I grew up with an extremely shy and overprotective mother, and I'm just as shy as her.
I'm sick of it! I went through all of junior high and high school being on the outside looking in, and now I'm doing the same thing through my 20's. It's killing my self-esteem, confidence, and fun, tremendously.
I know I'm a nice person, and I'm thankful for that, but I'm sick of being know as just a nice guy.
I'm very intelligent (which I know hurts in this situation), but I've played in rock bands before. I play guitar, bass, drums, and I can sing. I definitely have a cool personality, but I can't share it with people because I'm too damn shy to put myself out there.
I was just diagnosed bipolar too which is ridiculous, but I wouldn't feel so down about life if I could relax and just let loose, you know?
I don't want to let this go on anymore... I want to start working to change it before I get even more stuck in my ways.
Help!
2007-11-15 19:48:44 · 10 answers · asked by Robby B 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Unlucky man, I know how you feel. I suffered for a long time with shyness I don't think to the extent you have and it is one of the hardest things to change in someone's life but it is changeable, you just need to start doing things out of your comfort zone, so many times I got stuck right back where I started from because it was comfortable and I didn't have to try, but I just kept challenging myself, one exercise a good friend told me to try was to voluteer for the charities, you knwo the ones when your shopping and these people just come up to you, ''Are you interested in giving money to the homeless'' or some crap like that, so I did it and it really took me out of my comfort zone at first but then I realised most of the people you get to speak to are really nice and the ones who aren't don't stop anyway. It opened my eyes up no end. I seriously recommend this to you from one shy guy to another.
2007-11-15 20:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get to know what you are best at. Confidence has nothing to do with whether you are shy or not. It is true it helps when you have people backing you us, as a person who is more social, but if you know where your strengths are, you are gonna be alright in the confidence area!
First thing you should do is take a personality test. Thes best i know of that is used in the government and coproations is the Myers Brigg Personality Test. it is very accurate and give you a base what sort of stregnths you have.
Next thing, write down all the things you like to do. then whittle it down to what you are good at. Focus on that and work on the other things you are not so good at but like.
focus on yourself and not what other think. talk to your mom, but don;t tell her anything super personal because she may just bring you down.
Its alright to be shy, just know who you are. that is the key!
Hope I helped and good luck!
2007-11-15 20:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Doodlebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take little steps. Like let people contact you online. Note the things you are good at and know about and identify in social situations when it is a good time to put your best foot forward... This may sound strange but you could join a poetry or book reading group... Toastmasters... but you have to get active... make it happen... but your right, you might become a hobbitt and play in a Rockband called the hobbitts... and you all wear masks... check out 'Mr Bungle'...lol.
2007-11-15 20:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by latem321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you because I was also shy myself. I bought an ebook that really helped me a while ago and I'd recommend it to you as well - It will take me long if I had to write down the tips but what I know now is that shy people are normally intelligent and are just too wise to appear foolish. Here's the link: http://www.public-speaking-solutions.com/publicspeakingebook.html
2007-11-15 22:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like nice guys or shy guys,
you can try practicing your social skills
by getting into activities or sports at school,
or joining some kind of local club of your interest,
smile always
God Bless
2007-11-15 19:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the house and maybe do some volunteering somewhere, like the hospital or nursing home or soup kitchen, get out and spend some energy, make people smile and that will make you smile in return. Good Luck!!
2007-11-17 12:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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There are some I am interested.
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So if you get everything in life without having to work for it, you will eventually get fed up. That, my friends, is one of the main reasons why "Nice Guys" don't score. Girls get bored so quickly because there is no challenge.
2007-11-16 12:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Green Beret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 10:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by kostenbauber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only possible way to overcome this is to reveal ur talents to the world by getting out of the closet.....so do that quickly as possible...
2007-11-15 23:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by joyce21119 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say u play football
2007-11-15 19:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋