We both work 1st shift now, but a friend of ours told me that there is a job opening at his work but it is 3rd shift. She would work 8am to 4:30pm and my new shift would be 9:30 pm to 7 am. Does anyone think that this would put our relationship going toward a bad direction? The new job I would be making about $100 more per week. But I hate the job I am at now. Need some advise thank you for helping me.
2007-11-16 00:54:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I worked opposite shifts for about 2 years early on in our relationship. We just celebrated 11 years of marriage and things are as good as ever. It is only a problem if you let it become one.
2007-11-16 01:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by YouWishYouWereMe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm .. well ..
my finace works at random shifts ! sometimes he has to work all night and i'd have to sleep without him .. not only that .. sometimes if we're out together they might call him from work and tell him that he has to be there as soon as possible so we stop whatever it is we're doing and he leaves .. i can go forever with my examples and yes i do miss him and wanna spend more time with him.. but ..
am i upset ? no .. am i complaining ? no
u know why ? cuz he's doing something he loves doing and his hapiness is my top priority that's why im ok with him and not being selfish
I think that's what a girl in love would do and so should ur fiance' .. it's called sacrafise !
also i never interfer with his work cuz if i ask him to quit his job and something goes wrong he'll keep blaming me for it so i'm staying out of this .. so should ur fiance
Here's a way .. tell ur fiance that u r starting a life together and u BOTH should sacrafise along the way .. u r the man of the house and THE supporter so u'll need a good paying job to stand on ur feet and buy ur dream house and make ur dream wedding .. etc and the only good paying jobs are those that take u away from ur family but that doesnt mean that u WILL be away.. you'll try to spend most of ur free time with her and she should be patient and ur love for each other is what will give u the strength
May God bless u with whatever job u take and have a good successful marriage
Sorry that was a long answer .. i got carried away ^__^
2007-11-16 01:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably is worried about the time you'll have. it doesn't seem THAT bad to me. you'd still have 4 hours together in between and most of your shift she'd be sleeping anyway. what time do you guys go to bed now? if you go to be at 11pm you're only losing 2 hours together.
also, once you get in to this other place there is a chance that eventually you could get into a position on first shift...when one opens up...would that be possible? if so, make it known to your new boss that you would LOVE to eventually work the first shift and to keep you in mind.
The money shouldn't be a big reason, but you said you hated your current job so it might be better to go for something you'd like more. It could improve your mood and stress level...
2007-11-16 01:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I work opposite shifts - I have an office job that's 8-5 Mon-Fri and he works as a manager at a restaurant and he's gone most weekends and nights. It really works out great - I love having evenings to myself and he gets days to relax. And especially that you'll be making more money - you should definitely do it. It takes some getting used to but it is truly more of a benefit then anything.
2007-11-16 00:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Working different shifts doesn't have to change the relationship. I did it, but then we broke up. What i realized over time was it wasn't the difference in shifts as much as it was his need to not be alone. We needed the extra income at the time and afterwards I was glad I had the job and that he moved on.
2007-11-16 01:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well more money is nice, and if you hate your job it could be a good change. But that shift will come with a lot of sacrifice to your marriage, and its not THAT much more money for all the relationship problems you will most likley have.
2007-11-16 01:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's important to b satisfy with ur job salary n duties//// choose the one u like ...(unless u reli cannot find the one of ur type)...... there r always workout for relationships..... u guys can still meet on ur holiday's (once a week>??).... n m sure time's gonna answer u whether it's going towards bad or gud direction ..... Gud Luckk... smtimes u shud give up sm short term happiness in order to think for future plans /////
2007-11-16 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by cool h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job. You're not going to learn to like the one you have now. If your fiance doesn't like it, tell her she can get 2 jobs and support you.
2007-11-16 01:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hate your job and can make more money then you need to do what you want. Your fiance should be backing your wishes, especially if you are unhappy.
2007-11-16 01:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try. It might make the time you spend together have a better quality
2007-11-16 01:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋