What kind have you had?
2007-11-16 05:22:00 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I have heard these reactions. When I explain to those who are talking negatively about feminism that I am one of those, most people are quite surprised. They are so caught up in the myths and lies perpetuated by those who don't want equality or to lose their own position of privilege they they don't have a clue to what feminism is really about.
They usually are surprised that I am wearing a short skirt, makeup and heels. They express astonishment over the fact that I have not broken any balls lately and that I am happily married to a very masculine male. They are also aghast that a feminist can have shockingly enough well adjusted, happy, productive children.
All we can do is tell the truth about what feminism is. Those who constantly try and fight it will only make themselves sound and look foolish if they have not done so a million times already.
2007-11-16 05:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy. For some men, their only experiences of people who call themselves feminists are very negative. They might be only on the media etc, but with statements like the following, no wonder some people give you an unfriendly reaction:
"Who cares how men feel or what they do or whether they suffer? They have had over 2000 years to dominate and made a complete hash of it. Now it is our turn. My only comment to men is, if you don't like it, bad luck -- and if you get in my way I'll run you down." Signed: Liberated Woman, Boronia Herald-Sun, Melbourne, Australia - 9 February 1996"
I have the same problem when I try to explain my position on feminism i.e. pro equality, anti misandry. The only solution I guess is to have the patience to explain your position, even for the 1000th time.
2007-11-16 06:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just seem surprised that I'm not some hairy man hating lesbian. I dress well, I have long hair, I love men.
Usually I say that I'm a feminist after someone says that they hate feminists or that we are all bitches. I like to put them on the spot and see them try to explain their way out of that one.
2007-11-16 07:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by weisse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom's husband nearly took my head off. "All feminist are liberal b*tch's and it's the liberals that make all the wrong decisions. They are the reason we have some of these ridiculous laws. I would deny any child that claims to be liberal." he went on like that for a few minutes yelling like a lunatic. My mom got out of the bathroom and said "what did I miss" and I replied "your husband denies me but after hearing his rant, I don't give a damn." then I went home. Could have told him I voted against all the crap he was complaining about but why bother, he already judged me. We pretend to care about each other for my mom. Sounding like they are about to divorce. Got to love the holiday season.
Good question.
2007-11-16 05:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, given that I lived 36 out of my 37 years of life in NYC and San Francisco, I haven't had any negative reactions.
2007-11-16 05:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
None so far. Most of the people to whom I've said this are either feminists themselves, or at least don't disagree with feminism.
2007-11-16 06:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Luckily, I live in a part of the country where stay-at-home wives are viewed as the oddity, not professional women and feminists.
2007-11-16 05:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My boyfriend's friend's (and roommate at the time) girlfriend said to me the first time we went out just the two of us: "You're actually really nice! I was really worried because [insert bf's friend's name] told me you were a ***** feminist." And I laughed and said "well, I AM a ***** feminist" and we laughed and got back to our drinks.
And my bf's friend (and roomie at the time) heard it from me later, and he kept insisting that he never said that, and I was like, "LIES! Obviously you did" and he just got all huffy and "well I can't remember, you know I love you anyway" and I was like "okay, let's hug and make up" and we did.
2007-11-16 05:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I've only had negative reactions when I say "I'm a housewife". I used to say "I'm a feminist" all the time, with no ill effects. Of course, that was in high school and college, and it's a fairly popular viewpoint in the academic world.
2007-11-16 05:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Junie 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
i was told i was nothing like a feminist.
and she was right.
so im not. and probabaly never really was in the first place.
i think i was just trying to find my place in the world.
and now? i dont care about it.
2007-11-16 20:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋