I Have met another woman.?

Question

After 14 years, It has crossed my mind to cheat on my wife. I do love my wife but want another woman to satisfy me. I know it is wrong, but it feels right what should I do?

Answer 1

Would you give your wife permission to be with other men?

If you can answer yes to this question then look into open marriages or polyamory.

Here are some sites with information:
http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/affairs.html

http://www.libchrist.com/poly/contents.html

At least go into it with some knowledge.

Answer 2

Well friend welcome to the real world of being married, what you are doing is a great feeling isn't it ? I do understand your situation, I've been you before, did I regret doing it, no I didn't, you will always have fond and good memories of this, don't let anyone know your secret for one thing, not even your best friend in the world, don't let these people on yahoo questions discourage you or make you feel bad over this, it is completely understandable, don't listen to these other people on here, they should not judge a man until they have walked a mile in his shoes !! you don't tell your wife anything, and do not talk to her about this, you will wreck everything, talk to your lover and try to see if she would be willing to be a mistress, a lot of women will do this, if something happens and you leave your wife and this other girl does leave you will have no one, keep stringing your wife along, this will work out if you play your cards right, 14 years is a long time, but things do get old and boring, and I do feel for you there, everyone needs a little spice in their life, go for it,,

Answer 3

I can't understand why you would cheat on your wife after 14yrs that's a long time. I know it feels right but you made promise to god to be faithful to your wife. I'm sorry what feels right is not always what's best for you. If you want your wife to satisfy you why don't you tell your wife you are not satisfied and tell her what to do to satisfy you I know you are thinking like a man but she will be more hurt if she finds out you were cheating so to solve the problem be honest put some spark in your marriage be spontaneous if you want this other lady go for it divorce your wife and move on either way will be hard but hey your the man and you are putting yourself in this situation you have to either pick one or MAKE IT WORK with your wife don't be a quiter that is what is wrong with the current genration quiters FIND A WAY to get satisfied by your wife if she is good women she will do what you ask to get your satisfaction if not then F___ her move on

Answer 4

I think sometimes it's possible to have the best of both worlds. It's not like there's a woman in particular that you want, right? It's maybe just the thought of having another woman that seems exciting? If so, then visit strip clubs to fulfill that part of your needs. You can look, but don't touch. If you want to, bring your wife along for the fun.

If she's not into that then see if she's into the fantasy of it all. Maybe she'd be willing to dress up differently to keep your interest. You just never know--give it a try!

Answer 5

Do not cheat on her. How can you say that you love her? If you want another woman at least be a man and tell your wife. She might need someone to satisfy her also.

Answer 6

I suggest you have some time alone to reflect and think of what you truly want. You are at a crossroad here, your wife or a new woman.

Think of all the memories and wonderful things you had with your wife. How can you replicate those memories. Remember the first time you met and the excitement of courting her.

Think of how you would like her to remember you. As a loving husband or a cheater?

Whatever you decide at the end, dont burn bridges. Think of the bad karma you are creating if you cheat. What goes around come around.

Answer 7

If it has crossed your mind to cheat on your wife, then you have ask yourself why you feels this way. Is it worth to throw away 14 years of marriage over piece? If you can say you love your wife, then don't do it. Just have more respect for yourself. If you are father have respect for children, do you want them to remember as cheater or good father and husband. If you are having issues talk them with your wife, sounds like communication issue in your marriage. Don't cause heartache for yourself and your family. It is not worth it.

Answer 8

If u are unhappy at home, dont expect to rectify the situation by cheating. You need to figure out with your wife what is making u feel the need to stray and once its figured out, decide if the marriage should continue or a divorce would be better.
Do not cheat on her. Nobody deserves that and u will eventually get caught and she will be devistated. It will hurt her worse to have u cheat than to decide to divorce from unhappiness.
She at one time was the person u wanted to spend the rest of your life with. What happened? Where did she go? What changed? These are things u and her need to discuss and either rekindle your relationship or end it before u do something u will regret.
Good luck.

Answer 9

You have met another one or not? You are not clear, just crossing your mind and acting on it are two different scenerios.

Do the honorable thing and talk to your wife, you may need therapy to salvage your marriage, that is if you want to. If you do not and feel the need for someone else, please don't cheat, just end the marriage and then seek out your new conquest. Good Luck, and BTW, been there done that, I was cheated on.

Answer 10

Stay faithful. That's what you promised 14 years ago, remember?
Rent a racy video with your wife to spice things up, or go away for a weekend, or something you are tempted to do with this other person. If you know cheating's wrong, why are you even contemplating it? How would you feel if you found out your wife was posting this question?

Answer 11

If you really feel the need for someone new, then after 14 years I think you should show her the respect of letting her go and live her life too. You're probably going to feel like the bad guy either way, at least leave the relationship with a little dignity for the both of you. If you don't feel this new women is worth the cost of your marriage then leave it alone.