I realize that this is America, and that in yahoo Q and A you feel you have the right to answer any question you want. And that's great. God bless America! But that also gives ME the right to complain! So here goes.....
Why do people with absolutely no experience on a subject, answer questions? When you ask a question about a cheating spouse or lazy husbands, why do twenty something people who've never been married think they have the answer? I always crack up at the one line answers to serious questions that read "leave and find somebody better." As if that's a solution to ANY marital problem! And this doesn't apply to just marriage/divorce, but to ANY question.
So I guess my point is that if somebody wants your OPINION then give it to them. But if you really don't have any actual experience on the subject, then maybe you should shut up and move on! The world might be a better place if we all stopped talking out of our arses! Sound good?
2007-11-16 02:46:17 · 35 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HA HA HA! I can;t believe how so many of you are becoming unglued with this question! Cracks me up! Seems to me that maybe I struck a nerve? Like I said....if you believe you have the right to pull answers out of your buttt's on questions you know very little about, then don't get mad at me for calling you out on it! But hey....thanks for proving my point! Glad to see that some of you have a pulse after all!
2007-11-16 03:00:24 · update #1
All I have to say is 296 yds rushing!
Sorry man I had too.
2007-11-16 03:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because just because I don't have a piece of paper saying that I am married doesn't mean that I have no clue about love and how to deal with someone that you love. It also doesn't mean that I am talking out of my a**. The best advice comes from MANY different sources and a smart person will make sure that they have a very well rounded gamut of information before they make a snap decision. I've received some of the BEST advice from people that have an outside view. Often those that don't have that exact experience are the ones that can offer the most un-biased rational opinion.
You have the right to complain, others have the right to voice their opinions.
2007-11-16 03:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. There is one exception in my opinion, those who have had even family or friends that have dealt with the situation may be able to answer the question. (Depending on what the question is)
Also, I think it should be said in the question or the explanation part of the question "Please give your opinions" if that is whats wanted.
If an individual is answering the question with the fact that a friend or family member has dealt with a similar 0r the same situation, they should SAY "my mother went though a similar thing" or "my uncle did the same thing to my aunt" etc.
People answer these questions because they believe they know what they are talking about. Its just something that eveyone has done before. I am sure I have, I didn't mean to. (I make sure I word myself the best I can so that people can understand what I am asking)
Anyway, great question. Good luck with it and have a great day!
2007-11-16 02:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a good point. I've definitely been guilty of what you're saying. I've never been cheated on a day in my life. In fact, every man I've ever dated has treated me like a princess. But I'm a strong, independent woman and so I feel strongly towards and about those women who are staying in r'ships that are clearly abusive. I don't have to have been cheated on to understand how incredibly hurt that I would feel and that it's an ultimate betrayal. I usually don't tell people to leave unless it's obvious that neither is willing to give 100% to making the r'ship better. You can't improve a r'ship on your own....you have to have the cooperation of the other person as well or it's useless, not to mention, very unfair.
I've also commented on people's issues with their kids even though I don't have any children of my own. I'm not speaking out of experience of being a parent but rather of having been a child and understanding the manipulations that teenagers put out there. My parents were very, very good parents and so I give advice based on what they did. I have very strong ideas about how kids should be raised - mainly, I think our country is spoiling the little sh*ts to death to their OWN detriment. But like you said, those are MY opinions and I don't claim to be either a marriage counselor or a child therapist.
Here's a rant of my own: I hate it when people come on here looking for answers that would best be answered by PROFESSIONALS instead of complete strangers. Like all the divorce questions that pertain to the LAW....like YA is the best place to be getting legal advice? Come on!
2007-11-16 02:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you on this one. I know, from experience, that you may think you will leave or divorce someone if they cheated or lied, etc. But the truth is that you do not know how you will react until it happens to you. I believe you take the 'easy way out' when you just up and leave without giving your relationship a chance or your spouse, who you say you love, the chance to show you that it was a huge mistake. We are human beings, not perfect.
So, some will get through their spouses cheating and go on with a wonderful relationship, while others may not;; it is a personal choice and people come here for advise and support, not to be judged.
2007-11-16 03:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agreed. On relationships issues, I guess everyone feels that they have "experience"on the matter.
I love particulary 20 something newlyweds that have been married 10 seconds or never married teens that look down on people that are having marital problems and arrogantly say "why people get married just to get a divorce, I'll NEVER do that", yeah, like you know what being married is!
I go to the wedding section a lot, and you get a bunch of uneducated, tacky, sensess people there that have no idea about etiquette that feel compelled of voice their wortless so- called 'advice" when they haven't even attended a wedding before. It's apalling to read some of the answers there (i.e. do what you want it's your wedding, yeah, very helpful) and the people that actually have some reasonable, sensible and good advice gets run out of the section because of trolls, ignorant inmature bitter vindictive bored cows that have nothing better to do with their time.
It sad that this is going down the hill, but the hell, I don't care
Good luck
2007-11-16 03:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
First of all Yahoo answers is not just for the USA just remember that.
Secondly as we get older we gain experience and knowledge. We don't all have to go through the experiences we comment on but can gain knowledge about them.
After all not many of us have walked on the moon but we can all get a feeling of what it would be like to do so from those who have done so.
Just because a woman has never had a lazy husband doesn't mean she cannot give accurate comment on one from the fact that her husband is not lazy.
Negative experiences can be understood by those who have positive ones.
2007-11-16 02:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by n 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Drew,
I understand your feelings. But at the same time, the person asking the question should be smart enough to evaluate the answers.
Do you really think someone who asks about a cheating spouse will leave them because someone wrote "You're better off without him"??
They are more likely to listen to someone who tells them they have the experience and this is what they did.
The best thing to do with one line answers is ignore them. And I think anyone who asks a question on here is intelligent enough to do that.
2007-11-16 02:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by jtbrick1208 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you and sometime I give these people low rating. I think not just anyone with experience can answer but also anyone with the knowledge to the question asked. I seen some people swearing at the asker too. We can't stop these people but we can report them to the Yahoo community guidelines. I always do that to people who violates the rules here.
2007-11-16 03:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by beauty guru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By every one giving answers, whether they have experience or not, this is giving many different points of view, some times people with out any experience on the subject have the better answer.
2007-11-16 02:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Like you said...we all are free to give our opinion and it matters not that we have experience....I just simply ignore responses from people with no or little experience...or those that suggest leaving a relationship and find someone else....People are going to answer anyways and there is no way stopping them.....I personally don't give advise to someone if they are asking advise from those with experience...unless I in fact do have experience....
This isn't a place to ask for professional advise anyways....for the most part....it is made up of opinions....
2007-11-16 02:56:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋