Help!! My friend has been getting raped since she was 4!!!?

Question

This killed me deeply when i found out the girl i see as a role model was getting raped and molested ever since she was 4 years old. she is turning 17 and still is going through this craziness!!! I hate for the simple fact that she told people such as her mom coaches and school counselor and this person is still not put in jail. My friend is very smart and athletic and she has soo much going for her. she is the top of our class and she is a beast in basketball, and she works a part time job.all around she is very strong young individual. she told all this to me last nite and i will not stop until this person that is doing this is put to jail. today i had her talk to the counsleor and aparently they have already talked!! Why isn't anything happening yet?? Who can i talk to to get this all over with? who can i call? plz help me becuz she really does not deserve this!

i would call the police but she said she has talked to her mother about it but my question is her mother had been knowing but has not did nothing till now. i dont know if it's because her mother dont want people in her business or not. i am very confused at this point but i dont want to be another person she done told and nothing is not happening.

is there any place in dayton ohio that i could call about this?

Answer 1

If you don't want to call the police directly, you can contact family services anonymously and they'll investigate.

I can see you love your friend, but I have to tell you that her story doesn't totally add up. You mention that your friend spoke to a school counselor. School counselors are mandatory reporters to social services in every state I know of, meaning that if they get a report of abuse, they are required to file a report with the county social services department, even if the victim does not want any action taken. If your friend actually reported this to the school counselor, it would be truly shocking if no investigation were made. So, either your friend hasn't really told the counselor anything, or she did, and some inquiry was done, with a result that she is not sharing with you.

Overall, I think it's your obligation to file a report with the family services department - this may be uncomfortable between you and your friend since she'll probably figure out you did it, but you need to take action to protect her and any other children who might be in harm's way. Alternatively, you could speak to a counselor yourself and ask them to intercede by calling on your behalf, or ask another trusted adult in your life to help you make that call. You can make an anonymous tip, as I said.

Answer 2

Something is wrong with your story. Your friend says she has been raped routinely from 4 to 17. This is somebody that has been in her life all along, like a family member or very close friend. She has talked to her Mother, coach, counselors, nothing has happened and yet she is able to maintain honor student and role model status. These things don't add up. If she doesn't like what has been happening to her for 13 years, she would be depressed and underachieving.
The continuous nature of the actions indicate that it is not forceable but rather sexual abuse of a minor, statutory rape. This is the type of pattern that happens in cases of incest where the victim can't get away from the perpetrator. The mother would be reluctant to act because it is her husband and meal ticket. Perhaps the counelors don't want to act because the perp is a leading man in the community or something. It just doesn't add up. These ingredients don't mix the way you describe them.
Are you sure she is not just putting you on, spinning a tale to see what kind of reaction you have? Maybe she is trying to spin a fantasy for whatever reason.
I think you need to do some more research before you conclude that your friend has been sexually abused for 13 years.

Answer 3

Call the police if you are concerned. You can do so anonymously.

Your story sounds feasible but also has some loopholes.

I don't know the law in Ohio, but I suspect that, like California here, the school counselor is a "mandated reporter". That means she MUST contact the police when presented with such a situation like this, unlike you and me who may or may not.

However, in CA, the mandated reporter can conduct additional investigation in order to determine what to put in her report. Probably the same in OH unless she feels there is an emergency that requires immediate intervention.

Makes sense for the Mom to be in denial, you didn't say who is doing this for the last 14 years or so. Probably Dad or Mom's bf, which means Mom may be at risk physically or even complacent.

Or, your friend may be making it all up for some reason known only to her. That happens too. which is why the counselor will talk to her more privately, and maybe seek outside guidance form a psychologist or social worker to find out what to do next.

Answer 4

First I would have to say address this matter with police, and if they won't help then go to the news, and tell any and everyone. Your friend may get slightly embarrassed but, she also needs to get help as well, this is very unhealthy for her to keep living with, and will bring up more problems in her future. This is VERY SERIOUS and you are very right as her friend to help her understand something has to be done about whoever is doing this to her, regardless of the person in question.
It's very surprising that her mother hasn't done anything, but maybe fear of this getting out is more embarrassing to the mother than she would like to admit. But this can't stay a secret especially if this is still happening.
So your a very good friend for standing up for your friend, and my suggestion is to fight for her, and help her. Tell people and your right, GET THIS PERSON PUT AWAY!
GOOD LUCK
:-)

Answer 5

Call children's services and see if they can step in. Her mother is obviously a silent partner in this and will be of no help. The counselor needs to be fired. Has she gone to the school principal? How about religious clergy? I'm so sorry and thank you for helping her. Speak with your friend again and make sure she will tell the truth to those you contact with her.

Answer 6

Call your local police department, file a report. They will follow up till the sexual predator is jailed.

Answer 7

All i can do it tell you to tell your friend to report the guy.Go to he police asap! Your a good person for caring so much for a friend like this.May god take you far in life for that.Also tell her to try to stay away from the guy to help keep it from happening again!!

good luck!!

Answer 8

This girl or her mother may not want to charge this man with rape. It's their decision. The girl should report to the ploce everytime he does this to her. They should be charging him with sagitory. Sicko.

Answer 9

Go to the police.

Answer 10

Take her to the police.