Why is my boyfriend still with me if he thinks I am not beautiful?

Question

My boyfriend always talks about other girls we know and says that one has a great smile, the other one has a great body and another one is so hot,etc. but he never says I am beautiful. when I ask him, he says "you are not beautiful, you are so sweet". I began to lose self confidence since I met him. why doesnt he appreciate my looks? am i really ugly?
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here's my pic:
http://img255.imageshack.us/my.php?image=pouuouih8.jpg

what should i do?

Answer 1

Yes I wonder the same thing about my husband.

Answer 2

I read stuff like this, and I just want to hit my head on the keyboard . . .

Your boyfriend may have been a little tactless, but it's obvious that he values qualities about you that are far more important than looks. Good for him! But let's see if we can get him to keep from talking about other girl's body parts in the future. :-) It's a no-win situation. I'm sure he doesn't think you are ugly, but I think you could gently point out that you really aren't interested in talking about other girl's body parts with him.

In the long run, unless you're trying for a career in modeling, your sweet personality, your kindness and caring and your consideration for others will take you a lot further than looks. Please don't obsess on just one, ultimately unimportant aspect of your total "you" -- your looks -- and tie your self-confidence to it. Looks come and go, illness and injuries come and go that change our looks (masectomies, anyone?) , but the thing that makes you YOU -- your personality -- remains.

Answer 3

no hunny,I think your very pretty and I dont think he would be going out with you if he thought you were.Maybe he can just feel like he can talk to you. If he is an asshole about it then leave his ***. But maybe he is just teasing!
Ever try something softer look though?Like to get his attention. I try to die my hair and use different makeup everyone once in a while. Looking at your picture I was thinking maybe it is time for something grown up. The pink works for you, dont get me wrong. My sister has the same thing going on.. But I think you should go get a bottle of the Die with the Hightlight package. Its like Revlon or Loreal. but get like a medium of dark brown color and then read the direction and add some high lights. Its like $20 and get yourself brown/black eye liner and use warm colors. Browns, pinks, golds. Your hair is long but it kinda just hangs there, why not layer it up a bit!! Actually if you just go to the salon they can do it all in one shot for ya.Im not saying anything is wrong with ya, just suggesting to Give`um something new! And dont just do it for him, it will make you feel good and give you a boost of confidence that you might need in order to break up with the loser! Youve got nothing to lose! good luck to you.

Answer 4

You are not ugly! You may not be the classic beauty, but you are nice looking, anyway, for somebody you are in a relationship with you should be beautiful, and if he does not see you as one, he is not truly in love with you. I know my hubby is not too handsome to others but he is to me. Love is blind. Honestly, don't worry about his comments, you are not ugly. What does he look like anyway? Next time he says that to you, tell him that he's not handsome either, but oh so amusing.

Answer 5

The guy is a jerk first of all.

Second.. the first pic doesn't do you much justice, but you look cute in the others. The only thing I can suggest is dump the retard and possibly think about a normal hair color that matches your eyebrows.

Third.. don't ever lose your confidence.. because confidence alone is very attractive. Screw him!

Answer 6

It is not always about the looks. Could he be saying this to you because you are requesting a response from him instead of him just making the comment. Always remember you don't know what you had until it is gone. Do you not think he was saying those things about you when he first saw you or met you. It is easier to judge those just walking by.

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Answer 7

WHAT?! You need to lose this guy. I can't believe he flat out said that to you. After you are with someone for a while (who may or may not be physically attractive) they do become attractive to you, in your eyes. He shouldn't be commenting on other girls beauty to you especially when he said that you aren't beautiful. What a jerk. He doesn't deserve to be with you.

Answer 8

I'd say dump him too. I have lived with a man 34 years treating me this way. One, I think he does it to keep me "psychologically" in my place so he can feel more superior and the other is,..to keep me jealous, so I will feel I need him. Doesnt work anymore.

Answer 9

Well,guys do that sometimes.It's somewhat our nature to look at other girls.See if he's trying to spite you into breaking up with him.If he is,then dump his worthless ***.

If he's not,then stick with him.If he's still around you,it means you are beautiful in a way that appeals to him.I've seen couples who are not physically attractive,but they still love each other.Hey,maybe he does love you.

Answer 10

I think you very pretty.
I think honestly a person
shines from the inside out.
If they're beautiful inside it shows outside.

If he doesn't bring out the best in you then
he isn't worth being with honestly.

Answer 11

I think that your boyfriend is a douche. Break up with him immediately via a text message....thats how much respect he derserves. WHAT A JERK!!!
My b/f always tells me how smokin' hot I am!!

Unfortunately, I cannot view your pic here at work... So if this a joke...disregard everything I said...