Has anyone gone through a pregnancy alone?

Question

I am four months pregnant and the daddy isn't around. Has anyone gone through their pregnancy alone? I feel like I can't do this and I'm so upset.

My mom died three years ago, and I don't really have any other family. What do you suggest I do to make it through?

Answer 1

Oh, honey. I had 2 children at 17 and 19 and no daddies around either. My mom committed suicide when I was 13, so I so much know what you are going through. You're not alone. Try to enroll in some pregnancy classes and that way you can meet new people. Focus on yourself and your baby. I grad. hs. 3rd in my class and went on to college. It wasn't easy, but I was determined to give my children a better life than what I had. Now they are 17 and 15. I've been married for 11 years and we have a 10 yr. old and a 5 1/2 month old together. Remember God never puts more on you than you can handle. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Be positive and take care of yourself. You and your baby will be fine and you'll make it! Trust me there are a lot more obstacles down the road, and one day this won't seem so bad! God Bless You and Your Baby! And yes, I miss my mother every day of my life and wish that she were here to see my children. That is normal to miss her.

Answer 2

Well Iam now 5 months pregnant with my first child and for the first three weeks the father was around...NOW all of a sudden he has gotten another woman pregnant and he doesn't want to be in his daughter's life...So I suggest if you have faith in God this is the time to put all of it in him and appreciate the people that are around you and try to make new friends and love your old ones even more than you already do. Trust me everything will be okay. It will be hard and at times you will cry and wish everything will go away but think about the blessing that you are about to give the world and that should give you the greatest feeling of all.....

Answer 3

First of all, my sympathies for your loss. Losing your mom is a difficult thing and a time when you realize how you really do have to stand on your own two feet as a woman.

I've gone through two pregnancies alone. My husband was deployed to the Middle East Both times.

What got me through were my friends. I spent a lot of time at their houses, we went out to movies and dinner and even got together regularly to exercise (for both fun and fitness).

If you don't have family, then it's essential to create a network of support through friends and through a good church - if you are a believer.

You need people to lean on, to make you laugh and to have fun with. These same people will also stick with you after the baby comes and help in ways you will never know!

And on those days when you are not with friends, your unborn baby can bring you much comfort. I know it may sound a little silly, but I really bonded with my son before he was born. I talked to him and shared my hopes and dreams with him and just relaxed at home and enjoyed being pregnant sometimes.

There is some effort at the beginning to make new friends if you don't have many, but the rewards down the road are endless.

Congratulations.....and hang in there, hon!

Answer 4

Aww I'm so sorry! Yes, plenty of people do this alone. Although it is one of the times in life that you absolutely do not want to be alone, you have to be strong and keep thinking of that little baby. I am single, and 9 weeks pregnant. I went all hormonal and broke up with my fiance before I knew I was pregnant and of course when I told him, he thought I was lying to try to get him back. We weren't even speaking until I approached him with the ultrasound photos, now things are slowly coming together. Hopefully the father of your baby eventually comes around at least for support. If not, you will still be ok. Just be strong, you can do this! If you need to talk, email me.
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Answer 5

If you have any good friends they can be of help this is really a period in life of trial and error so i am sorry that your u don't have a your mother,but when commimg into experience with being pregnant and soon being a mother it will take your knowledge on this situation.. They "baby daddy's usually arent there are a few that stick around, but not without problems it is very hard to be pregnant and you don't even have at least his support...

Answer 6

Well first of all, bless you in your decision to keep the baby. I went through a pregnancy all by myself, from Day 1. He said he would be around, but never was, and then I found out that he had lied about his AGE and - get this - HIS REAL NAME!!!
I mean, first and last! SO, I decided since I obviously couldn't trust him, I'd be less stressed if he wasn't around. He chose not to be around anyway, never showed up for any appt's even though I kept him in the loop. Birth day of the baby came, he disappeared completely. My child has never known his father and I've handled it well.
I won't lie, it was not easy, but you might have friends who will help you, and if not, try to find some parent groups and make new friends. My mom died when i was 1, and my Dad lives in the States (I am in Canada).
Like I said, it won't be easy, but the rewards far outweigh the hardships. Stay positive, the baby will benefit from your peace of mind, instead of worrying all the time. Best of luck to you and your little one.

Answer 7

I have gone through a pregnancy alone. At the time I didn't live near any family and the father totally abandoned us. It was hard but I got through it. If I can do it, I know you can. Just try to focus on the baby growing inside of you. Do you have any good friends you can lean on? Friends really helped me get through it.

Answer 8

Hi, I am sorry for your pain. I have been there and I understand. You can do this, I wont lie and tell you it will be easy. Your baby will bring you so much joy. If you need help emotionally and financially you should contact your local public services...They have womens groups for all different ages to help with dealing with having a baby alone. The public services can also help you with the financial peice. Places like birth right can help you with making contacts with agencies to help you in whatever your decision is..

You can do it be brave ...and it is ok to cry and have questions best of luck

Answer 9

I went through my pregnancy alone. My bf at the time was still into going out and partying. I was always sick in bed. I started college and I had to stop going since I was put on bed rest. I know it's hard, but it will get better. You just have to be strong and keep your head up. Not only for you but for the bundle of joy you are carrying inside of you.

Good luck

Answer 10

Sorry to say, but people go through that everyday! I somewhat went through it. I suggest you start educating yourself about what will happen to you as you move further along in your pregnancy.

Its tough, but if it is all you know... its not that bad. In other words, you will learn to "fend for yourself". I raised my now five year old daughter from birth. Her father came around when it was convenient for him, but i always stayed there. Other than that, it was me and her 24/7. The only get away i had was work. BUT its all i know! If he ever wanted to have her for the weekend, I wouldnt know what to do because i've never been away from her.

Just know, its not too bad! You will stress! You will cry and fel sorry for yourself! You will hate that mutha effer at times! But as the kid gets older, you will see that you cant do anything about his decisions!
okay...i think that is enough soap-box for one day!