Please help me out making a decision......Career or Love or PARENTS?

Question

I am a 24 year old guy, working for some MNC in my hometown.I am in relation with a girl. We both desire to marry in near future.She is also working for some MNC in some other far away city.Unfortunately we both belong to different caste.Our parents are opposing our decision.However we both have decided to marry & live together in any circumstances.So I want to get transferred to the city where she is working.My position (professionally) in the current location reached a height & will grow more.If I get transfer it could help me reach more & more heights with learning more new things including independency. My girl also wants me to locate myself to the new city but my parents do not wanted the change in any condition.Also the new city is more expensive.What shud I do? Shud I reach to my love or should I do what my parents want. I want to gain all with great new hopes attached. Rate the priorities. PLEASE HELP PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

if you like to fly away and be independent then i think you should do all that. you need to prove to your parents that they have to let you out of the nest so how and you are a grown man who needs to spread your wings. You have to move out eventually and if you are ready why not now. be an adult when you talk to them.
Remember in your parents eyes you are still the little boy they give hugs to and you will always be that little boy. show them your responsible side so they wont worry about you.

Answer 2

You are your own man in the first place. It is your choice on where you want to live. Who you want in your life as a spouse. And the job move. First, I would look at the move, if you can afford to live there and it not put a huge dent in your expenses. Then do so, make a budget so you can see your expense numbers on paper. Also, use a city compare program on the internet to find out what your cost will be living there. The program is called "Cost of living comparsion." It tells you the whole 9 yards about where you are and the place you want to go to. Second, you and your girlfriend is the ones who are going to live together. Ask your parents why they have such decisions about your relationship with an open mind. They had their own chances in their relatinship. Third, your job, you are looking for job growth and enjoyment. If that is there at the new place and the money is good. MOVE! I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If career advancement is a sure thing in the BigCity then that is what you should seriously think about. I would definately put the LOVE on the back burner until you are established. If this LOVE interest is a true one then it will certainly wait until you do advance and your financial concerns and career will certainly help stabilize a new marriage. I think your parents are opposed to the situation because of the Love interest at this point, and not so much that you want to move. If my 24 yr old son was in the same situation, I would want him to secure the career before jumping into marriage. Take care of YOU first.....moving is a big step in it's own, and especially with higher living costs. Establish the career first. Don't bite off more than you can chew it will just choke you up....and the last thing you would want is to have to go back home to your parents and tell them that they were right.....

EDIT: Many of the answers on here hold little concern for your future, but ok'd your desire to love. Others downed you in the lack of decision making on your part. And I commend you for caring enough about your loving parents to ask the question.
You are young, as was the answerers, and all in all......your financial future should come to the front. Justifying your love interest with moving is your first concern as stated, however, you justified it with career advancement. Your parents are concerned with your financial future, and that should be your first concern. If you can establish yourself in the big city, and focus on your career, over a period of time the woman you choose to marry and start a life with will fall into place in your parents eyes. They're concern is not for whom you want to sleep with:...... but that you can sleep.

Answer 4

If you really have to ask this then you allready have your answer, if your straight away answer isn't the girl then you cant really like her as much as you think you do, allthough I think you should egnore your parents and do whatever you want to do, your a big boy now you've got to make them realise that you are a serious adult or they will cling to you forever, make arrangements that you call them once a week or somthing to lessen the blow, but on regards to the girl if you cant answer that yourself without help then you obviously have made your dission there, you dont want to end up married and unhappy. Go slow and focus on your carrer for a while, that way IF you do decide to move then you will have more money for if you do move to the city, just take things slow.

Answer 5

When a man marries - he LEAVES his parents and he and his wife become one flesh. You are starting a new family now - your parents can't rule over your life once you're married. I hope your parents will understand that - you're a grown man you can make your own decisions. Hopefully you will still be able to have a relationship with them. Nothing worse then a man that can't stand up for himself or his wife to his parents - wife first! I think first you need to decide whether or not you want to marry. Yes? Then you can forgo the parents problem. Next is moving - that's something you will have to decide. It sounds like there's potential in both places - so I would discuss it with your fiance. Together you will both come up with the answer.

Answer 6

How long hvae you and this girl been apart? Are you sure she's the one? As for moving, yoour parents will be tore up because thier baby is all grown-up. Been there, done that. All of mine have moved out except the youngest(18 this year). It hurt when they moved but I knew that they had the brains to take care of themselves. Yes, I had to help a little but that's a mom thing. Call your parents often, just to say I love you and miss you. They will understand your decision, after all, your grown, RIGHT?

Answer 7

Now you know that at some point you have to stand on your own two feet. Your job is important as it will make you able to pay all your bills. Your love will be helping you as you get married and you will work as one. Only you know if you two are ment for each other. Your parents will always be protective of you and try to lead you to a path that they think best for you. Dint get mad at them as they love you or they would not care what you do. Its VERY HARD for them to let go and let you start your life. You will deal with this some day---good luck... So check with your new boss and discuss what Laval you will start at with your knowledge from your present job and make the step if its a sound offer. Always tr to step up and not backwards...

Answer 8

If shes your soul mate, get your transfor.Do what will bring happyness into your life!Your parents are not marrying her, you are!Your parents love you and right now they think they are doing the right thing. I think that they are just scared that if you move away that they wont see you.What they need to realize is that its your life and not thiers, they need to be there for you in what ever decisions you make.If they don't agree with this move in your life, you need to do it anyway, you don't want to be sitting 25 years from now wondering what if. HAPPYNESS IS THE KEY!!!!!! Its time for you to reach for the stars. Your pareants will come around.

Answer 9

You must live for you. NEVER make life changing decisions based on the want of someone else opposing it.....as long as their not opposing it for negative reasons. Sounds to me like your parents just want you to stay because they love you and want you close. Follow you instinct. Whenever faced with decisions like this picture yourself a 90 year old in your wheelchair chair reflecting on your life. Would not leaving be something youd be proud of or would you be filled with regret.

Answer 10

At 24 you are old enough to make your own decisions. Do what your gut tells you to do. We all make bad decisions and it is our responsibility as adults to deal with them. If you really want to move then do it you dont need your parents permission you are grown. If you move it will either work out or it wont. Either way you are the one who will make the decision and that is what you need to tell your parents.