if someone hurts me, I'll get so violent that I would like to torture them. but I'm so shy that you wouldnt believe I'm like that. if everyone is happy around me, I'll be fine. but if not, if loved ones hurts me, I can get very violent. so far I didnt do anything, but if I would, then I would also very regret. I dont know what to do. couples can argue a lot, but if I'm emotionally hurt, then I can also get violent and I'm affraid to have a girlfriend. I dont wanna hurt her. but if it happens that she would broke up with me, I'm affraid that I would lose my head and do something very horrible. currently I'm blaming years of playing violent video games and actually I never had a girlfriend before, so I really dont know how it feels to be loved. maybe thats my problem.
I'm not even agressive person. now I'm affraid to get in love wiht people. whats wrong with me?
2007-11-16 12:34:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I even dont wanna be touched. its like if I'm alergic to being touched. if someone touches me, I can get angry.
2007-11-16 12:37:19 · update #1
I am the same way. I was told that because I am so NOT a aggressive person it just all comes out in violence, and my family is not touchy feel so i get like freaked out when people even get to close to me. So it has to do with how you were brought up and how you handle your feelings. I refuse to get involved with other people but its not hard because who wants to get involved with a person who doesn't want to even hold hands. I don't know how to stop it sorry but that is why or so I was told.
2007-11-16 12:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately should seek professional help. I think you should stay out of relationships until you know you are ready. You don't want to end up doing something you're going to regret for the rest of your life. Maybe try taking up yoga or something. ( I know, not many men would consider this, but it really relaxes you and helps you to cope with things.) If you DO decide to date someone and they break up with you, just remember-life goes on, you will get over it, and it's not worth the stress of getting upset over. Good luck!
2007-11-16 13:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by twirpy_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to R E L A X and take it easy. Avoid taking things personally. Learn to laugh it off and find the humor in things. Ie, Image that the person who insulted you is a sack of manure. Then image them literally being a sack of manure. It can help you laugh it off.
2007-11-16 12:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is troublesome... XD anyways, don't worry about it!
I think you should control a bit of yourself, be more indifferent.
Or maybe...hum.... Do funny stuff such as practical jokes or euh... Watch Family guy! You know... XD
Just be more available in more things to get more in ease.
2007-11-16 12:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have anger issues that need to be taken care of in therapy. Repressed anger comes out all distorted.
2007-11-16 12:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need immediate professional mental help.
2007-11-16 12:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by rico3151 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋