someone tell me if im right or wrong please this killing me?

Question

my husbands cousin came over a while back&got2drunk &puked all over my house in my dishes my bathroom evewhere she didnt clean any of it we had to most good people would have at least cleaned it wen they woke up no she just left then last night she came ova&had a couple drinks b4 she had to go to work at 12am i told her u might want2take it easy u have work its very strong liquor shes like no im fine kept drinking got drunk and started to fall asleep we told her she needed to get up and set her alarm on her phone she wouldnt walk the 2 feet to do that they sits up holds her mouth for 3 minutes as were beggin her2go2the bathroom she refuses2&sits there&pukes all ova my living room brand new jordans couch floor she finaly went in the bathrooom&puked all over the flor tub touilet&didnt clean just left like last time my husband is like oh its ok no its not ok i was nausus cuz of the smell and instad of making sure i was ok and listing2 how i feel about this he says imgoin 2 check on her

she my husband kept saying im going to check on my cousin stop bitching but should i this is the second time this has happend i just hung outwith her for the first time yesterday in a long time because i trusted her with my child and she basically neglected him while she was watching him anyways i was pissed and telling him how this is unexceptable and for him not to clean it she had already ruined my china b4 and she needs to clean it b4 she leave am i right???? he kept choosing her side over mine telling me that im ****** up for being this way but wouldnt any of u be pissed 2 if she couldnt handle it expecially after i told her to stop then its her fault she gopt sick andshe needs to pay the conciquences right? now she wont answer her phone ive tried cleaning as much as i can but im a stay @ home mom with an infant i cant do much my house smells so bad its nausiating my couch is staind so isnt my rug she needs to rent one of those washing vacumes and get over here&clean it am i rite

just want to add she is not a drunk shes just a light weight and tries to be cool. and i would never let a drunk watch my son we trusted her we came home she was sleepin in our bed with out even putting the sheets that she took off back on my son woke up i had to tell her to get her *** up and wen she went into my sons room he had pooped through his diaper and it was all over his bed and instaed of cleaning it up she left it there all his sheets and put him back in his crib i asked her that wen he woke up if she could feed him breakfast instaed of feeding him baby food she dumped half a box of cherios on his bed with him in it and the **** still in it.

Answer 1

disgusting.......don't invite her over anymore...
she should pay for professional housecleaning and a new couch

Answer 2

Your husband is a jerk you have every right to want her to clean her mess . If your husband is so against you being mean to her about the clean up then he should be the one to clean up after his cousin . He needs to have her or himself pay for the carpet getting cleaned and getting rid of the smell ,I'm sure it's driving you crazy plus she is not even taking good care of your son what the hell is that . Your husband must not be a great guy because any one else would have been just as upset ,first time maybe second time oh hell no she would have to clean that mess up herself but I know one thing she would never come back to my home again . Your right to feel the way you feel . It also sounds like your husband has no respect for you or your feelings that's not what a relationship is about. Trust, loyalty , respect I don't hear any of that in this at all.

Answer 3

Well of course you're in the right! Your husband's cousin is an alcoholic, it sounds like, and needs more help than you or your husband can provide. I would forbid any more visits; if she does come to visit, make sure there is no booze to be found. There's no excuse for puking all over someone's place like that. How do you get a smell like that out of your couch?

You need to lay down the law to your husband. He needs to persuade her to get into a program. Until she does, ground rule number one is: No drinking during visits, and if she somehow shows up drunk, turn her away. Tell him you're tired of her using the house as a toilet to throw up in. If she can't visit, it may be enough of an incentive to make her want to get help.

Answer 4

You have the right to be mad about that. If she can't even clean up her own vomit then you should just tell your husband that she should not even come back. Tell him that you don't apprecitate having to clean up after her when she does that all over your house. It's not ok if you were getting sick too. If she does come over tell her that she doesn't need to drink if she can't hold her alcohol.

Answer 5

Yes, you are right. And your husband should be ashamed of himself.

Maybe you should make him clean the puke up!!!!! I bet that his tone would change then.

His cousin has no respect for you or your home if she can puke all over and not even try to clean it up. Don't get me wrong people can go to far when they drank. But in the morning they can have a little respect and clean up there own mess!!!!

She maybe angry but she will get over it. Maybe you should plan a big party night out over at her place and show her the same respect she has showed you!!!!!!!

If I was you when I talked with her I would tell her that you don't mind her coming over but that if she can't hold her liquor then she needs to not be drinking in your home!!! Or at least if she gets sick to clean up after herself. You aren't her mom and don't need to be cleaning up her body fluids. Then ask her how she would like it if you came to her home and did as she does?

Then tell your husband if he wants her to come over and party then he is responsible for taking care of her and her messes!!! Ask him how he would like cleaning up her puke? How he would feel if she got sick all over something that he held dear?

Tell him that you aren't nagging or saying he can never see her again you are just saying that you aren't her mom or maid!! And it isn't your job to clean up after a puking drunk.

Ask him how he would feel if it was someone in your family was coming over and puking all over his stuff and then leaving without cleaning up there mess? And how he would feel if you left it for him to clean up? How he would feel if you told him to quit his bitching after cleaning up there mess!!!!

So yes to your question!!! You have evey right to be angry!!!!

Answer 6

I would have freaked out!! If my husband did not care if she cleaned it up then I would make his *** do it. Screw that and dont screw him until he cleans it up. If you want a bit of revenge go to her house and throw up on everything even her bed. That is just plain rude and disgusting. DO NOT let her come back to your house.

Answer 7

She needs to clean it and if your husband disagrees then he needs to clean it. That's plain nasty and tacky. She should have respect for your home and your property. If she messes it then she needs to clean it. You and your child don't need to be living in her filth. It's disgusting and unsanitary. I wish you good luck and Happy Holidays. When she comes over, hide the booze. 2D

Answer 8

BAN her. There's no sense in having people like that over. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Answer 9

First of all - NEVER trust a drunk with your infant.

Second - Learn some grammar

Answer 10

LOL, call 911. xD