Okay! I'm 19 years of age and is engage to my wonderful fiance; who I been with for the past two years. He is a ceo of his online company and I'm a student at college going for my bachlors in physcicology. He is 20 and I'm 19 as I stated. We are planning to buy Our first dream house which is a half of million dollars. 500k! I yes we could afford it becaus ehis income is well over 200,000 a year. The problem I have is I was raise on a single parent paycheck to paycheck with my mom and now my fiance is makeing all this money and we are about to get married and move into this house, I feel like i'm being lazy. Am I being lazy? He says I don't have to work, but I also go to school online, we have no kids and hardly any debt. Should I work? I never work a day in my life and couldn't tell you what work is. I don't have that ego that most women have to be independent to poves something and don't plan to! don't need to prove anything to anyone because if chips fall down I have my degree.
2007-11-16 01:16:29 · 13 answers · asked by The Woman of God , I shall be! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women do you feel all women should work if they have no bills and no kids? He buys me everything I want, so what do you suggest? Why do women feel as though they have to prove something to someone as for as being independent. My mom rasie us by herself and then stop working for a awhile. I never had to want for anything and still don't now. I don't want to work. I don't feel as though I need to work. My hubby don't feel like I need to work. Everytime I talk to my friends are hang out with them they always throw in my face that I need to work, just because they do. They get on my nevers with that. I think they are jealous because they don;t have the type of life or man I have to be so grateful. What should I tell them?
2007-11-16 01:20:32 · update #1
No I do not be bore at home because I either go play my online games , studying, or read. So I'm not a very good outdoors person. We bascailly pay everything online and even shop online. So everything I want I get off the computer. I don;t have to want for anything and I have always been an inside person all my life. I do not like sport of any sort so that is out the question.
2007-11-16 01:23:15 · update #2
No I do not be bore at home because I either go play my online games , studying, or read. So I'm not a very good outdoors person. We bascailly pay everything online and even shop online. So everything I want I get off the computer. I don;t have to want for anything and I have always been an inside person all my life. I do not like sport of any sort so that is out the question.
2007-11-16 01:23:16 · update #3
If you don't have to and you don't want to, there is nothing wrong with staying home. If you want to get out and work, then go for it.
2007-11-16 01:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by YouWishYouWereMe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel like I HAVE to work to be a strong independant women. I work (two jobs by the way, 60-70 hours a week) because I know that when it comes down to it I have only myself to count on. I also work because I am not the type of person that can sit around and take from people all day long while doing nothing. If you can do that, go for it, but be aware that this bf of yours MAY not always be there...look at all of the questions about cheating a divorce...you think you're immune to this happening? Better to have a back-up plan and be able to provide for yourself if you have to...think you should have learned that from your mom.
Also, may I just add that I REALLY hope your bf is paying your college costs. I hope you're not allowing your mother to pay for it and I hope you're not get financial aid, because that takes away from students that REALLY want to go to college and can't afford it.
What is "physcicology"?
2007-11-16 09:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you don't have to work, it would probably be a good experience for you to join the workforce, even part time. Work brings with it responsibilities, but it also brings close work relationships that are hard to replicate elsewhere. Even though you don't have anything to prove, it does bring self-esteem when you know that you are doing a good job at something and are earning some money of your own. Lastly, having a degree is a great thing, but employers are also looking for work experience, so it can only help. If you don't want paid employment, you might consider volunteer work. Good luck.
2007-11-16 09:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Christine H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont work, and dont have kids. Im 24 my husband is 27 weve been married nearly 6 years. During this time ive worked maybe 3 months. I go to school full time, online and on campus. My husband works full time and goes to school full time online. He doesnt make near as much as your fiance but enough that we are comfortable and can pay our bills and have a little left over for fun things. We own our own home and all that jazz. I worked all through highschool to help support my family, so I have no problem with working, its just something that both agreed on that I dont want to work. I think its up to you if you want to work, discuss with your fiance, and honestly do what makes you happy, because its your life, not anyone here on yahoos and only you can decide whats right for you.
2007-11-16 09:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to prove, why would you care if everyone thought you were lazy. You know the truth, so who cares what everyone else thinks. On the flip side, that degree isn't going to mean a thing in 10-15 years, with no work experience to back it up........
2007-11-16 10:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a home worth well more than half a million and bring in much more than 200,000 a year. I don't work but I keep myself very busy and productive. Not everyone has to work to show their self worth. Don't just sit home do something with your life.
2007-11-16 09:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assume he dies, out of a sudden what will happen ? the pension , if you don't mange, it'll vanish quickly. If you want to work, do it for your sake. PLUS a degree without experience is a simple paper that has no value.
Work just for fun, even part-time. I would work since you fee lazy. You can chose to not work though, but it's risky. BECAUSE LOVE IS NOT GRANTED...
2007-11-16 09:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Tesse Malou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Sounds like you found a piece of heaven. Enjoy it. If you love doing what you are doing....and your husband is loving and loves for you to be home. IT is settled...do it. Stay at home and enjoy it. What is wrong with that? I guess your friends say the things they say because like you said, they work so they think this is the normal life. Believe me if they had the chance to stay at home, they will...no matter what they say.
Just please note if you decide to stay at home...pamper that husband of yours and even if you can afford all the maids in the world...cook and do other homey things for him...he will love it and you will feel so satisfied....
Enjoy.
2007-11-23 05:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always have a back up plan and know how to support yourself and earn your own money. You know, in case he ever decides to leave you high and dry.
2007-11-16 09:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to college to get your Bachelors in Psychology but you can't spell either one...Hmmm!
2007-11-16 09:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋