This question is for married women.?

Question

Hi, I'm the husband,
I moved away from my town where I grew up for 28years. One of my best friends is on business for about 5 months about 2 hours from where I live. He would like me to come there for a weekend to "hang out". He's single and has picked up women in front of my wife and brought them back to houses and such and my wife sees that. I understand my wife not wanting me to go there for the weekend. ( we have had some past trust issues). But how do I explain to my friend that I am married now and married people do not go out with buddies for the weekend? does that make sense? How do other married women feel about that?

Answer 1

I wouldn't tell my husband not to go although I wouldn't be all that comfortable with it...it opens too many sketchy doors, I would suggest that his friend come to our house. I think my husband would take me with him for the weekend though....he likes hanging out with me also....

Answer 2

Hi, I'm the wife,
My husband has that kind of friend if you know what I mean, and my husband and I also have had "trust issues" so I understand 100%. Although, my husband will occasionally hang out with his friend, it isn't a weekend deal. How about hanging out with your friend for the DAY and then going back home. I realize that will be a four hour trip for you, but I think it is a compermise, you can hang out with the friend and I think your wife would be okay for a boys day out (if you will). Good Luck

Answer 3

Hey, I have the same issue with my husband`s newly divorced friend......He asked my husband to come over to his house and play cards, ( Thurs evening), and sleep over... he said there`d be a lot of drinking and single women there. I guess he figured my husband would just pick up and go in the middle of the week, when he has to work and he`s got two kids and a wife at home.But my point is......just be straight forward and to the point..." I`m not going, I`ve got a wife that would be very upset, sorry".

Answer 4

You just tell him that you are married and you want to stay that way....Being that you and your wife have had trust issues and your friend picks up strange women...I think it is best that yo don't spend the weekend with this guy...I know I wouldn't feel comfortable with my husband spending a weekend with a man that behaves the way your friend does...

Answer 5

I let my husband go out with his single buddies all the time. They know that he will not do anything and they respect that. I dont trust his buddies because they try to convince our other married friends to go ahead and cheat and have fun so that makes me think that they do the same with my husband but I trust him enough that he can have a good time without getting into trouble...Until he proves me wrong I will continue to let him go out. I wonder what he is doing sometimes because there have been trust issues in the past but that was in high school, and we both played our games. I am the one who does not get to go out with friends. I am the one who stays at home with my kids and lets him have fun. Never once has he sat at home with our kids while I got to have fun...It's kinda backwards but it works for him and I want him to be happy. Good luck!

Answer 6

Your are right, you both lead a different lifestyle. A married guy really can't go back to a single lifestyle even just for the weekend.

Just like he will get bored sitting around with his married friends, it's no fun watching your single friends pick up women. I think he will understand that.

You two need to find something to do that does not involve chasing women.

Answer 7

Don't be a sisi... If your wife wanted to go hang out with single women would you speak? I don't think so. She would bring the "you must trust me.. girl talk". You know yourself boy get out there and have some fun with your male friends. What the western world is lacking these days is male bonding. We men can learn allot from each other if spent more time comparing notes in the absence of women. When women are around we spend most of the time giving them all the attention and talking nothing creative. Be a man, give your wife the loving she deserves but allowing her to control you is not loving her.

Answer 8

I have had trust issues with my husband so i know what you are talking about. we have had this situation too. Invite your wife along. If your friend does not want her along then tell him you cant come and suggest alternate activities. ie: If he wants to go out clubbing and doesnt want your wife to come then tell him you would rather rent movies and stay at your house with your wife and he is Or if its ok that your wife goes then she wont have to be worried about trusting you because she is with you and can have a good time too.

Answer 9

If I were your wife, it's ok for me and I don't mind the idea to whatever you and your friend do to hang-out during weekends with your single bachelor friend as long as you take me along with you. Simply, I want to be happy too and experience out what's going in there.

Answer 10

Married men can go out with buddies for a weekend, but not all the weekends. Similarly married women can go out for a weekend with friends, but not all the weekends.

Answer 11

Well, I wouldn't mind my husband going out with buddies for the weekend. But then, I don't have 'trust issues' the way you say you and your wife do.

Being married does not mean your social life is over. And it doesn't mean you can't have single friends who want to pick up women, either.

You should be able to go out and have fun, within reason. You wife should be able to trust you to do that. Trouble is, it seems there is a reason here why your wife doesn't.