2007-11-16 01:25:21 · 9 answers · asked by K Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just try and build up their self esteem...tell them they are too great to put up with this abuse and they would be better off without the person. Help them come up with a plan so they can leave safely. Sometimes, for whatever reason, people just aren't ready to leave...but hopefully when they realize someone cares for them and things they are a worthy person, that will give them the help they need.
2007-11-16 01:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just say, they must like it if you haven't been there. I was in an abusive relationship with my daughters father, but it didn't start out that way, it never does or you'd run a mile. They do it gradually then apologise and say it'll never happen again. And they blame a bad childhood, or work stress or they love you so much they just get so jealous... blah blah blah
Ok you have to remind her of what she used to be like before she met him. You have to remind her that a relationship should be a partnership where both people love and support each other. They are nice to each other and have fun together and want to make the other person feel good.
If he's hurting her he is sick and it will only get worse. Even if he says he'll change, it will only last for a few days or weeks and he'll go back to how he was. Cos thats who he is, he's a weak bully who picks on someone vulnerable to make him feel better. I know, I've been there. She needs to get away from him but she needs someone to help her. Try to get her to snap out of it, then tell her to pack whatever she can and take her somewhere he won't find her. You can always start again as long as you're still alive.
2007-11-16 09:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by themista333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you what helped me the most. One of my friends told me to keep a bag packed with some essentials - I used a plastic grocery bag. Then if I needed to get out in a hurry I could grab it and go to her house. Another friend told me she didn't want to talk to me until after I was out of there. Once it got through my head how dangerous (abuse escalates) it was to stay there, I talked to my husband about getting help. When he refused, I made my plans to leave and carried them out. His reaction was - you put up with it this long why are you leaving now. Thats a pretty typical response I have since learned. My co-workers said I dropped ten years when I left. I think you get so used to the stress and tension you don't really see it and, by the time the physical abuse starts they have you convinced that 'if you just did/said something differently' so.........its all your fault. Please make sure they understand the danger and give them an escape route and a place to rest and be safe.
2007-11-16 09:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to be there for that person i am female and had stayed in abusive relationship for 5 years and to this day i still don't understand why.I felt like i had no love ones and that was because people always said "she must like it" so i isolated even more. you might show this person that no matter what she or he does they don't need to put up with it and their is a lot of safe places to go and then do research in your city that take care of victims of dv. good luck it is a hard life to live and emotional abuse is just as bad. please show them love!
2007-11-16 09:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by baker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple to explain, hard to do!
" The victim will get sick and tired of being sick and tired."
Everytime that person goes back, they are then a "volunteer victim." It takes more courage to walk away....Be a support, help them help themselves! Without confidence, they will just stay until they are beaten completely. Make sure you notify the proper channels for assistance. They are confidential and very assertive.
best wishes
Loh.
2007-11-16 10:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Loh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know that you are there for them, and that your are worried about them. Point out that life is too short not to be happy everyday. Never put someone a priority that treats you like an option. Their worth it!
2007-11-16 09:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them why they like the abuse. They must like it, they sit there and take it.
2007-11-16 09:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
physical abuse? you call the police for them. Emotional? tell them to dump that jackas$
2007-11-16 09:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can say to that person -- her love and devotion to that person is more powerful than any friendship
2007-11-16 09:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by BIG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋