Me and husband have been together 4 years. He asked me to marry him days after us finisihing high school. We set a date and was off to planing and such. Well Katrina came messed our hall up so we had to post pon the wedding. Then we got pregnant. Now have a 16month old. But we fight. not always and I know its not as bad as some. But I think couple cousler would do us good. So why does everything think this is insane?? I grew up with fighting all the time. And husbnad never did but he grew up with getting beat by his grandfather who raised him all the time. I want something different for my son. My husband says he'll go to couple counsler if I can find one cheap or that insurance will pay. BUt am I insane to see counsler now before things get bad like I use to deal with?
2007-11-16 04:28:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may be closer to insanity than you realize, but I applaud you for trying to better yourself for the sake of the child.
Get to counseling anyway you can. With or without him, it is only going to make your life better.
I will pray for you.
2007-11-16 04:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you want is no doubt the best option you could ever pick. You know that how you and your husband relate to each other will determine what your children will be like when they grow up.
So many people have no clue about this so to your credit you see the problem and want to do something about it.
I can't give you advice as to where to go. Only you can find that. But there is so much information on the Internet all waiting for you to discover it that you may find just what you need. Most local governments provide some services that may help you out. Look in the phone book. Call around and you may find just what you want.
You need to know that most husbands will not even consider this because they think you should be able to work it out for yourself. So your husband is way above all of them in wanting to make things better. Good for him.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 12:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couple counselling is a very good idea. You can even go to your church and your minister would do it for free. There are also church groups that offer counselling all of them for free. It's such a refreshing change to find people who are willing to work on a relationship rather than just throwing it away. I have a good feeling you'll make it work.
2007-11-16 12:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by reg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not insane. Counseling can be very helpful. It saved my marriage! Check your local area for income sensitive counseling programs and most do accept insurance. Until then I recommend reading John Gray's books Venus and Mars. They help people understand the differences between men and women and offer advice.
2007-11-16 12:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by royal_blue_bird 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What types of things do you fight about? If its over money then that's easy to solve. Sit down and develop a budget then stick to it. If its over stupid small things then that's a little harder to solve. If its because he hangs out with his friends every other night or on weekends or something like that. Then you have to sit down and without screaming work out a solution that allows him to see his dudes and spend time with you.
These are the types of things you will work out with a marriage counselor.
So, should you go see one? That's up to you. If you honestly feel that you just have to see one, then do it. What's the worst thing that could happen?
2007-11-16 12:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do not even have to be fighting to attend couseling. You are not insane. You are being proactive. Good for you. Good luck and have patience.
2007-11-16 12:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mandrew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband feel that you need counciling, by all means, go to counciling! Don't worry about what other people think.
2007-11-16 12:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋