I'm desperate for a baby?

Question

I had a miscarriage about a year ago and i constantly think about it,i dream babies and long for my own child. I think about the child i would of had and how old it would be now etc. My bf says he wants a baby with me but i havent told him that recently i've stopped taking the pill,i'm dreading when the time comes for my period because i want to be pregnant,how can i be patient?also do you think my bf will be mad if i was pregnant?(i'm 24 btw)

Answer 1

wow...well, ok so YOU want a baby ..fine, but I really think your bf needs and has a RIGHT to know you are trying.

This is another LIFE you want to bring into this world and there is another LIFE you might seriously alter.Also, your bf might have plans of his own, he might not be ready.....

I believe that this is something he MUST KNOW.....you dont play with peoples lives like that.

He may want a baby with you , but maybe not now..TELL HIM YOU HAVE STOPPED TAKING THE PILL!!

its not fair or right for you not too..good luck

Answer 2

I think that you should get married b4 having a baby, because if it does not work out between you and your bf, it will really make you look bad to other guys to be an unwed mother.....there is like this huge flashing sign over your head saying easy, or traps men by getting pregnant. Think of your reputation and how the child will be perceived by others. Are you ready for people and family to talk about you behind your back, and your child. Because this is going to happen. Personally, I don't think that you are ready for a child, you need to live your life. Having a baby will put a great deal of stress on your relationship, and probably will not last, so for any woman who thinks a baby will fix or save a relationship ..... they are dead wrong. You end up alone, with a bad name being stuck to you. Is this what you want for your child, I doubt it.....remember, the child has to live with your choices, it did not ask to be here nor to be ridiculed and be different from their eventual classmates calling them names and you names. That is a great deal of hurt for a little child, because t heir mother only thought about herself and nothing else.

Answer 3

The more you try the longer you will wait, go out and enjoy yourself while you can and when the time is right it will happen, trust me you will be wishing otherwise once the sleepless nights come and the constant demanding of mummys time, i have 3 (3,2 and 8 months) lovely but hard work. make sure you have a baby with someone special not just a friend, a child does need a mummy and daddy 24 hours a day not part time.
keep smiling and just think how special that baby will be when she/he arrives, i am sorry to hear about your miscarriage, but you need to be strong if you want to get pregnant, if your body is at a low it won't happen. xxx

Answer 4

First you need to forgive yourself for what happened to the other child. You are stressed behind it and you can't get pregnant while you are stressing or the same thing will happen. Its hard yes but I am speaking from experience. My son died 13 almost 14 years ago. I wanted a child very badly but I was holding on to his memories to tight. I finally prayed and let it go. The next month I go pregnant with my now 11 year old daughter. But I was also diagnosed with having an incompetent cervix. Talk to your OBGYN about that possibility. They can put a stitch or snap into your cervix similar to the one I had to get. It was a tad bit painful but well worth it. Good luck!

Answer 5

You need to talk with your bf. If you stopped taking the pill and haven't told him, you are trapping him in a relationship with a baby. You are not married, 24 and are you even ready for the resposibility of a child. Do you still live at home? Do you have a college education? Good job, Career, support system, finances, your own home? Think about your BF you are not the only one this affects. You are fantasizing about a child and not facing the reality of it. DO NOT TRAP THAT MAN IN THIS RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE PREGNANT AND ARE GOING AT IT IN A DECEITFUL WAY. HE WILL RESENT YOU AND THE RELATIONSHIP WILL ULTIMATELY DISSOLVE. YOU ARE NOT GOD, DO NOT PLAY GAMES WITH OTHER PEOPLES FUTURES!!!

Answer 6

You should tell your b/f about not being on the pill anymore and make sure when he says he wants a baby with you that he means now and not in the future. He may be mad if you get pregnant when he thinks you are still on birth control.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for you loss. I am sure that it was a living hell for awhile. I really think you need to tell bf that you have stopped taking birth control. By not telling him you are being deceitful and he could be extremely mad! He has a right to have a say in bringing a child into this world. As you said he may want another child, but don't you think his opinion counts now?Best of luck to you and may God shine his blessing upon you.

Answer 8

Don't trick your bf like that...it would be his child, too. Talk to him and tell him you've stopped taking the birth control. Also, don't expect to get pregnant right away. Healthy couples can take months to get pregnant, and you may take even longer because you were on the pill. You have got to learn to be patient with these things!

Answer 9

You really should talk to your boyfriend about this.... it's not just your life we're talking about. It will change his life forever too!
I'm in the same spot with you.. I've been trying to get pregnant for about 6 months now. And every month it just makes me more sad that it hasn't happened for me. I've taken too many pregnancy test that have all told me no. And to make it worse... I've told my family and his family that we are trying... so now every time I talk to someone they ask me about it!
So don't tell a bunch of people that you're trying! Just a friend or two so you can vent about it. You're boyfriend would be the first person I hope!
I also have been taking prenatal vitamins. The folic acid is really good for you to already have in your body when you get pregnant.


Here's a calculator to track your most feritile days:
http://www.ovulation-calculator.com/

About the folic acid:
http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/173_769.asp

A list of different things you can read up on and answer some questions you might be thinking:
http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/173.asp

I always wanted to take pregnancy tests... so I bought some on eBay for really cheap so I could test all the time and not spend a lot of money on it. I got 10 test for 3 dollars. Here's a link so if you wanted to look through to find a good deal too.
http://search.ebay.com/pregnancy-test_W0QQ_trksidZm37QQfromZR40QQfsooZ1QQfsopZ1QQsbrsrtZd

The best of wishes to you and yours. Hope this all helps!

Answer 10

Why not wait until there is a wedding. Why rush the event. Are you ready to raise this baby alone if he isn't happy about it? Tell him you've stopped taking the pill, he has every right to know and have a decision in this matter. It will effect his life as well.