We have been dating for almost a year, what if i told her that i needed more variety in bed..with other girls?

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i do love her by the way...but we have a distance relationship, we only see each other at the end of each week, sometimes 2 weeks

and, i now feel that i would also like to explore other girls body..it's a difficult thing to deal with, it's like trying to fight back with your own nature or instinct...altought i did never and will NEVER betray her.. what if we BOTH could find a way to explore more? I know she's not interested... but i am i guess...maybe just massaging other girls booty with my hands..i love it. So, if i told her i would love to touch other girls....would i regret? I would, woudn't I? im have 25 she has 19 years old....

I just don't want to look back a few years from now and think that i have lost all these opportunities to be with other girls

Maybe im being selfish, or,i dont' know,what do you think?

by the way i have put this question here in Marriage&Divorce category to try to get more mature answers from experienced couples

Answer 1

Let me ask what do all these other girls have that she doesn't?
I mean a body is a body. Unless a girl has 3 boobs then no one can compete and all is lost.
Tell her how you feel. see what happenes that's all i can say.
But how would you feel if she says she wants other guys to fondel her because she doesn't want to miss out on a touch?
You have alot of growing up to do and maybe right now it's not the best time for you to be in a relationship. You need to discover who you are and what you want.
Please keep in mind one thing, a body is a body it's the mind of the girl that will count when the sexual part is done and your no longer curious, will she be a good partner for you? Does she fill more than a visual for you. What are the true desires you need met in your life then and only then will you have the answers besides. When your in your 40's you'll be right back here asking the same questions,
Then in your 60's. They call these times mid-life crisis, Call it what you wish,its all the samething. trying to recapture your youth.
Let her go and find yourself. SHe's only 19 dont screw up her head that way because you have the issue not her and she will feel as if it's her and she will try all she can to change it all, herself just t be what you want and it won't ever be enough
Good Luck

Answer 2

You love her, yes, but that alone does not mean you are ready to be in a committed relationship with her. As you already have said, you do not want to look back a few years from now and think that you have lost all these opportunities to be with other girls. As foolish and self centred your reasons sound, we as a human race have to admit that this desire on your part if not explored can lead to hurts and disappointments later. Commitment should be a choice not a forced issue. You plainly are not ready. Be upfront and honest with your girl and let her go. If later down the years you have gotten this out of your system then maybe, just maybe you and her can rekindle the love you both have. I say, just maybe, because this risk of losing her totally is the chance you need to take to proceed with your desires. You make the choice. Either way, I do wish you well.

Answer 3

Break up with her then go do whatever. Telling her this will only break her heart the relationship won't work because you don't want to be with just her so stop thinking you can have a relationship. Your kidding yourself and it's hard to believe you love her. Just you thinking about telling her you want to be with other women is mean maybe your just clueless about how mean a thing that is to say to a women. I give you credit though for honesty sometimes you do have to be cruel to be kind so the other person can see what they are with. Goodluck and thankGod you two aren't married with kids if you want to live the free life break it off now before things get complicated.

Answer 4

If you love this girl, you wouldn't want to be with other girls. You may like her alot, but your not in love with her. And, if you told her this, she would freak out. And dump you.

And after you explored all of the booties of other girls, and realized that it was just because you couldn't control your sexual urges, you would realize that you lost a true love b/c you wanted to touch other girls' butts. Yes, you are being selfish. When you start thinking about stuff like that, just push it out of your head. If your bent on doing this, tell her the truth so you don't hurt her by cheating. She deserves better.

Answer 5

I think you must be young and it's normal to want to "explore" and learn. This long-distance relationship is obviously not making you happy, and it is stressing you out because you want to do something you feel you need, yet you know you'd be hurting her and you care for her.

Time to make a decision, buddy.

I guess the best you can do is talk to her, tell her that although you care for her this isn't working out, and let her go. (Once you do this, you can do whatever you want and date other girls.) But be nice, act decent... and do not cheat on her.

She deserves honesty from you and you have to have the guts to say this so she will respect you later on.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I had a relationship for 6 months where we only saw each other on weekends and I never got tempted to sleep with anyone else. Its hard because you get lonely but we used to speak every night and text each other a lot plus it was so much more special at the weekends bcos it was our time. If you really want to sleep with other people then i dont think you love her like you think you do. If you want to sleep around then it is only fair you finish it with her first but if you love her then you shouldnt want to in the first place.
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Answer 7

You should discuss this question with her, to give some freedom to each other, maybe she will understand that. I have seen couples where this system worked well. Arranging 3somes is an option in this respect. That is true at 25 sex onece a week is not much, so you may have some ramdom g/f time to time.

Answer 8

WTF! boy u r crazzzzy! u need to be single u cant have your booty and spank it too! y get a girlfriend if u want to explore. once u tell her this she's gonna have trust issues wondering if u already scoped the booty out! i kno what u mean though ive been in a relationship for 8 yrs and sometimes i think id like a nice smack form someone new but then i think how special he is too me and then i tell him to do it! lol! but u should b single and then u can get all the behind u can fit in your hands. find u a sistah they have the fattest @sses! lol good luck boo!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Very few women go for it. She'll probbaly be all hurt and try to make this all about how you dont love her. best thing to do is to go behind her back as long as the other woman understand discreetion. Yeah..and thats me..a woman saying that. I do allow my partner to be with another woman in the same room as me becasue i'm a hard core voyeur. Plus he treats me more than nice for doing so. He gets his fantsy and I get mine together. I know plenty of very happy couples who do the same as well.

Answer 10

if your long distance relationship is making you think this way. The only option you have it to end it with her and move on. I don't think it would sit easy with you knowing that she is with another guy. It would really hit you where it hurts when she don't answer your phone calls and limit the visitation to once every other month.