My sister in law and I both have children her's are 6 and 24 months. My daughter is 36 months!When I was pregnant she hesitated to let me borrow her maternity clothes{ which were 4 years old} Then when she became pregnant I let her borrow some of the newer styled maternity jeans{ very xpensive} that I had purchased or were bought for me. I am now 12 weeks pregnant with #2 and she did not return my newer clothes.How should I go about asking without being rude or upseting? She told her mom that she didn't know what I was talking about! I'm really upset.Please Help!
2007-11-16 06:15:12 · 23 answers · asked by tink316 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just ask her for them back.
Say "hey i need my maternity clothes back."
it's not rude or upseting. If she thinks it is, then she is just trying to scheme to keep them, or she doesn't have them anymore and is beating around the bush.
2007-11-16 06:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her again and remind her of the details of what the jeans looked like that you lent her and how many there were and around what time you gave them to her. It sounds to me like she is being a little snotty if she is denying you gave them to her. If it hasn't been that long she should remember them for sure especially if they were like new. Sometimes in situations like these if I am getting nowhere with the person I start telling other relatives about it and see if they can embarrass her enough to give them back. I would certainly talk to your brother especially about it. I think if enough people find out that she is not being honest with you that are in the family and they get on her case too she will be embarrassed if she doesn't give them back. And if you do have to go thru very much to get them back I would certainly never loan anything to her again that is pregnancy clothes or even other stuff for a long time. It would be funny if she wanted a favor from you soon and you could say oh I am too busy but if you gave me my pants back I may have time. LOL Tell me how it goes if you can. This is Charitykelson
2007-11-16 06:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by charity k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely ask for them back. Just do it casually and not to make a big deal about it. Why not call her up and say hey, I'd like to come by sometime to pick up the maternity clothes that I let you borrow, maybe we could do lunch or something. Then if she asks what you're talking about, you can be very specific about the pieces you are referring too. And finish up by saying, "Remember? I let you borrow them when you were pregnant?" Good luck! Don't let her walk on you!
2007-11-16 06:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by krisx42 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to return you stuff...either the exact same clothes or replacements. She of all people should know that maternity clothes are not cheap so you shouldn't have to replace them yourself. If she plays dumb then I would let her know that she did you wrong because it's just going to fester in you about it if you don't. If she would have fessed up in the first place I don't think I would make a big deal about it but if she treats you like this then do you really want her close to you? But then again it's only my opinion and I'm rather aggressive. :P
2007-11-16 06:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RING RING RING
her: hello
you: hey sister in law how ya doing
her: im alright, how are you
you: oh geez, bloated, pregnant, moody, haha you know
her: I certainly do
you: hey listen i was just going through my closet and literally cant find anythign that fits me comfortably, and all of a sudden it dawned on me.. do you think that you could dig out those maternity jeans i leant you for little johnny last year??? Me and your new niece or nephew would be ever so grateful
her: Yea sure I will look tonight and give you a call tomorrow
You: awesome you are a life saver.... well i gotta run little suzzy is all over the place... thanks again, love ya see ya at moms on sunday..
see now that wasnt so bad.
2007-11-16 06:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kim B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she said she doesn't know what you're talking about probably means she's acting dumb to cover up the fact that she probably gave them to somebody else. What a jerk! Ask her again, but in front of your husband? brother?...well whoever she's married to or related to, that'll put her on the spot. Just say "hey, I just don't have the money to buy more clothes and it would really help me out to get those back." And then be "nice" to her and say "you can borrow them right back when you plan on your next one".
2007-11-16 06:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Hi Jane. Remember those jeans I let you borrow with your last pregnancy? Well, I'm pregnant again and need them back.... What's that? You don't know what I'm talking about? That's OK. Its been quite awhile and I'm sure its been the last thing on your mind. Why don't we just check your closet and dresser drawers. They may be put away somewhere that you just haven't seen them. They are dark blue with white rhinestones (or whatever). Would you like me to help you look?"
If she still can't find them and plays dumb, you may just have to cut your losses. Sorry. In the big scheme of things, is it THAT big of a deal? I would simply NEVER loan her anything again.
2007-11-16 06:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just say - "I am pregnant again and I need those clothes back.
Remember - When you lend things like clothes to others, do it with an open heart. The items may never be returned.
2007-11-16 07:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you purchased the items and you merely loaned them to her, you do have a right to get them back. I'm so sorry that she is playing dumb with it.
Since she is saying that she doesn't know what you're talking about, chances are that she more than likely got rid of the clothes, which is a shame since they weren't hers to get rid of.
I wish I could advise. Just simply never let her borrow anything again.
2007-11-16 06:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by AV 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that while you don't mind lending them to her, you need them back. I'm sure if she has anymore children you'll be more than willing to let her borrow them again so she has no reason to hold them hostage. Or since its your sisiter in law, your brothers wife?, you could talk to him about it, just tell him that you've been meaning to talk to her but ask him to get them back for you. They're your clothes and you need them back, theres nothing rude about that, shes the one being rude for not giving them back. Good Luck
2007-11-16 07:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋