Okay! I'm 19 years of age and is engage to my wonderful fiance; who I been with for the past two years. He is a ceo of his online company and I'm a student at college going for my bachlors in Psychology. He is 20 and I'm 19 as I stated. We are planning to buy Our first dream house which is a half of million dollars. 500k! I yes we could afford it becaus ehis income is well over 200,000 a year. The problem I have is I was raise on a single parent paycheck to paycheck with my mom and now my fiance is makeing all this money and we are about to get married and move into this house, I feel like i'm being lazy. Am I being lazy? He says I don't have to work, but I also go to school online, we have no kids and hardly any debt. Should I work? I never work a day in my life and couldn't tell you what work is. I don't have that ego that most women have to be independent to poves something and don't plan to! don't need to prove anything to anyone because if chips fall down I have my degree.
2007-11-16
02:27:02
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Women do you feel all women should work if they have no bills and no kids? He buys me everything I want, so what do you suggest? Why do women feel as though they have to prove something to someone as for as being independent. My mom rasie us by herself and then stop working for a awhile. I never had to want for anything and still don't now. I don't want to work. I don't feel as though I need to work. My hubby don't feel like I need to work. Everytime I talk to my friends are hang out with them they always throw in my face that I need to work, just because they do. They get on my nevers with that. I think they are jealous because they don;t have the type of life or man I have to be so grateful. What should I tell them?No I do not be bore at home because I either go play my online games , studying, or read. So I'm not a very good outdoors person. We bascailly pay everything online and even shop online. So everything I want I get off the computer.
2007-11-16
02:28:31 ·
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I don;t have to want for anything and I have always been an inside person all my life. I do not like sport of any sort so that is out the question.No I do not be bore at home because I either go play my online games , studying, or read. So I'm not a very good outdoors person. We bascailly pay everything online and even shop online. So everything I want I get off the computer. I don;t have to want for anything and I have always been an inside person all my life. I do not like sport of any sort so that is out the question. Also I'm not planning on working for anyone but myself. My hubby taught me never to work for anyone if I don't have to. His dad lent him some money after he graduate at 15 to start his own company and it had grew alot, so he is his own boss. I'm not going to work for anyone after my degree. I will just build my own office and build my reputation to be a clinical phychologyist, and get my clients.
2007-11-16
02:31:40 ·
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Everyone on here knows that you don;t always have to spell stuff correctyl,, I mean got damn this is not english class. I know everyone for sure doesn't always spell out lol, in english. So why do everything have to be correct when you already know what the person is trying to say? damn
2007-11-16
02:34:53 ·
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If my husband got sick, that's is not a problem because I help with most of his work ,, plus he has his cfo's and cto's and coo to run things for himself. Like I said My husband is his own boss and if he dies , I will be okay finacially, That is not a problem for us. There's not to many 20 year old who own their own business and have 30 to 40 year old men working for them.
2007-11-16
02:38:12 ·
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okay I grew up in a poor income family and ever since I met this guy two years agao we been engage, I haven't got the house yet for you non readers but close to getting it. What the point of working, for what? to get boss around from your boss, and do labor or stand up on your feet all day when you can be getting a pedicure. My mom and hubby told me working is not for evryone and no sense of working for somebody to get paid minumum wage and come home to be tire and have people to aggavate you. I don't get alone with two many females and I really don't enjoyed meeting new people because you have to do too much work to be their friend. For the past 10 years I have always stayed to myself except for one or two friends That i really just assoiciate myself. There's no point of working unless you half kids or you have to, or if you don't have noone to take care of you. I have someone to take care of me. Who really believes a woman should stay at home.
2007-11-16
02:57:50 ·
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It's not about how much he makes ,, it's the fact that we make enough to about to buy this beautiful house and where I don't have to work. Now I'm not going to put my husband's income on full blast about how much he really makes but just an idea that we can afford to do things like this. H e might just make more than 300k a year but I'm not gonna say for real. My mom always kept us inside from evrything. So I know how to deal with being bore, I'm an insde persona and Personally I don't like to go out much at all, I like to stay at a home and read and write.
2007-11-16
03:04:29 ·
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Hey! If you can do it and it makes you happy all the more power to you!
2007-11-16 02:29:53
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answer #1
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answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6
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First of all, people get annoyed at bad grammar and misspellings because it can sometimes make it unclear what exactly you are trying to say and we have to put WAY too much effort in just trying to figure out what word you are trying to use. So next time-spell check and try to use proper english.
As for your question...if I read it correctly...I PERSONALLY would not allow for my fiance to "take care of me" unless it was absolutely necessary. I don't care if I am a cashier at a grocery store-but I am going to make my own money and at least provide SOME income. Hate to say this-but what if you two ended lets say twenty years from now? You will be a 40 year old woman that has never worked a day in her life and wont know how to make it on her own. Plus, working allows you to have something to do besides coming on to forums like this and brags about how much her new house costs and how much her future husband makes and how you have this and that.
As for if the chips fall you have your degree-if you don't use your degree it is useless. Why are you even going to college if you are not going to use it afterwards? if the chips fall 20 years from now, are you honestly going to remember half the stuff you learned from this course? And while having a degree is important-you have to remember that experience is considered just as important. If you go into a job interview 20 years from now with a degree that you havent done ANYTHING with, the employer will see you as not being motivated and probably will be hesitant to hire you do to NO EXPERIENCE.
So all in all-yes, you are being lazy.
2007-11-16 02:46:12
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answered by Jackie 6
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It depends what u want from life. My fiance and I earn more than ur guy and we currently own 2 beautiful properties but I have decided to work until we start a family. Yes, I am happy with what we have but I always think we can have more..so I will work for now. Being at home can be nice but it can also be boring. Anyway, heaven forbid..if u ever got divorced, no one will hire you without experince no matter how many degrees you have. I have 2 degrees and a professional qualification but would never hire someone with no experience. It's up to you...
2007-11-16 02:58:39
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answered by Fluffy ♥ 4
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I think you should definitely work simply for the experience of it all. Having your own income is nice, even if it's not a lot. Also, what if your fiancee's company goes belly up? It could happen and what would you have to fall back on? Also, suppose the relationship doesn't work out - suddenly you will have no money, no job and somehow will have to support yourself.
I'm not wishing you ill will, I am merely stating that you never quite know what will happen in the future and it's best to be prepared, even if simply.
Keep studying and get a job for yourself despite his money - enjoy the good life but pull your own weight.
2007-11-16 02:47:29
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answered by Rachel 7
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It's a totally personal choice. For me I couldn't NOT work, I like the fact that I earn money and can support myself (I am married but I don't have to rely on my husband for money) I enjoy getting out of the house, I like the fact that it gives me something to talk about, I enjoy working with people and meeting new people, so for me my job is a life line, I would be bored out of my skull sitting at home all day watching rubbish TV, I'd probably get massively fat as well, boredom makes me eat and eat. I really honestly believe that a woman should be able to support herself, what if something happens to your husband, say he loses his job, or he becomes sick and cannot work, or say you split up? If you have your wages to fall back on you will always be OK. If you have no intention of working why bother to study for something you'll never use? If you had kids I would totally back you up and say you should stay home, but no kids, so get a job, it helps your self esteem no end! Having a degree is awesome, but you cannot rely on that alone to fall back on, many employers also look for experience, if you have no work experience then you are not an attractive prospect to them.
2007-11-16 02:33:56
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answered by sparkleythings_4you 7
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There is nothing wrong with a woman not working if she doesn't have to. Personally, I may get a part time job a few days a week just to get out of the house and have a little of "my" money. But if you choose not to work, and your fiance is fine with supporting you then go for it! That's awesome!
2007-11-16 03:01:41
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answered by Tina 4
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If you don't "need" to work and you have time I personally would try to get involved in some kind of of charity organization. You may want to have some kind of work experience because if something does happen and you no longer have your soon-to-be-hubby's income to depend on it is easier to get a job with work experience then without it.
2007-11-16 02:49:07
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answered by Katie 4
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Your question makes you seem like a little girl, playing house. Real life comes with responsibilities.
BTW, according to you, he is your fiance, not your husband...YET! Unless he has legal documents that would make you his beneficiary, you'd be SOL.Sadly, your fairytale would be over. With no work experience, your degree would mean nothing to perspective employers. Not to be harsh,but you have a lot to learn.
2007-11-16 02:37:02
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answered by Anonymous
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You're in a lucky situation. But you need to think about the possibilty that you may not always be in this situation. What would happen in the event of divorce (hopefully not) or some other situation that left you on your own? How would you fend for yourself?
2007-11-16 02:30:48
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answered by lg_ncsu 3
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You do what is best for you both. As long as you both are happy and agree it will work. I dont need to work but I choose too for something to do. For the most part, I like working, I dont have children so I need something filfulling to do.
2007-11-16 02:32:09
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answered by lisadaisy165 3
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Didn't get the answer you were looking for when you asked this question an hour ago?
2007-11-16 02:30:45
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answered by Anonymous
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