Kissing cousins...?

Question

I understand that we can never totally eradicte the “eew” factor and WE ACCEPT THAT coz WE UNDERSTAND.
But you people are judging us off the limits that doesn’t conform the real facts and you tend to generalize right away. That is just wrong.

We want you to know that having a cousin as a girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband DOESN’T MEAN that we sleep with other family members as well. NO! We still respect family relationships! We see our brothers as brothers, sisters as sisters, other cousins as cousins (in the LITERAL way), etc… We still respect our family members!

It’s just that we fell in love to a cousin of ours. You cannot really control your feelings and your mind doesn’t always go with your heart. It is not our fault if our happiness belongs to a cousin of ours and it is the hardest thing in the world to stop yourself from falling in love.

I know that you will still think that why not fall in love to others who are not related. There are millions of people out there, etc…
Look! We cannot decide for our NATURAL feelings. It is NOT our decision to fall in love. It just happened. Love is something we cannot control nor decide.

And if we talk about having children, are you really sure that there is a GREAT risk for having children with birth defects??? Nope! Search them yourselves.
It is actually only SLIGHTLY higher than non-related parents which is the same as a 40-year-old woman being pregnant.
Well, having a risk or none, we can undergo Genetic Counseling anyway and there are other medical procedures that can be done for prevention of birth defects.

Also, it is NOT ALWAYS against the Law. It depends on which country you are living in and besides, cousin couples can find a place to get married.

And talking about the Bible. People believe that because there are a few people a long time ago, relatives tend to mate and have children. But that was during the Old Testament and God made a new Law about forbidden relationships in Leviticus 18.
BUT! There is NOTHING in the Bible that forbids cousin relationships.
In Leviticus 18, all forbidden relationships are listed and cousins are not included.
Also, you have NO RIGHT to judge us like you are the God. We are all sinners and what matters most is that we have FAITH in God. Well, if you’re not religious, then fine!

We don’t need you to accept cousin couples to the highest extent and we don’t need you to take it as something that should be practiced. We don’t need that to be done.

All we want from you is RESPECT.
And try not to speak or act as if you’re the God who wants to punish us
or the Mister-know-it-all-CLOWN that points his dirty fingers on us.

Answer 1

Personally, I don't agree with cousins being in that type of relationship. However you do seem to make a good argument. Although I don't agree with it, I would never deny someone else happiness by taunting or teasing them. As a matter of fact, I have two of my third cousins marry each other. They are first cousins to each other! I'm not sure what state they went to get married but we live in Indiana and they had to leave to go somewhere else. They have had two children that are very beautiful and completely normal. I'm not sure if they just got very lucky or what though. Good luck and I'm happy for you finding a partner in which you feel true love. There are many people in this world that go an entire lifetime and never feel what you are feeling and that is a good thing for you.

Answer 2

I know all the facts hon and it seems like you have it down just right.. is not your fault who you fall in love with, hopefully it turn out good for you guys, is just that love between cousins is very TABU for a lots of people but is also very common, you do what is right for you, only God can judge you the rest of us can just comment LOVE endure everything even insults if is real you and your boyfriend/cousin will be fine.. Everything in life is an experience you have to learn from it..Good luck.

Answer 3

No matter how you want to look at it there is a blood line so it's called incest. There is no way to justify being nasty with a family member the Bible states No brother on brother sister on sister, cousin, aunts, uncles, mother, fathers. Yeah you can control who you love . That's way it's called family there are limits. With that said the respect is lost, for you and him have disrespected the whole family. So if you want to justify your wrongs with fake rights then it's on you but remember no one has to honor or respect your decision.

Answer 4

My sister is the same way you are and no you cant help you who fall in love with...I am happy for her its her life not mine so let it be.

Answer 5

Your life, but it is still incest no matter how you sugar coat it.