I know this sounds bad but i am 3 weeks pregnant and i'm 13 years old!!! My parents don't know!!! I'm not even supposed to have a boyfriend yet and when i told him, HE DUMPED ME!!!!! What do i do???? My parents will KILL me!!!! I'm not ready for a baby yet!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-16 07:06:17 · 37 answers · asked by i ♥ Sour Patch Kids! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Are you SURE you are pg? If so, it is time to have a long talk with your mom. I am sure she will be upset at first, but remember she loves you NO MATTER WHAT.
You will need to be seen by a Dr ASAP. Because you are so young, your pregnancy (if you decided to continue it) will have to be monitored closely.
My sis in law had her first baby at 14. She was 13 when she got pg. It was hard for her to be a mom so young (her baby's dad dumped her too).
However, she went on to finish school, and meet a nice man who married her (she was 18 then). He was a great dad to her lil girl. They had two more kids of their own together and now the baby she had is almost 18 and finishing school herself this year, so you see it CAN all work out for you.
Talk to your mom and good luck
2007-11-16 07:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Willow 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents. If your parents aren't willing to care for the baby, then adoption will be the best answer. Both you and the baby would have a much better life. No thirteen year old can handle the responsibility of a baby, and besides, you'd have shot down your own future if you tried.
And next time, use a condom. Always, always use a condom. Don't let a guy talk you out of it, because this sort of thing WILL happen. If not pregnancy, then an STD, and there are some nasty ones out there.
2007-11-16 07:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rowan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, to say that this is a rare case would be wrong. In fact there are more and more "tween's " having sex every year. This could be blamed of many things. To be honest It is not necessarily a horrible thing if dealt with maturely. Sad thing is that a bunch of conservative, dogmatic people run North America (assuming you are in north America).
So what do you do? well be SURE before you scare your family. If you are simply late, wait it out for a bit. Your period is affected by many things, IE diet, sex, and stress to name a few. These can cause the period to come early or late. My girl friend and I have had a couple "scares".
After a month late I would then talk to your mom. You will probably feel more comfortable going through with it.
If you have an other brother or sister, try telling them and see if they can get a home test for you. it is not the be all and end all, but they work fairly well.
Hope that helps.
2007-11-16 07:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Matt H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok. Take a deep breath and calm down.
If you're in the UK, you can go and see your doctor on your own, and they will respect your privacy. Have you done a test?
Your folks won't kill you. They're going to be upset, and disappointed in you, and probably quite angry at first. It's going to be a big shock to them, but they won't kill you.
You know what your options are; termination, or have the baby, then either put it up for adoption or keep it. you're going to need a lot of support - and if you keep the baby you're awfully young.
Once you've told your folks, the next thing is that this lad's family need to know. He has as much responsibility for this mess as you do. How old is he?
If you want to talk, you can email me. I'm not a weirdo, but I've got kids (and current police checks!). I only realised when I had my own by choice (aged 30+!) how easily I could have come unstuck when the time *wasn't* right.
2007-11-16 07:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might find it difficult to make a decision on your own. Is there someone you trust to talk to about this? Your parents would be the best choice, but not you may not feel that you can go to them right away. A friend, relative, teacher, or your health care provider are all good choices. You could also talk with a sexual health counselor who is trained to deal with just this sort of situation.
But be wary of where you go. There are a number of centers and hotlines that advertise they deal specifically with this kind of thing. Some will even use scare and pressure tactics to force you into making the decision they want you to make. Remember, only you know what is the right choice for you. They can also provide you with phone numbers for adoption agencies and abortion clinics.Good Luck.
2007-11-16 07:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry so many people are piling on to preach at you, scolding you about your past choices and telling you what choices you should make next. That's not what you need right now. You need to talk to somebody who will really listen to you and help you make YOUR decision, not lay their decision on you. If you can talk to your parents, that's great. They might surprise you with their love and support. If you truly feel you can't right now, you have other options. Is there a Planned Parenthood office in your town or anywhere nearby? Their number is 1-800-230-PLAN. Talk to a counselor there right away. The earlier in your pregnancy you take control and decide what course you want to follow, the more choices you'll have.
2007-11-16 07:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by classmate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
youre right - youre *not* ready for a baby at that age - youre still a kid yourself.
Do yourself a favour and stop this pregnancy ASAP. Finish school - how will you be able to cope with a baby at such a young age?!
Have a baby at the right time, when the dad loves the child. You know deep down what to do - just act FAST before its too late!!!
2007-11-16 07:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chiquita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my sister thought she was pregnant at 16yrs last year. The first thing you should do is tell ur parents They will love you no matter what it is a scary thought then talk to ur ex boyfriend about it tell him he is in it no matter what!! I wish u the best of luck and hope the best for u please dont do abortion adoption might be a option!! Well be truthfull ur parents wont abandoned you!!
2007-11-16 07:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents as soon as possible -- the longer you delay, the fewer options you have. If you decide to go through with the pregancy, you'll need a doctor's advice as early as possible.
Unless your parents are abusive, they'll be there for you with compassion. If you seriously believe they'll hurt you or kick you out, talk to another adult you trust -- a relative or counselor.
2007-11-16 07:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by libertina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, apparently you did not think of the consequences of having sex, before you did the deed. Sad.
First thing you need to do, is tell your parents. It will be hard... but trust me. They are going to have a grand child now...
DO NOT EVER give up on school. You have to have a high school diploma to do ANYTHING that doesn't involve fast food.
You need to talk with your mom and do, to see what to do.
Please dont get an abortion... have the baby and give it up for adoption. If you want to keep it, more power to you.
2007-11-16 07:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Skyleigh's Mom :)™ 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋