Women proposing to men?

Question

I know we live in the 21st century however aren't somethings suppose to stay traditional? I mean if a man wants to marry you, he will propose, simple as that.

The reason I bring this up is...my fiance's sister that was DYING to get married mind you (insight--she's the last one in the family to be engaged --has made several comments that it bugs her & her BF BETTER propose by...October or whatever the month maybe that time) & her BF wasn't asking so she asked him and he said "I guess". What's with all the pressure? I mean isn't love suppose to be patient? I don't think marriage should involve ultimatiums either. Keep in mind this man just lost his Mother too...kind of bad timing. I just want ti to work but I'm seeing when a woman proposes the odds are stacked that it usually don't bc the man didn't want ot get married to begin with. I mean look at the divorce rate already. Ugh. Your thoughts?

Keep she keeps saying they've been together for 3 yrs. however when they met he was already in a 3 yr relationship w/ someone else & SHE was the other woman that had to pressure HIM to leave..after almost a yr. of cheating.

I just think her expectations are unrealistic...and I'm sorry I do feel this is very UNTRADITIONAL...it's more romantic when the man sweeps the woman off HER feet....Come on!

Answer 1

i agree with you i think the man should ask the women with your friend though him saying i guess doesnt sound like he is to sure he wants to get married to her maybe thats why he hasnt asked her if he really wanted to he would have asked already or said yes very excited i guess doesnt sound like its gonna last which is kinda sad people jump into marriage to soon these days like after a year they think they will be together forever and thts not true in most cases thats why there are so many divorces

Answer 2

I asked someone the same question the other day and they gave an answer concering women wanted equal rights and stuff...i absolutely disagreee with any woman askign a man to marry them...i guess i just always thought that he would ask when he is ready...in my opinion women are much more ready to get married than men and if they truely love the man they should wait until he is ready...

anything that is forced on a man or anyone does not work out in the long run...i think ur sis in law just got jealous and frustrated that she wsnt being asked and made the move but his answer alone (i guess) implies that he wasnt into it and it may not work out....

Answer 3

I agree with you. There was a question on here a couple days ago about this and I said that I don't have the most faith in marriages when the woman asks...I guess I just feel like if the man didn't ask he's probably not exactly ready yet. I could never do it, some women can, which I envy to a point but I coulkd never do it.

Answer 4

Here is an opportunity for her to strike a blow for all women who crave equality and feel that there is nothing a man can do that a woman shouldn't be able to do as well.
She seems to be the one who's most anxious to tie the knot. There's no written law against it, and tradition really isn't an issue. Most gender-based traditions have been swept away by political correctness and feminist indignation.
Let your sister rise up to the challenge and feel in her bowels and her shaking knees, what for centuries has been the domain of men. The uncertainty. The prospect of humiliation and pain. The sweating palms and the prostration of her soul-felt feelings.
Alternatively she can wait until her boyfriend feels ready to make his mind up.
Good luck and don't take this too seriously!

Answer 5

Yeah, I do feel it should remain a traditional thing. I'm not quite sure why women rush it at all. I'm the only one in a family of 10 siblings whom hasnt gotten married....I wouldnt want to either knowing how much they keep fighting about money, kids, cheating and all that stuff. My relationship with my bf lasted longer and can say it was awesome day in and day out with everyday and we never spoke about marriage. it lasted 7 years before he past . Women need to get a life first and make sure they arent marrying the wrong guy just becasue they want to be married.

Answer 6

Though I'm for equality for the genders, what I like about men doing the proposing hand in marriage instead of the other way around is...we can say, "No."

Good indicator that your man is ready to marry, is when HE proposes. (Of course without having to feel pressure from his fiancee). For women, if we're ready to marry, and want to marry our significant other, but yet he is not...then you can either set yourself a time-line, or move on to find someone else who will love you, and is ready to marry when you are.

As a woman, there is nothing more devastating than hearing a "No", when you're hoping for a "yes". (Yes, I know, it can also be that way for a man too). But why set yourself up for that possibility?

But when it comes to asking a guy out for a date...why not? Heck, you're not asking to marry him. ;-)

Answer 7

I dont think there is anything wrong with a women proposing, however this situation sounds pressured.
It sounds like all she wants is the bells and whistle that come with a wedding. Maybe she thinks she wants to get married, but has she thought about if she is ready to get married. Wanting something and actually being ready for it are two different things. She sees everyone else doing it and wants it to.

You dont rush into something like this, it takes time and patience. And you sure as hell dont pressure someone else into it.

I hope everything works out for the better. This is a sticky situation she is getting herself and him into.....

Answer 8

Where I'm from, men should do the proposing. The way he answered just shows that he's not ready, nor does he sound excited, to get married yet! And I really think that it's bad timing on your fiace's sister's part to propose to him knowing that his mom just died.

I don't think you should tell her what you think though cuz you want to avoid a bad start with your fiance's family. She seems to have strong and pushy personality so giving her your opinion might cause problems with between you two.

Answer 9

It should be discussed and talked about for a long time. Then the man should do it. He said I guess, then it will not last. She is too much for any man. Do not pressure a serious matter such as love and marriage.

Answer 10

As a man, I'm insulted. What you're saying is that a man should ask a woman for marriage because if the woman asks the man, he is somehow incapable of saying "No." So, the marriage is going to fail because we spineless men who don't want to get married go ahead and marry anyway. Yeah, you just insulted your own gender.