I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Ok My husband and i have been split up for one month. At first he wanted to get back but i didn't because of all the pain that he has caused me. He made me go thru so much he was very irresponsible, on and of jobs for one year. Would not come home to sleep cause he was at the casino ( adiction). I was always pulling him out of the holes he was in. I knew back then that it was not gonna work out with him, cause i'm the opposite of him. So now I'm heartbroken because i love him so much and i want to get back with him. But he does not want to. Why? He tells me he still loves me though. Do you guys think that he will change his mind one day, That he'll call me back? to work things out with me? If not what can i do to move on? I'm always tempted to calling him and begging him to come back with me. I want to stop but i can't. I love him

Answer 1

He is not a good man in your life. Yes, you may love him with all your heart, but you mind is different from him. What you desire in a relationship, he cannot give. The way for him to come back to you is when he lost all his money and need help paying the money he borrow.
I understand it hurts, but why. Are there another man in your life before that wanted to care for you and treat you as their work?
I remember I was like that 10 years back. The woman I love when for a player. She give him his heart and got hurt bad. I understand she wanted my care and his look. But in the end she choose look over love. Well she was young. I have move on to a loving wife now where she treat me like the work. But that does mean anything. The point is to find out if there is still a chance for happiness for you. There has to be a better man out there. Don't lose hope. Don't just think that you so call "husband" is your only choice. You deserve better and you do. Don't limit yourself. Try meeting other people. Like my cousin say "Go out and see what happen. If we hook up. Great. If not, meet a new friend and have a good time".
Good luck and take care.

Answer 2

ok, stay split. As you already know he is addicted to gambling and he is not going to change 'cause he doesn't want to. he loves that casino more than you. You don't want him back, he will pull you down further than you can even imagine. He doesn't love you he loves you pulling him out of messes. You need to pursue your friends, interests and your career. Take some classes, have some fun, learn something new, see what the world can offer you! Whenever you start to think of him tell yourself that you are so much better off and pull your mind off of him force it to think of something else. You will be sooooo glad you did!! Think positive.

Answer 3

Sounds like he is out having fun, his kind of fun not yours. That could be one reason he doesn't want you back because you don't like what he likes and so he founds someone who does like to go to the casinos. Have you ever been to a casino, it is alot of fun. You think he would do just about anything in order to get back together with you. He doesn't want to see how destructive he is to himself or you. He isn't ready to admit he has a problem and until he does that I'm afraid you two will not get back together.
I know you don't want to hear this but you need to come back to reality and see you two are not meant to be.

Answer 4

He will not change his mind, and you would have to be out of your mind to take him back. Compulsive gamblers are bad news. To move on, try therapy to help you get over this loser and find someone better. There are much better guys out there. The fact that he tells you he still loves you tells me that he is very manipulative. Avoid him like the plague. Run away and don't look back. Nothing good will come of a relationship with someone like this.

Answer 5

He will never change and you can not change him, yes when he hits bottom he will want you back, but once he get you back thing will go right back to the way they were, do you want that, move on but be very careful , we seem to follow the same kind of men.

Answer 6

He loves casinos more than you. That keeps him from missing you so much and wanting to get back together. As long as he can feed his addiction, nothing else matters.

He won't realize how much he loves you or needs you until he overcomes his addiction, and he's got to want to help himself. You really are better off.

Answer 7

You say you know it won't work out, but then you want him back....I think you're best bet is to seek counselling, hopefully he is, too, for his addiction. The only way you should take him back is if he changes, and admits he has a problem, and seeks help for it. You don't need to be dragged down with him.

Answer 8

you can love someone and ot be with them. This is an unhealthy situation and perhaps he is begining to recognize it more than you. Let him go. the only way to move on with your life is to get out there and do it. You have to want it and act upon it for it to happen. Don't dwell on the past. Take this alone time to focus on yourself instead of him.

Answer 9

He is a self centered person and all he carried about was himself not you. He likes his freedom, Hunny you can do so much better. Go out with your girlfriends, have fun, start doing things for yourself, don't let him keep dragging you down.

Answer 10

stop humiliating yourself!!!! he should be asking you back..
there are better men out there!! it takes about a year to get over a relationship its very hard at first all you do is think about hime you want to call hime on the phone, you cry alot, you can't function right ...but believe me you get over it....try going out , keep yourself busy,and DO NOT CALL HIME!!!
you deserve better and you will find someone better!be strong!!!