Me and my b/f have been together for 6yrs, everythings going well and were almost done with school(another yr) and he wants to get married but we are only about to be 22 and I just think its too young for me. What do you all think???
2007-11-16 12:27:26 · 11 answers · asked by Rina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really love him but I'm scared that things will go weak, or he will change or maybe I will. I have told him all this but I dont want him to feel discouraged either. ~~All your answers are sooo helpful thank you.!!
2007-11-16 13:27:29 · update #1
I personally think 22 is a young age to get married, but in your case talking about marriage is different because you have been with ur boyfriend for 6 years...that is a long time now. My question to you is, what would be the difference if you were to marry him than right now. I don't know what you guys do or don't do, if you guys go out separately or not but I'm guessing you guys do. So my answer to you is that i think you guys are ready to get married since you guys been together for a long time. But if you think you're to young to get married well then don't get married. Just talk to your b/f and tell him what you think.
2007-11-16 12:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Canha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend Tovah is 20, been with her boyfriend for 4 years, and is getting married to him in August.
Do you want to wait till you graduate from college? Get a job? When would you feel comfortable getting married?
6 yrs is a long time. If you only knew him for 6 months this would be very risky but I think marrying him sounds like a perfectly sane decision. But it depends on what YOU really want!!
2007-11-16 22:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by moon_walker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 22 is too young to get married. If you feel that you are not ready yet though, but you really want to stay with him and he really loves you, then I think he would be willing to wait until you are ready.
2007-11-16 20:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chihuahua Addict Adores Scooby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry 22 is getting a bit old --- i was married at 20 and lasted 30 years --- it was not marrying young i must point out --- there were other circumstances --- the most important one was i allowed us to fall out of love --- we never took the time for us ---- saying all that you can never know if you are ready to get married --- sometimes you just have to jump in and ofer 6 years are there other reasons not to get together?? --- best wishes
2007-11-16 20:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel 22 is too young to married someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. If you second thoughts then just tell him, not now. If its going to last, it does not matter when you tie the knot.
2007-11-16 20:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not necessarily too young - there are no hard and fast rules and many young marriages work out.
But what about other things, like having a career, travel - why not take some time to find out who you really are? Marriage can wait - he will wait if he really loves you.
2007-11-17 07:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have doubts then dont do it but thats a pretty long while to be together with out getting married, and ithink hes really read y for that step hes waited quite a while. age doesnt matter if u love someone then u love them, are u sure ur just not stringing him along? and is it fair to him?
2007-11-16 20:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by momma4christopher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, wait for a little bit. I'm 19 and am pregnant with my first and I got married when I was 2 months. I was worried at first, but have no doubts anymore.
2007-11-16 20:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking about the life you and your kids would have if you got married and had babies.
How much more if it was unplanned?
Are you financially stable?
Can both of you handle the big responsibility of raising up your kids?
You know. some deep questions like that.
Please think of the consequences of your actions and their long/short term effects in your life.
I don't know much but it would have been ok if it was only you and your bf but if you're planning to have kids....
Please think about them ^__^
Good luck
2007-11-16 20:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like he is your soul mate you should but if you have doubts than talk to him about it maybe he feels the same way and then you can wait a few years
2007-11-16 20:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋