My parents want to adopt a boy and a girl i already have a sister...
I think my new brother/sister might hate me or something.
I really can't be hated by anyone at the moment although I do want my parents to adopt...
I am confused please help.
By the way I'm a 14 year old guy.
2007-11-16 12:06:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
They say they want to adopt a 6-10 year old.
2007-11-16 12:12:48 · update #1
I am not being selfish. I want a little brother or sister, It's just think that they will say I broke up their past family by adopting them (I had a dream that happened.)
2007-11-16 12:27:38 · update #2
It is perfectly normal to feel confused.It not as simple as getting a pet bird or cat.
Tell your parents that you have mixed feelings.
Talk it over with them and your sister as well.
This decision will impact you all and for the rest of your life.
It is better to talk now before it is too late.
No one is going to hate you for being honest.Actually it is very brave and mature of you.Dont be afraid to tell your parents your true feelings.I am sure they have no idea how you feel.Good luck!!
2007-11-16 12:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by angelguide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, hi!
I'm adopted into a family of 18, 15 boy's and three girl's. I'm a twin.
Mother had 9 of the kids herself, the rest of us were her second choice, and were all glad she made that choice. LOL
She lived to be 88 had 36 total kids, 33 with a College Education. We had a lot of fun growning up and are all still around each other, and all love each other very much.
If you have any other questions about being in the family way write me.
Johnmccall2@hotmail.com
2007-11-16 12:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David, I'd love to adopt too and I have a 14yr old son and a daughter. You are going to be so busy in the next few years getting your life in order for college/career that you can make this a positive experience for both you and your parents. They will feel like they're losing you and you can assure them that they wont and at the same time get along with the sister and newly adopted child. It won't matter, you're going to love that child just like your own sister/brother ...unless they're a tyrant and throws food in your face and is a monster! LOL
2007-11-16 12:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by doodlesfl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you carry doubts...or perhaps feel threatened at the arrival of a new sibling in your family. It's a life-changing event, having an adopted brother and/or sister in your home.
But scary as it all may seem to you, things will work out quite well and normally......where life is just like that having brothers and/or sisters born into your family.
It will be your responsibility to help these new arrivals feel safe and welcome into your home. Move aside the difficulut feelings you have and help them and your parents out.
2007-11-16 12:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being incredibly selfish. These kids have been through (and will continue to go through) things that you'll never understand. All they want is a mommy and a daddy that will love them and care for them and you're worried about whether or not they'll like you?! The only reason why they wouldn't like you is if you've given them a reason not to like you. Its doubtful you've ever even met them, so just be a good big brother and count your blessings. You seriously need to talk to your parents because you have some issues you need to work through.
2007-11-16 12:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless their adopting a cool 14 year old girl to be your sister, you shouldn't worry about such things. Little kids ALWAYS adore older siblings until they get to be about 10, and by then your out of the house and the cool older brother, you got it made dude!
2007-11-16 12:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Marty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries dude. Your new little brother and sister are more likely to be scared of you. Just ease up in a lay-back tone and when time comes, be happy to introduce them to the house. I mean, fresh start right? They are going to be your siblings (half, technically). But, if you ever get into a fight, do not call your little brother or little sister a half-sibling; that is degrading, if you're going to accept them into your family soon.
2007-11-16 19:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always ask your parents to enroll your family in family counseling. That way a professional will be there to help you all talk through the difficult transitions that may occur as your family expands.
Even though you are confused and scared, keep in mind that its pretty awesome to be involved in this process. You are getting new siblings who will be with you for the rest of your life. And they are going to need your help and guidance as a big brother. Good luck to you and your family.
2007-11-16 12:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Elle Beeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will love you. Imagine being them, coming into a new family would be terifying. I would think they would be more worried about you not liking them. Anyway you will only be at home for a few more years so dont worry about it. At least you and your family will be giving some other children a life they might not have got if they dont adopt.
2007-11-16 12:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by emesumau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would they hate you unless you give them a reason? Little kids (under teen years) are usually more accepting of others than pre-teens teens and adults. I really don't think you have anything to worry about, but don't be mean to the new kids. Good for your parents for deciding to adopt and good luck to you all.
2007-11-16 12:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋