I am pregnant with my second child, always dreamed of a big family. When I was pregnant with my son I had NO aprehensions, only excitement. Now with my second, also planned, I am soooo scared. What if I dont give this new one or my son enough attention? How do I make sure my son will be a good big brother? The delivery also gives me a little bit of anxiety too, not at all before.... Anyone else have these anxieties? How did you reassure yourself that you CAN do this!?
2007-11-16 12:20:13 · 10 answers · asked by Mommyof3 BGB 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am pregnant with my second and I have the same apprehensions. I am worried that I wont get to the hospital soon enough or what happens if I go into labor in the middle of the night with my child home. These are all normal feelings.
You find a way to make enough love, it just grows, you set aside special time for your first born so you still have one on one time and you help them get as involved as possible with the new baby so it feels like a big family not like a new baby has taken there place. Some days I worry more than others but then I remember that I have taken care of my nieces and my daughter before together and I did ok and gave everyone attention so I know I can do it, it will just take time to get a routine set up.
The advice my sister gave me was this:
Make sure child #1 has a routine set down and as you are getting your other child on a routine make sure that it coincides with your first child, that way its not like you are changing everyone for the new baby.
She also said that you should praise your child as much as possible, it will help reinforce that you are paying attention and love them.
2007-11-16 12:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by mjoy2685 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been there - I AM there! I'm pregnant with #5 and for the first time am feeling apprehensive about the very same things... well, you *always* wonder if there's enough of you to go around - but I'm more worried now about the labor for some weird reason... and I had my last two peacefully at home. So, anyway, my best advice is to read the book "Birthing from Within" - it's helping me a lot... and also "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" - helps you see how NORMAL childbirth is - even if you've already had a baby.
My hospital offers "New Sibling Classes" - your son might benefit form something like that.
2007-11-16 20:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kim B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and am 20 weeks pregnant with a boy. I wasn't nervous at all when I was pregnant with my daughter, but with this one I am. I think it's because we know we are in store of, the fantasy of having a baby isn't the same as when you are pregnant with your first. I worry that my daughter's feelings will be hurt when I'm nursing and cant hold her, and the attention the baby will get from everyone. I know it'll be okay though. I just have to take a deep breath and tell myself it'll all work out. Good luck!
2007-11-16 20:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES :)
You are not alone!!!! But believe me you will do just fine...I was so worried I wouldnt be able to love another one as much as the first one...And the delivery was so scarye just cause you know whats coming this time lol But you will do GREAT trust me..I dont know how old your son is but just make him a big part of everything for the new baby, have a gift for him too at the hospital, and I am sure he will be a good big brother no matter what :)
Best wishes and good luck with everything
2007-11-16 20:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 weeks with #2 and I'm not worried at all. I am slightly concerned about my daughter having to adjust to another baby in the house but I've been trying to prepare her and explain to her what's happening (she's not quite 3 yet, so it's a little hard). I like that I know what's going to happen next, where the 1st time I was always anxious about each step.
2007-11-16 20:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 9 months old in like 2 days and I'm 27 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I feel almost guilty for becoming pregnant so soon. Like I'm taking away from her. She will be 4 days shy of having her first birthday when I have this baby. It just doesn't seem fair. At first it was hard for me to love this baby inside of me. I really just didn't want to have another baby so soon. People can think what they want but we can't control our feelings. Its taken alot of me to care about this baby. But theres still the worry will I love this baby as much as I love my first. Will I love my first less? Will we have enough money for 2? Its constant worry!
2007-11-16 20:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i so know how u feel when i was preg wit my daughter i was just excited but when i fell preg wit my son - not planned, i really freaked thought i wouldnt cope etc same as u but my partner was very supportive and when he was born i did better than i thought n my girl isnt jealous coz i let her help like get nappies n put his dummy in. Just make ur son feel involved n he should b fine. U wil b fine! All best
2007-11-16 20:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Natz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, i felt the same way!!! my daughter was an easy preg and an okay delivery...now i'm sick 24hours a day and i'm afraid labor and delivery will be worse this time...and although i wanted more kids, i feel like i am a lunitic for being pregnant now:
in april i'll be mom to a newborn and a two year-old...what was i thinking??!
but then i slap myself and get a grip....everythings going to fall into place and i'll have been worrying for no reason!!
we'll be fine!!
-hbb
2007-11-16 20:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by hot black babe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i guess i kind of have this problem, i am 9 weeks preg with out 4th and i kinda freaked cuz im thinking "im fine with 3 kids i can handle then and they are well behaved but what if a 4th just sends me over the edge and i cant handle it" i have no real reason to feel this way, i was just freaking for no reason. i will be ok and so will you!
2007-11-16 20:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I'm pregnant with my second and I feel the same way so I'm pretty sure its normal congrats and good luck
2007-11-16 20:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋