Does it really matter if I struggle through highschool (socially, not through work) but am totally happy, spiritual and well-off at home? Will the fear I have in highschool not matter inn the future?
2007-11-15 21:15:40 · 10 answers · asked by m.n.m 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I managed to get through high school intact (had some friends, wasn't completely unpopular) but I **hated** it. High school kids are so myopic (near-sighted). Their whole world revolves around who is cool, showing off and who's not cool.
College was fantastic. No one cared anymore...most of the cliques went away. I made friends, I learned new things, I had a blast.
So no worries. You are normal and my bet is that you have a very bright future. I'd worry about you if you thought high school was the best thing ever. Those people are the ones whose only highlights in life occurred in high school, so all they do is look back to the "good old days".
If you are happy, and can keep a few good friends around you, you'll be fine. And definitely consider attending a university.
2007-11-15 21:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by sci55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High School is a social illusion. The whole gig ends at graduation. The healthier ones are the ones that didn't need their high school buddies to give them identity and they developed their own. You will do just fine. Struggling produces perseverance and character that are good for accomplishing many other things so if you are working through the struggle and are still happy then count your blessings.
2007-11-15 21:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Who's got my back? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 23:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grumpy teen had lots of problems in her final year at school through being bullied. She got bad grades and rarely went to school. It was a tough time, but she has since started college doing a car mechanics course and is surprised at how different the adult world really is. Of course school is important and can be difficult, but I don't think you have a personality problem its just that some people deal with school better than others. Things will improve for you. Why not have a chat with one of your teachers or school counselors? Good Luck. x
2007-11-15 21:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by DJJD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - What a journey you are on. I think you just know who you are which is a great insight to have. You may want to think about in whose opinion you struggled socially and you may find it is just you.
High school is a wierd place so put that behind you, as you mix with other groups you will find that people will come to like and respect you for who you are and not what the pack expect you to be.
Be confident that you know who you are whilst your peers in the main have no clue and will have the turmoil of finding out.
All the best
2007-11-15 21:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me, i am also like that, i am not that totally sociable, but i what know is i am having fun being with my friends and classmates. personality matters, because what you do shapes your life. and what matters most is yourself, you must know, discover and understand who you are. fears would may come and go, what you need is be prepared for them and go, you can make through it...
2007-11-15 21:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be tough on each other
might get better though
just be really considerate of others
2007-11-15 21:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by virgil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if they cause distress to you or interfere with you living your life or participating in society in a productive manner.
2007-11-16 03:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're struggling socially, are you really happy?
and yes, social akwardness, if not smoothed out during the teen years, could possibly follow you. [welcome to my life]
2007-11-15 21:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by oleander 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
2007-11-15 22:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋