I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now...
we both love each other so much,also we believe we were made for each other.
but the problem's that whenever he gets upset or angry,he doesn't treat me well.
few days ago,we were talkin when suddenly he said that I should watch my wordz while talkin to him when I actually didn't say anything wrong,so he went crazy and left just like that.and I kept calling him several times to talk about it and fix things but he refused to answer me.
till I started to feel humiliated from his actions and thinkin now about breakin up with him as long as he's not respectin me.
what should I do?
2007-11-16 02:54:50 · 14 answers · asked by Pinka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should talk to him about how you feel. Maybe he doesn't realize the effect its having on you. Sometimes when we get emotional, we overreact and that seems to be what is happening here. Talk to him about how you'd prefer to handle arguments and ask him how he would prefer to handle them as well. See if there is a compromise that can be reached. The next time you argue, try the new technique the two of you agreed on, if that doesn't work then, maybe you should break before his anger turns into violence
2007-11-16 02:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Humiliated for his actions"... normally I don't reply to stuff like this but while search for my own answers in life I came across this and felt the need to show you something I recently learned.
Trust your gut and believe in it. If it doesn't feel right... then, it's prolly not right. Also, if you can't respect yourself... then how do you expect him to respect you. Show that you respect yourself and PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN by leaving. That's right... one foot in front of the other... right out the door and close it... never looking back!!!!
Trust me... I know this one way to well... I just ended a 8 yr relationship/ engagment over a problem that started 7 yrs ago. I take part of the blame only cause I personally should have walked out yrs ago. I let a behavior repeatedly take place... sure it got better, but it was still happening to some degree. People don't change... they grow up... some traits are life long. I'm lucky it got better... that's odd... normally it gets worse. The only thing was that... I'm majoring in psychology and I tried working with him cause I truly believed in him and he was willing to work through it. HEY THAT DIDN'T EVEN HELP.
MY BEST ADVICE... search on line for traits of an abusive relationship/ person. I SAY THAT CAUSE... I see four signs just in what you stated above.
2007-11-18 11:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say anything wrong but felt the need to 'fix' things. He is a control freak with anger issues and he is playing you like nothing else trying to make you lose all your self worth. Do what your gut is telling you to do.
2007-11-16 11:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get out of this relationship! I'm a little concerned about his actions. I have been in a few abusive relationships myself, they start off with small stuff like that and then it starts to get worse. I got stocked from one of my relationships for 8 months. It was scary.I think you should get out now and find a good relationship. If the relationship is worse then this, please be careful.
2007-11-16 11:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by whitewolfhowling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl from my situation u need to break up with him and i knw that its gonna hurt but thats something u need to do for ur self ..he is only going to bring u down emotionaly and then he might start getting physicaly violent witj ya and u dont need that Please take this advise strongly et out of that relationship u'll find domeone who will treat u right the way u deserve
2007-11-16 11:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by purple eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut on this one, hon....he sounds like he's kinda dangerous when he gets angry...and you don't want to be a punching bag for ANY man!! I would end it NOW...no more contact with him....You deserve MUCH better! Good Luck to you!
2007-11-16 11:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Melly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look if youre not happy, then you have to close the deal. But if you fire him, can I fill out an application?
2007-11-16 15:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by FABULOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf does the same exact thing seriously i think we might be dating the same guy LOL.....i usually just give him time and let him call me back we've been together 3 yrs and i love him so much....so im trapped i can walk out i do think abt leaving him all the time but then i think abt all the good times i have w him and honestly we have more good times than bad so i stick around and i give him his space and i let him call me back when hes not upset nemore!! SOrry if i wasnt much help but GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-11-16 11:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger86 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What exactly did you say to him to make him tell you to watch your words? Sounds like he is acting like an immature baby. Do you really want to deal with that?
2007-11-16 11:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he makes you feel this way. then he isn't right for you. no one should humiliate you, or make you feel like crap. you deserve to be respected, and if he isn't doing that, then you need to find someone better. if he is doing this, then he doesn't really love you. it is as easy as that.
2007-11-16 11:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mercutia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋