What should i do for a first "date"?

Question

I am very shy and this girl is kinda quiet too. I am going to see her on tuesday after I'm done my class. She is a 16 year old junior in high school, and I'm an 18 year old college freshmen. I have wanted to ask her out ever since I went to my senior prom with her back in May. I havent seen her in a while though, so i have a few questions. Answer whatever ones you feel like: What should we do for our "date"? When would it be the right time to start dating her? How can i let her know after the first few times that I hang out with her that I want a relationship? Since we're just going as friends, do I pay or do we each pay for our own dinner or movie or w/e? How do i let her know im interested? Any help would be

Answer 1

I would suggest that you guys have a picnic in the gardens or the beach. It'll be cheap and you guys can talk and get to know each other better.

You could go out for dinner together. I suggest you offer to pay for the first date and she may say that she'll pay for herself which is fine.

If you want to tell her that you're interested I think you should tell her straight out. I know you said you're shy but if you can't be open now then your relationship will lack vital communication.

Good luck

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Answer 2

A good idea for a first date is something you can do together that will start you talking. Good suggestions are a local theater event (concert, comedy improv, play), an art or science museum, a sports event (only if you both like sports) it doesn't have to be anything expensive, just something that you can go to that sparks conversation. Movies are not always a great idea because they are a long time where you really aren't relating to eachother, plus it's not at all unique. Something different will stick in ner mind more. A college party might be a little too intimidating for her.

Let it be casual the first few dates. There's no reason to push anything. You're both young, so no need to rush into anything serious.

The best thing to remember about dating is that even if things don't go too swimmingly, you can learn something from everyone you meet.

Answer 3

Do something small like meet her at Starbucks for some hot chocolate. That way it is nothing too serious and it will only take 15 to 20 minutes which could mean less awkward time spent. You will know if she wants to take the relationship to the next level because she will drop you hints or tell you up front. In other words girls help you when they like you. Don't put so much pressure on yourself with this one date because it will take more than one date in order to know if you two were made for each other.

Answer 4

first dates are always so much fun,...my boyfriend and i (of 2 years) had our first "date" at his house...lol we stayed at home and watched a movie...it was very sweet and it gave us time to talk and snuggle...and if you do that maybe you can sneak in a first kiss also!! but if you would like to go on a "date" take her out somewhere to eat it doesn't have to be a fancy place but it should be a little nicer than Mcdonalds...lol,....and if you have the money and you want to pay for it then by all means have at it....it will show her that you have a sweet side.and that your not a tight-wad..lol.. you could go to the movies and you could sit close and hold her hand, or you could take her bowling.....and if you both suck at bowling that will make it all the more fun...lol....just go out .....or stay home ...tell her how you feel about her and if the first date goes good ask her for a secound and you will know when it is time to be considered boyfriend and girlfriend!! good luck, don't worry, and just have fun!!

Answer 5

number one, YOU call the shots. don't do it in a forceful way, but you make the plans. like if she asks what you want to do, say something like "let's grab some dinner at such and such and then we'll (pick one) go see a movie, take a drive, go for a walk, or whatever."

the point is to show her that you're a guy who always "has it covered". girls like that. girls hate when i guy says "well... what do YOU want to do".

i would avoid taking her to a movie or a crowded noisy place because it limits how much time you have to talk and get reacquainted.

next, NEVER under any circumstances give her the impression that you want a relationship. EVER!!!! girls like a guy who's a challenge. pushing her for a relationship shows signs of weakness and desperation which is a major turn off. you have to give her the impression that she's lucky to be with you, not the other way around. (why else do you think girls dump "nice guys" for jerks?)

best thing to do is give her signals that you are interested in her, but don't overdue it. flirt with her here and there and be as funny and playful as you can. but don't try to get too serious.

next, don't talk about you. let her do the talking and act interested in what she has to say. alot of guys try to impress their date by talking her ear off about themselves. girls like a guy who's mysterious. so talk as little about yourself as possible.

next, smile alot and act like you're having the time of your life. this suggests that you're a fun guy to be around and will make her look forward to more dates. NEVER EVER complain about your life or how lonely you are or anything negative.

and last. as far as picking up the tab. tell her "i'll get it THIS time" in a funny way and say no more. this HINTS but not suggests a second date.

take it from a wise ole owl like me who's been in the dating world since before you were born and has learned from his mistakes.

Answer 6

Go to a movie..or bowling or mini-golfing.
Those are always good things todo on a first date.
And at the end of the night, walk her to her door and give her a good night kiss.
She def. know your interested..

Answer 7

you should pay for her too if she lets you.tell her thing like"wow you look stunning".that will you are interested.i am a shy person too and i had the same problem i couldn't tell it to her.it was Christmas time and i brought her a greeting card and wrote down my feelings in it and i worked perfectly.

Answer 8

try something low down....
pinics are awesome for any reason...

and you should pay....

go out w/ her as friends 2 or 3 times as friends
and try to figure out if she likes you like you do her...
then move in if you get that feeling....

good luck!!!