why would a wife say she does not want to go with her husband and son on their first family vacation since getting married 9 months previously but says instead she wants to go to the beach with her single friend?
2007-11-16 01:00:29 · 15 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its a single gf, i kicked her out after 3 months of abuse from her. she lived single all summer for 4 months, now all a sudden she wants me back.
2007-11-16 01:11:06 · update #1
she is not a stay at home mom. i take care of my boy as she is running around all the time not even home in the morning leaving for the gym before he is even out of bed
2007-11-16 01:13:13 · update #2
im not even joking, im hilarious, i have fun everyday with everything
2007-11-16 01:16:13 · update #3
this girl is 29 years old...
2007-11-16 01:29:09 · update #4
Hi. I read all of the postings to this question which lead me to look at all postings from you previously. You sound really baffled about the fact that you married someone who has different moral values than you do. What I read was, and look at it like someone else was asking these questions, look for the answer that you would give to them.....what it boils down to is this. You married someone about a year ago, since you have gotten married she has told a little boy to call her mommy and left him, she has told you that you are undesireable to her, she won't go on vacation with you guys, she shows her p___y to strangers, she brought you an STD to deal with, and on top of this you are being made to feel bad because she is torturing you by the threat of going to the beach with a single friend instead of going somewhere with you.....I know and you know what she would be doing if she went with her friend...showing her piercing to all who will look. That really is a crazy thing....I know a lot of people but I don't think I know one who would do that....that would really freak me out and I think that alone speaks miles about her character. Your son is a gift, he is good, he will always be there for you.....it is my high hope for both of you that you will be able to find a woman that you can love in the good and pure way that you love your son. It would be great for you both. I am a woman, I cook, clean, do laundry, work and take care of my husband and our children. We have no biological children together, however we have 5 between us. I am attractive, intelligent and I have morals...I am happy staying at home, I am happy with family vacations and I need time alone with my husband....he is #1 on my list and I am for him...all marriages have problems, however it is the quality of the problem and the desire for each partner to make the other comfortable and happy that is the important thing. There are many good women out in the world. Look in places that don't involve partying and wild antics to find your next one....find out about her past as a friend first...really know the real her and how she treated the last guys...this will tell you a lot about her. I wish you the best, you seem like you have been tortured and humiliated...you deserve better....go find it.
2007-11-16 01:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
her priorities are all messed up. She needs to decide between the single friend, who is coming between the 2 of you obviously, well the 3 of you (you the Son and her). The friend needs to get out of your marriage. Your wife is apparently a follower and not a leader. But I can't imagine not going on a family vacation with my child and husband, and choosing a friend over them......that is just wrong. I don't think that she was ready to get married or for a child, she has not grown up.
2007-11-16 09:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she want a break from the day to day family routines. It might be wise for you to suggest a vacation with just the two of you. When children come it to the picture it can take much of the "youthful" fun out of a relationship and she probably is resentful that the fun is gone, or she feels that it is gone.....she is not having fun. Do what you can to make her feel better and your life with her will be less of a worry. I really believe that this is what it is....right or wrong....it doesn't matter, fun is an important part of life...and this appears to me that it is what she is lacking.
2007-11-16 09:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is more to the story than just that. Has there been alot of fighting? Perhaps she needs the time away to put things back into perspective. Is she a stay at home mom? Maybe she needs a breather from being a full time mommy.
A little more info would be helpful.
2007-11-16 09:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is her single friend a man or woman? If you are her husband, tell her no, she can't go. Simple as that. Talk to her and ask her what is bothering her. If she's been at home with a baby for a long time, she may just need alone time. Or, she wants to be single again. Time to talk.
2007-11-16 09:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading all your other questions, it looks to me like she wants out of the marriage and doesn't know how to say it. If you want it to work, you guys need to have some serious conversations, no beating around the bush. Since it is a fairly new marriage and you don't seem to have a lot of time invested, it may be in your best interests just to let her go. It will probably happen sooner or later.
2007-11-16 09:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she wants some time to herself away from her everyday life. If she is a stay home mom or everyone depends on her for everything that means she is crying out for a break. The mood in the realationship needs to change suprise her with something nice. If her friends are talking about what their man would do for them maybe you are not doing it or you change how you use to be with her so she wants to hang out with her friends.
2007-11-16 09:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by adb6311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage or even a family. Get counseling and if that doesn't work, get a divorce. Take your child on the vacation and have a good time.
2007-11-16 09:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She thinks more of her friend than she does her husband and son. Go on vacation with your son. And leave the wife where she's at.
2007-11-16 09:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beause being a wife and a mother takes from who you once were and you miss it so a vacation to her would be away from you both.
Not that she doesn't love you, she just needs a break, time for herself.
It could be worst she could say she wants to go on a one week cruise with her friend.
2007-11-16 09:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Gitana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋