Whats the best way to end communication with a person you know?

Question

keeping quiet/ignoring them and telling them its cool when they ask
or
telling them to their faces,
and why would a person respond in the first way

oooh, i wish life was easy...

Answer 1

Well, it depends. Quitting a person can be done in two ways. But you need to analyse the fall out.

If it is a person you will never see again if you quit them (either they live far away or work at a place you no longer frequent) you can tell them why. If it is just a friend, you can do it via email or in person or on the phone. If it is a boyfriend or girlfriend, DO IT IN PERSON.

If the person is someone who you believe would damage your career, house, reputation, etc... then do it slowly. Stop planning times to see them, stop answering the phone and GET REALLY BUSY....Make sure you that you kind of fade out...that way you won't upset them till you have a safe amount of time and distance between you. If they question you in the interium about not having time for them, just say you have gotten super busy.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

The best way is just do it.

Don't acknowledge them when you see them, don't answer or return their calls, Emails, Letters. In fact act as though they are a complete stranger.

If they do approach you to ask why you are doing this, don't tell them things are cool, just either continue to ignore them or say something like "excuse me do I know you? I think you must have mistaken me for someone else" and then walk on.

However, If someone is doing this to you, and saying everything is OK when you ask, perhaps there is something going on that you don't know about in their life that is causing great upset or distraction.

They might not be cutting you off, maybe things between you are genuinely OK but they just don't realise they have blanked you a few times.

I do that all the time, even to family if I get distracted, which is done easily and often.

Answer 3

Some people don't like confrontation. It makes them feel small, scared, and already threatened. So, people like that would respond by ignoring someone and hoping the issue goes away. And I have done that before. I have done it to the extent that the message I was saying out loud ("I think we are too different now that we have grown up") was not getting through. I don't like confrontation and was not going to tell who I was not longer interested in being friends with that I thought they were royally screwing up their life and I could not be around to watch (and that was the truth...not unsupportive, just that I did not want the legal trouble that would come my way if I stuck around). So, yes, in an ideal world, the person would tell you to your face that they no longer wanted to have you around. But also, read between the lines. Some people say things without actually saying them (although I have to admit that it would be completely annoying to have them say it was 'cool' when it obviously was not...I never did that before).