i need real answers- how do i become sexually attractive?

Question

ok, i've pretty much faced the fact that i'm just not hot and not even cute like other boys my age(i'm 19). how do i make women think of me as sexy or AT LEAST cute and flattering to get attention from like other guys my age. i'm so tired of women seeing most guys my age as much sexier than me and only wanting their attention. the fact that they can make grown up, educated, pretty women crave attention from them makes me feel so pathetic.

i need some real answers. usually, i just get the "be confident and be yourself" stuff, but the fact is, that doesn't help anyone. there are plenty of confident guys out there whom women NEVER look at sexually and would prefer attention from a cute guy any day. please, i need someone to help me for real.

i don't know what u mean by "personality". i'm looking for more specific tips.

it's not that i'm not happy alone. i don't want a girlfriend. i'm not looking for a serious relationship yet. i just want to be more attractive to women in general.

Answer 1

You could always pretend you got religion and are saving yourself for the right woman....

seems to work for some people, heck they might even take you on as a challenge :-)

Answer 2

If you feel you are ugly, then women will also think you are ugly. I know....not the answer you are looking for. But is seems to be true.

If you think you have a face only a mother could love, well then you can work on body building. Think about it. Some of the movie stars that are considered to be highly desireable are not all "cute". It's the whole package that women are looking at. So develop those other qualities that you can change.

As far as cute and all the women being attracted instantly. This is true, but if you really find out what the women are thinking, they are likely thinking the person is cute, and then moving on to giving their heart and attention to the person that is "more than cute". They look at eye candy just as much a men, but I think you will find that they are much more interested in the entire man when it comes to reality.

So develop a nice body, pay attention to hygene and hair and teeth, develop interests in many things, become an expert in something or show a passion, get rich.

Those hot guys that get the attention in a social setting are getting 30 seconds of attention for many women. You should strive to get the full attention from a few women....get it?

Okay, I'm going to go off and try to follow my own advice for once.

Answer 3

You don't need to. But it was said to you so, and you find not satisfying. The fact is in a few years you'll learn that for a girl a sexy-looking moron is quite the same of a brainless bimbo for anyone of us: good to show off and talk with friends, but in the long term you would blow your ears off than having to hear her inane chatterings. Same thing feel the girls: they're human too, you know.
But first impression has its worth, because, admit it, seeing a bimbo and an average Jane keeping their mouth shut, you'll always hit the bimbo first. So would do a girl: you can't blame her if seeing an average Joe and a good looking jock sitting silently and doing nothing else, they'll try seeing if the jock has a brain. So, talking him first.
Groom yourself, do some physical exercise, build your confidence if not with the mental stuff you can believe no more in it, with pratical acts able to gratify yourself, and which effect you can see. Practice some sports, when you're talking to a girl, always try to know what are her interest, what she likes to do, and if you find something common, work on it. Everyone wants to have a partner with whom share her/his life, the whole of her life. Be brilliant, and supporting. Be a good listener, but a fast talker, do a little flattery, but without drown her in unwanted attentions.
With a little bit of care on your body, and a lot more on your manners, you'll get always the last word... which it's better of the first one of the jocks.

Answer 4

Broaden your perspective about what it means to be happy and how to find happiness. If you're not happy being on your own, alone, you're going to come across as needy and insecure, dependent...and those aren't traits that will typically attract others.

Etercap gave you some good tips. (Except for that last one involving isolating yourself in your home. I think that's the last thing you should do- you probably need to get out more and interact with more people- and not just at the mall. Perhaps joining an activity/sport or shared hobby?)

EDIT: I would also like to say that perhaps you could try shifting your focus away from sexual relationships (I know, it's not easy)- and first work on building social skills that help you relate to women as something other than potential sexual partners. (i.e. friendships?) Sometimes women really will not want to involve themselves with you if they perceive that your only interest in them concerns the potential for a sexual relationship. Women want to be valued for who they are, not what they can provide.

If you don't want a girlfriend then what is it you are saying you desire here? Your focus seems to revolve around issues of a sexual nature: sexual attraction and attractiveness. You don't have to have sexual attraction and attractiveness to build a friendship with someone. Learning to create real friendships with people of the opposite sex is a great place to start in building social skills, better self-esteem, leading to healthier relationships in the long run.

Answer 5

- If you don't have a pretty face, then pay more attention to the rest. Even so, you should change that pathetic sobbing face and put something that resembles a smile.

- Do exercise regularly, not only weightlifting but cardiovascular too. Ask for advice in the proper forum, or better, consult personally a professional.

- A healthy skin and teeth will do marvels for your appearance.

- Know how to play a musical instrument? Is good for relieving stress and people may look at you differently if they note your artistic inclinations.

- Timely sense of humor.

- Get informed of the current events (sports, some politics, even a bit of useless gossip). That way, if caught in middle of a conversation, you will not stare blankly at the other people.


If that doesn't work, try some of those books about self-improvement and how to feel confortable with yourself.

If that still doesn't work...well, I suggest you don't go outside your home, because people may try to shoot you down to end with your misery.

Answer 6

There are a lot of things going on here, not just "you're not cute". What about the girls that you are or aren't attracted to? Are your standards for them high? Look further at girls you are currently not physically attracted to. You will find things more beautiful than physical looks. And when you look for these things in yourself, you will find them also.

At 19, life is very rough. It was a very rough age for me. I'm 45 now, and looking back, the best thing I could have ever done is just focus on what I'm good at, not worry about what I'm NOT, and be patient. Most of what you are feeling is hormones. They are very strong. But YOU, your mind, your spirit are stronger.

"Every dog has his day."

You must endure and prevail! All the best to you!

Answer 7

Be a mystery, did I spell that right, oh well. Women love guys they "don't know". Tell them you're a virgin, chicks love that too. One thing about women is we can sense someone that isn't confident. So you have to think you're the man, so girls can think you're the man. Get it? Wake up in the morning and be like, "I am so hot" Eventually you will start believing it, and so will girls. I've met many hot guys that aren't pretty boys. Good luck! And remember you are so hot!

Answer 8

Looks is a small percentage in the sexual attraction department.

The rest is in the mind. A smart man is extremely attractive. A man who has outside interests is exciting.

Work on intellectual pursuits. Then when the opportunity arises, spout out what you know. You'll be seen as highly intelligent and this will spur interest in a woman.

Answer 9

Let's see, what do you consider sexually attractive? A good body? Tan?

You have to determine that, and then act accordingly (i.e. working out if you think a good body is important).

After that, you have to know what to say, and be able to hold down a conversation cause if you're babbling on like an idiot, you'll lose. Good luck.

Answer 10

1) Buy some good designer clothes.
2) Spend money on getting a really good haircut
3) Practice walking tall- deportment is crucial.
4) Learn some really funny jokes- women like men who can make them laugh.
5) Find out a little about women's fashion- women hate men who talk about football or baseball all the time.
6) Smile- we like guys who smile.

Hope this helps and GOOD LUCK.