I had a baby 26 days ago... she arrived about 4 weeks early. She's pretty active, and by that I mean she likes attention... she likes being held... she likes to be around people and noise... and wakes up a lot at night. I'm glad she's healthy and doesn't have any serious problems since she's kind of premature. But ever since she was born I've been having in laws visiting from left and right. Thanksgiving vacation is near n i got more in laws planning to come with 2 adults, 3 loud noisy annoying children that i'm really not so fond of having near my baby due to flu season and all. Additionally, I've had no down time, no rest and quiet since i've returned from the hospital. How do i convey the message of wanting to be alone with my baby and husband without offending anybody? Does anyone out there think i'm being a bit hasty? I just want to be alone I guess because nothing in my house has really been in order due to so much visitation. What do you guys think...
2007-11-15 17:27:55 · 7 answers · asked by SugaNsPice 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks every1. You know what I'm gonna say something whether my husband says it or not. I'm tired of thinking about other people's feelings over mine all the time.
2007-11-15 17:44:47 · update #1
A baby is an overwhelming bundle of joy. You also need to have some time for yourself. l know since l'm a mother of four.
Your husband should be the one to deal with your in-laws. He should tell them that your family would like to spend the holiday by yourselves to enjoy some quiet time together. You'll make up for it next year.
Good luck.
2007-11-15 17:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I my self just had a baby two months ago and I have two other children so I know how you feel. Don't worry about offending anyone tell them you are tired and just want to be alone with the new baby and your husband if that dont understand that then oh well. You have to do what you have to do
2007-11-15 17:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by dh7567 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell everyone you're sorry but you would like to spend the Thanksgiving holiday at your home with just your husband and baby. If they want to know why, just tell them you've been very busy and tired and would like some relaxation without having to bustle the baby around in a car seat. And you would like to keep her protected from possible sickness due to the cold and other people being around. They might be a little upset but should understand. Just promise you'll make it for Christmas.
2007-11-15 17:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you need a little bonding time, remind them of when they were first parents and how important earlier bonding time is. You can always pull out standard Catholic guilt that you're tired and need a little down time without visitors and they can come around on certain days of the week but not everyday.
2007-11-15 17:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Meg M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the baby need your rest!!! I would just explain this to them!!! they SHOULD understand!!! But I get where you are comming from, my little one will be arriving by c-section on monday! and my family is already starting to drive me nuts!!!
Best of luck and CONGRATS!!!
2007-11-15 18:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥Kaylee's mom♥ஐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly just let them know your stressed out and you just need sometime with your new baby and husband ALONE.
2007-11-15 17:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Baby boy on board [[April 16th]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awws how cute! =]
Well shes a babie.
Those kinda action will gone away...
Ahaha good luck with your babie<3
2007-11-15 17:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by I Tries So Hard 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋