My girlfriend's ex-husband keeps calling her at her house and on her cell phone despite her telling him not to

Question

He won't stop calling and harassing her. Any ideas on how to get him to stop? They have a 3 year old daughter which my girlfriend has sole custody. He will call late at night when he knows the daughter is in bed and want to speak with her and if he can't he then picks a fight with my girlfriend. He won't move on and won't stop calling. Any ideas?

Answer 1

she should call the cops and file a complaint in the meantime let her change her phone #'s and make sure her phone is unlisted

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Forget about the phone calls, that is not the most important issue that you have. Your marriage is in trouble for some reason and I don't think that him calling his ex is the cause. It may be a symptom of your overall problem. You must find out what the REAL problem is so that you can find a solution to it. You will not get anywhere focusing on the phone call. To ease your mind: NO it is not harmless that your husband calls his ex for advice when you two have a fight. That behavior will prove to be destructive to the marriage if it continues because he is confiding in not only another woman, but one who he has had feeling for. It really doesn't matter whether or not you call this girl. Call her or not call her; it's your husband who has to STOP making and taking the calls. Your real issue is that you two fight too much and your husband feels he has to escape from you instead of working things out with you. Instead of communicating with you, he is running off and seeking solace from others. That should bother you. You both need to learn how to listen to each other and talk about your issues in a non accusatory manner. Figure things out before it gets any worst.

Answer 4

changing the phone numbers sound good.But he is the father so he does have the right to contact her to talk to his daughter. But you can get a court order for harassment and he will only be able to call at a certain time. Tape all calls in case he does not respect the order and then he will be put in jail for not following the order. He will get the message. The local police can help with this harassment charge. I hope that this will help you. He doesn't need to have the cell number just the hoe phone number. that will make it better on you two also.

Answer 5

because they have a daughter together, she can't have all her numbers changed. however, she can have his number blocked from the house phone.
have her write a letter of the most appropriate time to call his daughter. such as an hour before bed, then CC the letter to the court. keep a log of all the calls he makes. turn off the ringer so you can still see how many times he calls. then state in letter the best form of necessary communication shall be done in writing. as she is three...there is absolutely no reason why he needs to be calling all day everyday. she doesn't need to inform him of what time her daughter went to the bathroom or what she ate on a daily basis.
my ex did this as well. he would call up until 10pm over and over again. i see no reason to pick up the phone unless the kids are with me for him to speak to or if we eating dinner and having family time. they can call him back after. i sent him a letter and informed him that the phones are turned off after 8pm regardless of weekend or weekday and told him to speak to the children it's best he call between 6pm and 8pm since they are usually at friend's houses, outside playing, or even with my husband running errands. the harrassment stopped to a degree at this point. he stopped calling all day while the kids were at school. i refuse to communicate over the phone or through the kids. he can write a letter if he actually has to say something.

Answer 6

First if this person is really that bad and your girl dose have sole custody of the child then there is no reason for this man to be calling at all. There are two things that need to be done, first phone numbers must be changed, if it is an emergency and he needs to truely get ahold of her then there has to be a go between. Second if he wont stop and still persists tell her to keep a journal of everytime he calls and file a police reaport. If the problem escalates then she will have evidence against him and his sorry butt will be gone anyways.

Answer 7

Wake up man, this woman is a polygamy. She understands the former husband will not leave her alone and that is why she encourages him to call even though she may tell you that she is trying to push him aside. Removing the phone from the hook is not so hard. I can tell you that once the former husband stops calling that is when trouble will start between you and that woman. Now you have something that unites you in the former husband calling. Dump the woman and get one who has moved on with her life. Before men used to look for virgins, then single women, then women without children, now in the western world you will find a man with a slut who is twice divorced with 3 children and she is cheating on him and he still goes around asking for help. What happened to men?

Answer 8

Have her change her cell phone number. He does not need to have her new cell phone number as long as he has a home number. Reiterate that he is not to call past a reasonable time to speak with their daughter. If he does, don't answer and let the answering machine pick up. If it persists and he doesn't comply with your request, file a restraining order. What he is doing is a form of harrassment. Good luck.

Answer 9

First of all she should change the number. If she knows it's him calling then why does she keep answering the phone? If she has sole custody of her child then there is no reason for her to play his silly games. If this doesn't work have her file for a harrassment restraining order.. he should get the point then! Good luck.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, litigation, mediation or the involvement of law enforcement may be the only way to get him to stop. I'm curious, how long have they been apart? Unfortunately, the first two years after a separation are generally the most dangerous time period for a woman.

When I remarried, after being divorced for ten years, my ex freaked out. He began his harassment and was quite methodical for a short period. My new husband ultimately took care of it. He caught him by surprise at his place of work and intimidated him out of his behavior. It's quite the Neanderthal approach, but it worked. My ex was insistent on bullying me, so my husband took a similar approach towards my ex. After one conversation, the harassment ended.

Answer 11

If your girl friend doesn't have Caller ID and an answering machine, she should get them and then simply not pick up when her ex-husband calls. But since he IS her daughter's father, she might consider letting him talk to their daughter if he calls at an acceptable time. She probably knows best whether even that would be wise.