MY HUSBAND WORKED WITH A YOUNGER BIOSEXUAL FEMALE FOR ABOUT A YEAR. HE DID SPEAK OF HER OFTEN BUT I'M NOT THE JEALOUS TYPE SOOOO. ANYWAY, SHE MOVES AWAY AND HAS CALLED HIM ON THE HIS CELL PHONE A COUPLE OF TIMES. IT WAS BAD TIMING(i WAS IN THE ROOM) SO ANYWAY SHE CALLS MY HOUSE NUMBER AND MY HUSBAND ACTS ALL SHOCKED AND CONFUSED (RIGHT) WHISPERS NOT TO CALL HIM AT HOME. ARE YOU STILL WITH ME? SO IT FINALLY COME TO A HEAD AND HE SAID HE LOANED HER SOME MONEY SEVERAL MONTHS AGO AND SHE WAS CALLING BACK FOR MORE. HE SAID SHE HAD A 5 YEAR OLD LITTLE BOY AND NEEDED CHRISTMAS MONEY. WELL WHEN HE TALKED TO HER AGAIN SHE IS MESSED UP ON SOMETHING, LOST HER LITTLE BOY,AND IS UNDER HOUSE ARREST.SHE HAS BEEN IN PRISON BEFORE. DO YOU THINK SOMETHING WENT ON BETWEEN THEM THE YEAR SHE WORKED THERE OR IS SHE JUST A TROUBLE SOUL WHO FOUND A SUCKER.
2007-11-16 12:53:47 · 20 answers · asked by bob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please excuse the BIO, get over it will ya? Mature answers only please.Thanks for all the great advice so far.
2007-11-16 13:11:03 · update #1
I wouldn't jump the gun on something going on between them. Sit back and think to the time they worked together. Was he acting strange? Was there any reason to question his actions? If not then I doubt you have anything to worry about. If there were some signs I would ask him about it...straight out.
When it comes to drug users, if they find someone that will loan money to them once they will continue to ask until they are completely cut off. He may not have wanted her calling the house b/c he didn't tell you about the $ he loaned her. She's moved away, lost her son, so she shouldn't need any Christmas money anymore. I would put my foot down and tell him not to have contact with her anymore. If there is nothing to hide he shouldn't have a problem with that.
2007-11-16 12:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think it is a good thing that you found out about this. My question to you is this - how is he acting about it now and has he stopped all contact with her? If this is something in the past, keep it there and believe him when he says it was just money. She could be harrassing him and he didn't know how to tell you. But - he must promise to never have any further contact with her at all. He may have felt sorry for the child and was trying to help. She is not his responsibility or yours; so get her out of both of your lives. If he is a kind hearted man, very possible she was just using him for money. He may have felt stupid and foolish. If he continues to talk with her and is secretive, then you will have our answer.
2007-11-16 19:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama.
Why would your husband get so wrapped up with someone else, even if just a colleague... and one that is unstable, loaning money and now in prison?
Is this the kind of person you married?
I don't know, but I'd start asking serious questions and move on if need be. No way would I be in for this ride with people in prison.. etc.
2007-11-16 12:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands don't hide from their wives the fact that they loaned a friend some money. Husbands, and friends, don't cause problems for each other's relationships by acting in ways that make spouses suspicious.
2007-11-16 13:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by bill b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure would be skeptical...because if my husband loaned a woman money without consulting me...I would be ready to kick his b*tt.....It is very possible that he and she had something going on....you know your husband right? Is he the type to be suckered into anything??
2007-11-16 12:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she were just a troubled soul then your husband would be sharing when she calls him and filling you in on what is going on with her. He is hiding her and so has either gone there or thought long and hard about going there. You need to confront him on this one.
2007-11-16 12:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because he loaned her money doesn't necessarily mean that something happened between them. However, there isn't enough information to go off of.
2007-11-16 13:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married. Be grateful you are. Stop being controlling and spoiled and be glad your husband is still with you and not with her. Address the subject, be grateful she has moved away, but tell your husband that if anything went on or if anything has gone on behind your back please don't let it happen again. Pray. Seek God and you will be more sweet and loving and just more pleasant to be around.
2007-11-16 13:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
sorry, but it sounds like you both were fools. no way my husband gives another woman money to buy anything unless its a friend we both have and a desicion we both make. obviously he had something going on her, or hoped he would physically. obviously you are doubting his words, even though it cant be more obvious what was going on.
2007-11-16 12:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out the door he goes....Of course they tip-toed under the sheets lady.....read the signs..forget the troubled soul
2007-11-16 13:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋