I always see women answer that husbands should do ______(fill in the bank). Why do the men always have to be the ones to plan something romantic? Yes we can but how about the wives suprise US men with romantic things.You want equal rights well then you should have to show your love as equally as we do when it comes to planning activities. movies, dinner, romantic weekend etc......
2007-11-16 03:12:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of us do and still dont get anything back or any appreciation for it. I was off work early and cleaned the entire house so he wouldnt have anything to do when he got home and made my husband a GREAT dinner . he scarfed it down and went to watch tv.(has happened several times)
2007-11-16 03:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. Im guilty as charged of saying the "whydontyas". I think at the core though, it is not so much that I want to have a romantic dinner, movie, weekend, etc. What I really want is to be swept off my feet, surprised, romanced( if I plan it, Im not BEING romanced). I am planning a get-together. Women ( maybe all people) like to be swept off their feet, blind-sided with hawt passion. Planning it for yourself takes the heat off.
2007-11-16 03:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny you ask I have almost always planned the romantic things in my Marriage like breakfast in bed candle lite dinners at home that sort of thing My husbands more romantic side is lets go out where do you want to go... I think it goes both ways!
2007-11-16 03:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife makes all kinds of romantic plans, or brings up suggestions of things for us to plan together.
Yes, she sometimes has chided me for not taking the inititative in this respect. But your question implies a false "either or". It suggests that if the wife wants the husband to behave this way more often, then she is saying it must always be the husband who does so and that she bears no responsibility to do likewise. That has not been my experience.
2007-11-16 03:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the liberated woman's conundrum .....
They want to be "romanced" and "surprised", yet their women-lib side tells them that to do so they would have to give up CONTROL and thats not a good thing.
So, the solution is to TELL their man what he SHOULD do.
That way they get what they want, but they still have CONTROL over the situation.
Most women have become so accustomed to this mindset that its taken as a given in our society and they (and most men) don't even recognize that they are doing it.
Its also the MAIN reason wives NAG their husbands. Its not that they want you to do something, but they want you to do it on their timeline and exactly the way THEY want it done.
Its the feminist movement run amok - its no longer equal rights, its over-entitlement.
2007-11-16 03:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree....both husbands and wives need to equally take the responsibility for planning romantic escapades.....Guys like surprises too!
2007-11-16 03:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you should look out for that type of woman - a super planner. While I do special things for my husband, it's not grand gestures. It's more like a special meal. Men are supposed to be and should be the ones who take charge and dazzle their women.
2007-11-16 03:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by CURRIEND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me its not that I expect it I just would appreciate it..I am the one who does all the planning, and all though I cant speak for all the other women in the world, I can imagine its the same for them as well...I would just appreciate it if he could or would take over from time to time....its not that the men ALWAYS have to, it would just be nice if they did every now and again....cause like I said in most cases its the woman who does the majority of the planning...
2007-11-16 03:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I for one, buy concert tickets as a surprise for him (the concerts he loves), treat him to dinner once in a while at a new restaurant he'd love, call him just to say I love you, cook special meals, leave little notes, etc. etc.
So ... don't think it is that the wives don't do these things; think many wish their husband would surprise them once in while also.
2007-11-16 03:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess the woman your with is just selfish, we're not all like that. but some guys don't like the surprises. But anyhow im sick of people generalizing women and men, we aren't all the same, just the person your with is a weirdo!
2007-11-19 12:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋