for three years, I'd probably be ready for a date. But you should make every effort to end your marriage. Laws vary from state to state, but you should be able to divorce your husband without his consent. It will probably involve proving that you've made some effort to contact him. Plus, once you start dating, and possibly get serious with someone, you'll have to be prepared to answer why you're still married. If I were interested in a guy, and his circumstances were similar to yours, I might tell him to call me once he was single.
2007-11-16 13:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start dating. You can get a divorce even if you can't find him it just takes a little longer. Call a lawyer. There are plenty that will give you a free consultation. Get out the phone book and find one that does.
2007-11-16 13:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you may not be legally divorced but that relationship is dead. I would look into getting it official but for the time being go out, date, enjoy yourself. Only thing I would suggest is don't keep the fact your not divorced a secret, no need to bring it up on a first date (or second or third) but if it comes up in conversation do not lie about it.
2007-11-16 13:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, start dating. And also start the divorce process. It is a little more difficult, but you can divorce him without finding him, at least you can where I live.
2007-11-16 13:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact an attorney and begin divorce proceedings. You can divorce without him being present. A reasonable effort has to be put forth to allow him to present his case, but if he chooses to abandon you and forfeit his possessions and rights, it's his loss. Good Luck and definitely move on.
2007-11-16 13:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by big dawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can divorce him. All you have to do is file for divorce .. and let it be advertised in the paper - which will suffice for his serving.
If you are still married ... well .. married is married.
You are not divorced. But divorce is possible .. especially with his abandonment.
This is your decision .. but you will be a married woman .. dating. Until you get a divorce.
2007-11-16 13:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, go ahead and date. Just be honest with the guys you are dating. I dated during separation. Lots of people do. My only advice is just take it slow.
2007-11-16 13:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-11-16 13:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost your husband? The beach? Yah. If he's not been around for 2 years...date.
2007-11-16 13:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't put your life on whole for this man, girl go out and find you someone and be happy, because he got him somebody also, life is to short to be alone. Good Luck
2007-11-16 13:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋