My daughter is one of two people at her high school who "dresses dark". Her reason for doing this is because it's the style she feels best suits her personality. She does not believe in God, either, but she doesn't go around forcing her views on others. However, if people ask her whether she believes in God, she does tell them she's Agnostic. Niether does she iworship the devil, however, as some folks would think by seeing how she dresses. She is a very unaggressive person and really just wants to to be liked. However, she has always been "diffferent", and feels she has never fit in with the popular groups in school. She really has no close friends except her "on-line friends" but she is very sweet and honest and makes good grades.
Now, some girls are harassing her at school. They call her by a name they have given her, not her name. This is disrespectful. They call out her name over and over, when they see her between classes, and mock her. What should she do?
2007-11-16 11:53:22 · 6 answers · asked by Poppy7 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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2007-11-16 13:39:27 · update #1
As someone who also "dressed dark" in high school I think I can understand how your daughter is feeling. I know from my own experience that a lot of the time people react this way because they did not fit in as younger children and being goth or dark is sort of a way to not fit in on your own terms. It's a way to accept yourself being different from everyone else but to still have some power. Just remind her that junior/high school is only so long and that college/university life is a lot more forgiving to those who are different. And usually those of us who are different end up a lot more interesting as adults than those people who tease us as kids. It's cliche but so true. Those nasty girls only have 7 years of popularity if you count middle school and high school and then they'll fade into boredom and nothingness. Your daughter will undoubtedly go on and meet amazing, creative, artistic, intelligent friends and colleagues and she'll blossom in a more open environment and go on to have a much better life that those small minded girls can't even fathom. Tell her that ;)
2007-11-16 12:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's set herself apart by the way she dresses and as unfair as that is she's going to get negative attention from it. A lot of people don't like 'different' it challenges what they are comfortable with. So, what do they do? They mock it.
I too like to dress strange sometimes and I'm 32. I went through my own goth stage for about 10 years. And you want to talk about being singled out, try being a black goth girl-bet you don't see many of those. Well, maybe now, but, not back in my day.
She's gotta learn to deal with it. Ignore them and go on being her pleasant self. I love horror movies still, dress kinda funky and have eclectic interests and most people like me. When they first see me, they judge me harshly, but, when they get to know the real me, I'm golden. And if they don't like me they can go take a flying leap. That's the attitude your daughter should get.
2007-11-16 20:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They only do this because she lets them. She can confront them, and if it gets loud enough the school will get involved. Most likely the girls who are calling her names can be scared off, if she speaks up for herself. I mean what do you want to do, call the school or call the those girls parents? I think sometimes we have to let our kids fight there own battles, I think she can handle it. You sound like a good mom, knowing you have her back can sometimes be all the strength she needs. As one outcast to another I wish your daughter well.
2007-11-16 20:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach her to grow a thick skin and don't allow those girls to harrass her. There's always going to be certain people who get harrassed in high schools. You just have to toughen up and get through high school.
2007-11-16 20:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, there is no answer to your question. If there was we would live in a perfect world. There is so much evil in this world. And these girls are a perfect example.
2007-11-16 20:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by TERRYTOONS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to ignore them. I have been bullied by the entire class in 6th grade.. I just ignored them and eventually they stopped.
2007-11-16 20:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋