Is this normal, this will be our first child, but recently he has been so crampy and moody an i tell him, he says it's me thats moody. We were at the doctors office yesterday I felt like he did not want to be there. Last night he ask me what is it that he is doing so he can change, and I can even answer that I'm so absentminded. so i told him I just wanted to be left alone he walked out and slam the door. I really feel he dosent want to be around me or want the child, he tells me different. What is wrong with me, is it my hormones or am i just crazy.
2007-11-16 03:27:30 · 13 answers · asked by melli 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you all for your support, but for those such as Lardo, for your information this is a planned pregnancy.
Just from reading your comments seems like you're the one who needs help. People are here for advice and support. If you are here just to put people down get yourself help and get over yourself. you must be lonely and need some help.
2007-11-16 04:23:49 · update #1
No you're not crazy, you're pregnant, and that can bring on all kinds of mood swings and emotional upheaval - for both husband and wife!
You are just more sensitive to things right now. Recognize that this is most likely due to hormones, but that it's something you CAN manage. That means be careful what you say to your husband.
He asked you last night how he can change to make things better. That was a gesture of peace and good will and you shot it down by telling him to leave you alone.
Of course that hurt his feelings and made him angry. What did you expect?
Of course you don't want to be alone, so why did you tell him this? You want him to be there for you and be supportive. But he can't if you're going to push him away.
When you are feeling cranky and irritable, STOP and take some deep breaths. Tell yourself "I can control this." Decide today that you want your pregnancy to be a time of peace and harmony, not turmoil and disagreement.
You need to take the first step. Your husband will follow. And remember, you're not the only one with needs and worries. He has them, too. Men often worry about money and jobs and how they will handle fatherhood. Be willing to hear his side, too.
Mothers and fathers both need support. It's not just about you. Marriage is about giving and sharing.
2007-11-16 03:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your hormones! I feel you and you do need to give him a break. Try to forget about everything you have been feeling and cook your hubby a nice dinner and the two of you just enjoy each others company. Don't talk about the last few days or about how you feel. What will happen if you keep pushing the issue is you will start feeling guilty for giving him such a hard time once you start feeling better. I go through my ups and downs and i try to make him the culprit of my insecurity when in fact it is me and my crazy hormones so why make him feel guilty for something he isn't doing. We pregnant women are so focused on what is happening in and to our bodies that we forget to take care of our men and to keep in mind that they have to go through this pregnancy as well and they have some of the same fears and insecurities as we do. He may feel like you don't love him anymore because you are feeling crabby all the time. Be happy with each other because once the baby gets here you will not have that time alone and you will miss it greatly
2007-11-16 03:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, my hubby is sort of ambivilent, too. He flat our refuses to go to apointments even the ultrasound where will will be finding out the sex. He doesn't really want to be in delivery room, either. However, and this may help you...I did get him to talk about it and he told me straight out that he is scared. This is my third but his first, and he doesn't know what to expect. That doesn't mean, of course that he will be willing to pick up a book. Anyway, Your husband may be scared as well. Our own hormones make it difficult for us to work out anything with anyone without blowing things out of proportion. If he asked you what he can do that is good sign, even if the conversation ended in a door slam. I suggest you hug him alot, and keep talking to him about the baby, and eventually he'll come around. Try not to get angry with him, its not his fault he's guy.
2007-11-16 03:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 weeks with #2 and my husband has been cranky too. Some of it is my hormones but he finally admitted that he's worried about money and a new baby coming. It's part of life. If you can sit down with your hubby and try to talk it out at least you'll know why he's cranky. Good luck!
2007-11-16 03:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I went through the same thing and didn't talk to my husband for almost a month when I was 7 months pregnant. It's our first and it got so bad that he totally ignored me and me him. I got so sick of yelling at him that I asked him does he not want the baby and want to leave or something?
He was basically freaking out that the baby is coming and didn't know how to react. He said he felt bad that I was gaining weight and having pains while nothing was happening to him. I told him, well it doesn't help that you're not supportive and loving and if it doesn't shape up now, it's going to be worst when the baby comes.
He finally got it after talking to him several times. I also talked to him mom to see if she can feel him out. He's been wanting this baby for years but just freaked out. Your husband may be feeling the same way. One thing that helped us, is that I told him what I want to do while it's still just us two. He's clueless if I don't spell it out for him so the list worked for us. Baby is coming in 2 weeks so he's ready now.
2007-11-16 03:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by HPTX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Harmones for sure. Mine were all out of wack when I was preg. I would be fine one minute then crazy the next. Try to take it easy on him. He has offered to change to help so think about what he needs to do and tell him. You probably, like most pregos just feel fat and ugly. When really it is the most beautiful thing ever. Turn this to a postive thing and enjoy it while you can. Good luck
2007-11-16 03:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by jmc24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be your hormones. It might be him. Sit him down and tell him that you love him and that he needs to be understanding for the next 4 to 5 months and tell him that you will be moody and emotional during that time and for him to not take it personal. Good luck!!
2007-11-16 03:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet its your hormones. I am the same way. I constently think my man is being a jerk too. But most of the time its just me.
2007-11-16 03:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told him to leave you alone and he did, after he asked how he could help you. I think it is the many moods of pregancy and you may not be realizing it.
2007-11-16 03:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's alllllll hormones...it will get better!
2007-11-16 03:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋