Does it ever make you mad when you read someone's "heartbreaking" story of how they're having soooo much trouble conceiving #2, or #3, when here I am, with no kids, not knowing if I'll ever have any? It makes me mad! At least they have one, which not only do they have the joy of that one, but also the reassurance that they are (or at least were) physically capable of having one. I know that makes me a b#@ch, but I can't help it. I think it's entirely a different (and lesser) kind of pain.
2007-11-15 20:01:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I understand your pain, I feel the same way to, they need to be more then happy to no they can conceive, I have pcos and was ttc#1 for nearly 5 years now, and they are her making bunch of noise because they can't conceive #2,3,4. expecailly the ones who be like "how can I conceive a baby girl" shouts be happy you conceive, I'll do anything to get a baby, boy or girl,
2007-11-16 01:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "different" rather than "lesser." Doesn't make you a bi@ch though, just means you're human.
I know as being someone trying to conceive a first with no luck so far. My sister has two beautiful, healthy boys whom she loves very much, but she has always wanted a daughter & her husband would like to have one as well(especially now that the boys are getting older-8 & 10.) Last year after some time trying she came up pregnant & at 11 weeks she miscarried. She quit trying awhile then started again without any success. She feels devastated although hopeful. I told her she is blessed to have the two wonderful children she has & she realizes this, but it's still pain for her. I respect her pain as she does mine. At least she does know she can conceive, but it was a bereavement for her & her husband.
We've been trying for awhile now without success & do worry the possibility it may never happen. I feel twinges of jealousy at times about not having children when I've always wanted to be a mother & everyone else seems to have them .
What gets me mad sometimes are the women/girls out there who make it seem so easy... the ones who end up having a bunch of kids they can't/won't take care of & take advantage of the assisted incomes their kids bring them or worse yet crackheads who dump their babies in garbage cans or where ever. Thats what makes me feel angry & disgusted, not the genuine wanting to have children to love, nurture, & provide for to enhance the quality of their life & family.
If you are very concerned you should speak with your Doctor about it. You may only need a fertility pill to jumpstart your conception.
Keep trying & good luck. Baby dust to you :)
2007-11-16 05:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by melmac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, i was just the same, after 3 years ttc i had ivf, got pregnant with #1, 11 weeks after his birth i discovered i was pregnant with #2!
your not a *****, its realy heart breaking but you should not judge as you dont know every ones full story. i for example am now divorced from my kids father and am now with a new man who has no kids of his own, we are ttc now and he is desporate and heart broken that nothings happening, (and so am i) i used to feel just like you about people like me, but now im this side i understand.
good luck!
ps, heres some baby dust!
2007-11-16 04:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by JENNY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt make me mad but they dont always realise how lucky they are. Im 40 now and been trying over a year to have my first my times running out
2007-11-16 04:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by scissorhands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i dont agree with you.people are different you might want to have atleast one kid because you dont have that can make you say its better one than not at all but think you have 2 or 3 and suddenly your body reacts like you barren its devastating because you have always known you can have kids.and yes they have feelings just like other women.
2007-11-16 04:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by umm lutfia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! I had to put up with a colleague who had survived cancer, but it had left her infertile. She already had 2 kids, but complained constantly about the distress of not being able to have any more children.
Try living with the distress of not being able to have any children, and count your blessings, I always thought, rather grudgingly...
2007-11-16 04:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Helen S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
((((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))))))
I hope you conceive very soon - all of you!!!!
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
PS Your not a *****, your a woman, and sometimes we hurt.
2007-11-16 04:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋