last night my ex who lives in the 2nd bedroom because of our mortgage sat beside me on the couch and asked if i wanted to share a blanket and watch tv with her. She left me qbout 3 months ago and hasnt shown me any emotion for the longest time. I turned down the opportunity and feel really bad about it. After i went to bed she crawled in beside me because it was to cold in her room. Am i wrong for feeling a bit used and confused about the cuddling aspect of the night. I never did put my arms around her.
2007-11-16 02:25:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I would ask her to move out. I couldn't live like that. How can you begin to have a new life with your ex in the house with you, no date you have that is worth her grain would accept that situation. You could find a room mate, and I think that is what you should do. Quality of life is important....yours doesn't have it right now in my opinion. Head twisting sucks!!!! Don't allow it.
2007-11-16 02:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change. Peoples feelings change. It may be her way of seeing if the lights still on if she was to come back.
If you dont want to, dont. But I seriously suggest one of you getting out of that house. Neither one of you will be able to go on with your lives with an ex in the same house. You wont be able to date others and you wont be able to escape. Find a way to do it even if it is renting out the bedroom to make money for the mortgage payment.
Her crawling into your bed when she has her own is a direct expression of her possibly wanting more. Someone who didnt feel that way would never crawl in bed and cuddle up next to someone they were turned off from. She did it to see if you still wanted her.
So do you?
2007-11-16 10:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by catfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants sex. You did the right thing, if she left you then do as she asks and keep your distance. But living together will only complicate things further. Be strong and dont give in. I know my ex husband wants to "snuggle" when hes in the mood for sex but I say NO! Your here to see the kids and thats it.
2007-11-16 11:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by sharp p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've left, slept on the couch. I don't to the whole being used thing well...Besides it's not moral to toy with someones emotions!!! People will only do what you let them do to you!
Best wishes
2007-11-16 10:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Loh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sick situation. Either
you are married or your are not. Either you still love each
other or you don't. Either you
still have sexual feelings for
each other or you don't.
if it's over, then separate for good. If it's not, try again.
2007-11-17 00:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that's a tough one. Sounds like you made the right decision - how bad would you feel if you had fallen for it? I hope you get it all worked out...
2007-11-16 10:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by chatting 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong, I don't know how you can live with an ex at all.
I'd have to leave.
2007-11-16 10:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wierd! You share your place with your ex???? Ummm give it to her ... She's wanting it bad !!! Use her.
2007-11-16 11:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by nottwoshort 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's clear what she was after. Question is, do you want that?
If you don't, then you need to tell her straight.
2007-11-16 10:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess u shld just ask her what she is really upto ! ...
but don't fall for it if u don't think she is serious ,,,,
but do u think she is sorry ,,,, u neva know ! ,,, so be smart about it !
cheers !
2007-11-16 10:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋