I really cared about him. My daughter and I moved in. He had some episodes of drinking whiskey and kicked us out several times. Later said he was sorry and it would not happen again. Well, the last time, we really needed to go as he got extremely abusive. I had just received fuel assistance for the winter that gave him $1500 credit on his fuel bill and electric from the state because I was income eligible with my child. I feel that he owes me at least some of that in cash. He has put me and my daughter through a really bad time. She had to go live with her dad and I left the area to a city with a better job market and the hurt and deception made me want to really run. My question is does the #@*&%^! guy owe me anything for the fuel assistance he received?
2007-11-16 07:17:42 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
the law says money give to a "domestic partner," unless with a promisary note or the like, is considered a gift, and the partner has no legal channels to persue to get the money back. it was a bad judgement call.
and, it wasn't a mistake to move in with an alcholic in recovery. it was a mistake to move in with THAT alcholic in recovery. its not the problem, its the person. my dad has been sober for 30 years, and hasn't had any of those problems you've mentioned.
good luck.
2007-11-16 07:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may feel that he owes you the money. On moral grounds you may be right. On legal grounds you may have an argument. But I cannot see how you would ever actually collect anything unless he voluntarily decides you are correct and pays you. Otherwise, you'll have to get a lawyer, go to court, get a judgment (less than 50/50 chance of that though) and then try to collect. He won't have any money, so you won't be successful without spending more time, effort, energy and money.
For this reason my advice is to count yourself lucky that you didn't waste any more of your time on this guy, and move on. And think twice before hooking up again with an active drunk (hint: a guy who is drinking is not a "recovering" alcoholic).
2007-11-18 11:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the fuel company and have credit removed as you no longer live there.Then give your new residence for the credit.Just say they made a mistake,delivered the fuel to a wrong residence,that way he gets billed and you get your credit for you and your daughter.Please for your child's sake,stay away from Losers and drunks,it is better to be alone,then risk the damage to your child needlessly.
2007-11-16 07:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just going to have to let this one go for now. Abusive alcoholics are not good to be around. I know from experience. He does owe you an amends, but if he is not sober you are not going to see any money from him. Just let it go and make sure that you don't make the same mistake again. Just learn from it and move on. I know it sucks, but it is the best thing to do in this kind of situation.
2007-11-16 07:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he LEGALLY owes you any money from that, but otherwise no. You made your choices. He gave you plenty of warning by his behavior that he was a bad choice. Since you continued to risk yourself and your daughter, that was on you.
I think your daughter should continue to live with her dad. WTF were you thinking? The minute my child was harmed by a man's abuse, I was out of there, and this was my child's father! No way some unhealthy AND unrelated person is allowed around my child. You need more help than money.
2007-11-16 07:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i know I fairly have made a mistake I have not have been given any hassle admitting it. yet especially circumstances people think of i've got made a mistake as quickly as I see not something incorrect with what i've got completed. At which factor I won't admit incorrect and show regret just to assuage them.
2016-09-29 09:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by dotterweich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You proably could take this man to court and get some money out of him. That money was because of you, so you are entitled to it. I hope you kept a lot of receipts and are prepared to hear him lie about you and your daughter. He doesnt sound like a very nice guy-drunk or sober. Go to Legal Aid and ask them if they think you have a viable case.
You'll have to pay court costs going in, but can ask for it to be part of the settlement. Good luck with this, and take someone with you when you go to court.
2007-11-16 07:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by phlada64 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since he got it based on your daughter living there, he owes you for the time that she does not live there. That's worth going to small claims court over: ensure that you have proof that he recieved that money becuase of your daughter and that you have proof of the dates that you moved out.
2007-11-16 07:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so . you gave it to him as a gift as the other guy said.
You are not very bright maam. a recovering alcoholic does not drink, lives by AA principles, and respects himself and others. Now your daughter, your money, and home are gone. it would be nice to know your drinking situation.
You were involved with a practicing alcoholic not a recovering one. I don't know how old you are but you are either very inexperienced or very dim.
Signed
21 years sober alcoholic.
2007-11-16 07:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know truely the legal side of it, but i would say no. he doesnt owe it to you in cash, but he doesnt deserve it either. you could contact your power company tell them that you left(kicked out etc) and they will quickly take that credit away. if your using the same power company at your new location they will prob notice if you try to get power at another location.
so all in all, call report him to the company and he will have that amount added back into his bill(that should screw him some in return for screwing with you and ur daughter
2007-11-16 07:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋